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I’m with Tam. When I went through my first heartbreak I showed up to work miserable, I had a poor attitude, I was running to the bar to cry every 30 minutes. So I feel like ONE day isn’t bad to take off and have to yourself, to get it together enough to allow work to distract you. Let people be alone, nobody wants to be around that energy anyway.
I'm with Adrienne 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
Didn't Adrienne go to Paris to reflect after shr broke off her engagement? I love you guys, but I must say I disagree with you. Going through a breakup is mourning a relationship and a future you had envisioned, it's a really hard thing to go through and I think you should be able to wallow one day without other people thinking you're weak
Instead of saying "I'm sick", it may be best to just say "I'm not feeling well" to get the day off
I barely call off when I’m legitimately sick, I’d never call off because of a man. No man is worth me losing money 🤷🏻♀️
Adrienne really needs to THINK before she speaks! She sounds arrogant 🤦 there is nothing wrong with needing a day or two to collect yourself and really take in what just happened to you! She's so in love with her husband, I'm pretty sure if something crazy happened and he left her, she would need sometime off! She wouldn't be herself on the show.
So according to adrienne, if a man divorces a woman after cheating on her and they have kids is not upsetting enough to miss a day of work? Question is out of curiousity
I found out my ex husband cheated on me right after having our third child, who was born sick, and my father was dying and my mom diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and I was in a foreign country with no family and friends.. So yeah, I need an f’ing day off from work!. Mental health is real Adrienne. I am disappointed. Extreme heartbreak can definitely lead to depression and is a form of grief.People watch this from all over the world and not everyone can afford to go to mental health professionals and in many cases it is not even an option. Sometimes the only choice is to take time off to get your mind in order, cry as much out as possible, stay with your pain, before you can function in a work environment. So yes, allow people to take time off if they are severely heartbroken and can barely survive their emotional pain.
It’s not about depending on a person...it’s about a day to yourself...it’s about having a day for yourself and your mental health. We’ve all been there. If you need a time, if you need a break because you know you are not ok , then you do it.
Also I don't agree with what adrienne said that if you cant function after a relationship ends then there wasnt something right to begin with or it wasn't healthy.. Thats not true in most cases.. It depends on how deep your heart was in it.. And how much your life revolved around this person.. If you love deeply and care about something so much and it is destroyed.. Of course its gonna hit you extreamly hard at first.... Thats just natural... If you go on like.. yeah this is hard but ill be okay.. and it doesn't really effect you.. idk If feel like.. you were already out of it/anticipating it.
I agree with what was said that all breakups are not created equal. So I think it depends on the situation. I know when I was in an abusive relationship and cheated on/broken up with the chaos of it all it was really debilitating to where I couldn't function.. I couldn't hold a smile.. I couldn't even leave my bed.... I was NOT okay. So I needed to take a day and call in sick to get myself together.. Also all jobs are not equal either so for me I work in customer service... I really wasn't going to be too helpful anyways, and I know I had people to cover me if needed so I feel it was justified. Plus mental health is just as important as physical health. I think you just gotta do what is right for you.. I also was in said relationship for ten years.. So It was a big part of my life that got shaken up.
💔 *Love hurts! I think it's okay to call in sick for a couple of days until you're all cried out. Especially, if you're in the hospitality industry or any other job dealing with the public, where you have to smile and pretend to be happy. I'm sorry I can't smile when my heart is broken in two, I need at least a couple of days to recover.*
All y’all coming from Adrienne umm Divorce and a breakup are NOT the same!
Bunch of snowflakes in the comments 🤦♀️
Some jobs require full attention some jobs are dangerous. You cannot always be at work if your not mentally 100 percent therefore take the day if you need it
Adrienne is a Scorpio through n through big heart but, unsympathetic to other people’s problems and I know she would want pity if Israel sang his way into another girl’s heart.
Adderine is so annoying like put yourself there
I had to take days off because of everyone at work knows my ex and they kept asking what happened. I couldn’t function. I never called in sick. I just said I need some days off. They don’t need to know why you are taking the days off. You just need to worry about your health and well-being.
I DISAGREE with Adrienne. Mental and emotional health is important. If it’s just a day to let it out and recuperate, I say do what’s best for you. Life is too short for yo to be more worried about a JOB than your wellbeing. And honestly, I think Adrienne has these types of responses because she has a good job. Like girl, if I had a job of sitting at a table and talking for daytime television I wouldn’t miss a day either.
If something happens between me n my husband then I need a day off No shameWork isn’t my life it’s what I do just to make money
Wait until Israel dumps her.
I was like what the hell when I heard all those ppl in the audience and Adrienne say no. Then I came to the comment section and my faith was restored LolToo bad I will either go later to work or take a sick day if I can
Loni and Tamera are the only intelligent ones at this table. I like Adrienne but she speaks nonsense at times.
Yeah it depends like can’t compare year relationships to a long ass marriage or long term relationships
It depends on the person PERIOD
You do realize we fall in love and take ppl back or leave them for us, right! It’s all about OUR feelings, not theirs.
I guess it’s easier when you’re going to a job you love, getting pampered and done up and a bunch of people showing you love 🤷🏾♀️ I work at a call center 9-5 everyday and I hate it so yea I need a day off 🙄
Yes I think it’s ok because you are sick! I could barely talk without crying.
Everyone takes break-ups differently. It depends on the length of the relationship, whether it was a long engagement or a short courtship. Break ups are equivalent to loss, and maybe you need a day or two to grieve. Never try to be so strong that you don't attend to your mental or emotional health. If you need a day, and you are able to, take the day to collect yourself, cry, rest, so you can function properly.
Not everyone works on tv with an amazing dream job, talking about stuff with your friends looking pretty.
I’m sorry I’m with Adrienne I don’t care how heart broken I am I’m going to work lol
Depends on the situation and on the breakup. My last relationship I actually wanted to go to work when things started going south and even immediately after the break up because I got to communicate with people in a way that wasn’t negative and it was a valid excuse for not checking up on my messages or social media. Bot now, if my marriage ended god forbid, I would definitely need a couple days before being able to function. Heartbreak can be real af guys. There is nothing wrong with taking some time to heal yourself, there just has to be a line drawn somewhere to keep self care from turning into avoidance.
As soon as Adrainne starts talking Tamara and Jennie take sips of their drink... I guess she got married and now thinks she’s an expert of sorts in life now
YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS IMPORTANT!!!!
I have to disagree with Adrienne on this. I’ve suffered from severe depression practically my whole life. So when my gf and I broke up it made me spiral and refused to get out of bed and called into work for a week.
If I was on this show I would be screwed face every time Adrienne speaks because she speaks without thinking everytime and makes no sense
Tam is slaying with the styles
Trust me babe everyone is different! Broken heart syndrome - real health critical symptoms that rear from emotional breakdown is really real. A man I thought I would marry after relationship dumped me by text. I had to go home early as I had a panic attack, due to I had so much invested in him. And people who suffer with anxiety as it is just makes it worse. I think don’t take the mic however you should be allowed a day to reevaluate and get your bearings.
Mental Health is real. If your head hurt and you took the day off that would be ok...you can take time off for your mental stability too imo no difference. Not to mention you could cost your employer business if you go to work with a bad mindset. Nothing excessive though and not if you have one of those stupid break up to make up relationships! Yeah I said it 😂
Girl bye, if Israel cheated on Adrienne she’d most definitely take a day off lbs
Tamera and Adrienne responses really shocked me. So sad to hear this from me. Disliked! Booo!! Everyone handles breakups differently - even men!!!!!!!!!!!
Adrienne has never went to work with a broken heart! Its fucking hard to work and not break down.
I get the point you're trying to make Adrienne but sometimes it is not about the thought of not being able to live without the person but more about taking some time to pull yourself together mentally and emotionally. For example, if a person walks in on her boyfriend with a close friend or relative in her bedroom. The betrayal takes time to get over because there are emotions involved. Taking a day off could be the smart thing to do, because you need to let yourself cope and not pretend something hurtful didn't just happen to you. It's better than having to suppress emotions throughout the work day. I think acknowledging you're hurt and dealing with it, is healthy.
It always depends on how or what is the reason for the break up because every people has our own way on how we face our problems. But if you think that you really need help then it's really a great idea to look for someone to talk to and share your problem.
I think it's totally finally to miss a day of work after a break up because u wouldn't be able to focus on ur work, like ur mentally not in the right head space.
I love Tamera's hair
Ok Adrienne calm down
Adrienne, it's not about letting a man have so much power.. it's about how the situation affected you. Wow her answer was disappointing!
Definitely a day off or two... for any emotional trauma
I think its okay to call in for at least one day just so you can get back to feeling normal. I called in bc of a breakup but i was physically hurt bc of it. I could walk but i was choked and my throat was so sore to where i couldn't move my head side to side without having the look of pain on my face. I sucked it up the remaining days while it still healed but i believe in some cases its okay to call off work. Just don't abuse it
First of all, I'm entitled to day-off so it shouldn't matter.
It depends on how long you were together with that person Miss Adrienne. As well as what the person might have done to you such as physical abuse.
Im strong , but breakups hurt
No! Adrian No! Its the man ... its the experience and the shock! Its a mental and emotional thing. Ofcz you can take time off to deal with that trauma.
Adrienne must’av taken something before coming on the show 🤣🤣 there’s no way she’s spat that ignorance with a clear head
I'm sorry but heartbreak hurts.
I called off work the day that I was dumped and I'm just saying people deal with things differently. Like it is hard to take A's advice sometimes because she had broken up with all of her boyfriends her entire life.
A fuked up generation full of wimps and condolences 🙄🙄🙄🙄 next generation is doomed 😡
I need the day sorry
Wow adrienne I completely disagree.. we all know youd take a damn break if your husdand left you. How can you minimize a mental health day like that... taking a break is OKAY. & shouldnt be put down like that...
Normally i agree with adrienne and while on the surface I think her opinion makes sense, I think we all have different levels of tolerance. I may be able to funciton at work, but I might be crying or puking or having diarrhea as a response to my pain, which in my opinion causes more of a scene than just taking a day or 2 off....If you're the type that can keep your emotions in and get thru the day, that's one thing. Me, i'm a cryer and I get intestinal issues when I'm nervous or anxious, so staying home until that stuff settles down maay be in my best interest. Another thing is if the break up kept you up all night long and you didn't get any sleep so you won't be able to even function effectively, then that could also be reason to stay home. I think the big factor here is how serious and how long term was the relationship. If you dated someone for 2 weeks and you're crying your eyes out and can't function at work, that may be a little ridiculous. But if you and someone dated for a few years and you thought they were the one and you were blind sided, I could see how that could knock someone for a loop.
I took mental health days... and I don’t feel bad about itAND everyone doesn’t work on a talkshow lol... I didn’t like my damn coworkers that damn much 😂
Break Ups hurt. And sometimes, it's like losing someone. The level of hurt someone can cause for a point in time, is real.
As a person who has taken occasional mental health days from work and school I disagree. Everyone deals with stress differently and sometimes you just need some time to pause from your regular day to day. It is exhausting to go to work or school and fulfill your regular obligations when you're not right in your mind or heart. But if you can muscle through it more power to you, but don't shame those of us who can't on particularly, bad days.However it is up to the individual's discretion on how they call in sick. For example, I wouldn't call in sick on the day of a team project or test. On the other hand, my boss only needs to know I'm sick and I don't have to explain any further. Mental health days can be used as sick days because being sick in the heart and mind is real and that time away is medicine.
Adrienne says missing a day of work after a breakup is completely unacceptable. SHE LEFT THE EFFIN COUNTRY AFTER HER BREAKUP. She went by herself to Paris to "get her head straight" because she happened to have a job with a long break between seasons. What if she didn't, like most of us???*Edited to add: She also has said she's never been on the receiving end of a breakup. She's always had time to process it and emotionally prepare for it, so whatever.
I’ll stay instead of taking a few days off to stay home, how about go on an impromptu trip? Don’t need to go far, could be drive up someplace nice. I think a change of environment will help
Jeannie sure brings up her divorce a lot lol
Fortunately the company I work for push us to take time off so we can perform better at work.
Adrienne wants to be so independent that I think she forgets to sometimes show empathy. Now if someone was married don't you think it would be in their best interest to take a day off from work? I mean cmon.
No. Get over it and get your ass to work! That's flat out ridiculous. Then go home an cry or party with your crew.
I think it depends on the person. Some people have mental health issues that act up more after a break up. But I agree that work will help distract you. But a day or 2 in a long relationship depending on the person I would say it's a good idea.
Well, in times like this. You need to call your mama if you have one. Not to tell her what is wrong with you exactly (if you ain't ready to share) but hearing your mom's voice in times of distress helps a lot
It depends on the circumstances. I agree with Loni. People function differently. Some need the distraction some can’t cope and need to grieve the loss.
Hi Adrienne. You don't know until you have been there. Lovesick is like greiving. It's an intense depression. But I too didn't know none of this until it happened to me.
Take yo heartbroken ass to work! I wish a coworker would take a day off for that mess!
I remember Adrienne saying she would pass on job opportunities for some of her ex's and not cuz she was heart broken but lacking motivation or something. And we know her jobs pay more than ours. Bottom line if u have the sick hours u can call out!
"All break-ups are not the same." Yes, Loni!
Adriene is annoying. I remember why I don’t watch this show now 🤦🏽♂️
Adrienne not everyone can afford to see a therapist.
Taking a break for a day after a breakup is good
No offense but addrine is a hipicrit bcuz when her and her ex Lenny broke up she took sometime off the real so go sit sum where still love the real tho😩💞
Back in my high school the principal would let us go home early or take exams another day if we were deeply shaken by a break-up. He also would listen to us if we had troubles at home, and was pretty fantastic with the students with depression.At the end of the day it was what Loni said; we need to take in consideration mental health and everybody's differences in dealing with stuff. Specially with teenagers, who are expected to have emotional maturity with little to no tools and experiences in so.
Adrienne is full of herself since her marriage. They said one mental health day. Some ppl have sick time saved up. What if they ex kicked them out or was abusive??
PTO is PTO. If you need a day to collect yourself and take care of you, then take care of you. If you have the flu, if you have a bad day, if you feel hopeless, take care of yourself. Using a PTO which is legally yours, doesn't make you a bad employee. Never using PTO doesn't make you the world's greatest employee. Not taking care of yourself out of fear of other people's opinions is just dumb as hell.
I agree with Adrienne ... you should always check-in with your mental health and dependency on your partner .. Breakups are hurtful but should not leave you paralysed and out of function
GET YO MONEY HONEY!
Adrienne said go get help like America doesn't have the worst healthcare system in the developed world
It depends on the case each one is different i agree with loni
Nah I need my money, I'm sure i can get someone to take my shift. if I really need to.Although I do agree, don't do it if you call out of work a lot, If you have near or perfect attendance and you do your job well. maybe this one time.
I love Adrienne but I’m getting annoyed with her hypocritical ass point of view
Adrianne that’s cause you have a have fun job hoe lol
Adrienne just shut up ! judgmental comments every step of the way!
I went into work and cried for a few days lmao. I was hurt about money and time invested.
No, no😭.. I agree with Loni, and tamera...we all don't take break-up easily
Here is a guy's point of view:I didn't disagree with what Adrienne said at the beginning because I DO think people - particularly women - need to be careful not to idolize their significant others to the point of being unable to function without them.....however, I am glad that by the end of the clip, Adrienne acknowledged that depression is serious and should be dealt with accordingly. A lot of this depends on 3 things:1. semantics (how do you phrase your request for time off?)2. integrity (do you request off days all the time and make excuses often?)3. self-awareness of the person requesting time off. (are you really unable to function or are you just not wanting to work?)Think about it from an employer's perspective. This is where semantics come in. If you approach your boss asking for time off because of a "break up" you might be denied. But if you approach your boss requesting time off to deal with depression you might get what you want, especially since "mental health days" are a thing now. Also: a lot of unmarried people want their relationships to be treated the same way as a married couple's and I think that's unrealistic. I think most business owners would consider giving time off to an employee who was getting DIVORCED over an employee who was breaking up with a boyfriend/girlfriend. That may be a double standard but for unmarried people who had a tough break up and want time off from work, they might have to be strategic about how they phrase it.
I definitely knew that Loni will mention the engineering stuff.
I'd take a day off. My bills aren't going to pile up after just taking ONE day off. And if you aren't emotionally and mentally present at work then in my opinion you should be able to take a day.
That has definitely crossed my mind. Then I remembered that I will always love money than some people. (particular exes)
I’ve never called off after a breakup. I’m glad that I go to work after a breakup. It distracts my mind.
I take off if I feel like I feeel like I might want to come in because I hurt my toe last week.