Would You Want To Be Described As The “Elder” In Your Relationship?


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  • and Baby I just Melt Away

    I just feel like from watching all the recent episodes Jeanie isn’t running smoothly with them anymore she’s flying higher with her intellect and spirituality. Let’s see how this all goes.

  • The Empowerment Circle

    Elder comes from the bible if they are confused as to what it is they should research it

  • ND
    ND 18 days ago

    Poor Adrienne lol.. she should have gone to debate club at school.. she really can't hold a VALID argument that makes sense. She isn't smart enough to be a panel co-host she tries, but always falls short.

  • N M
    N M 19 days ago

    Culture difference come with Jenni... She is technically right

  • S. Jay
    S. Jay 19 days ago +1

    Adrienne in her feelings because her old man cant keep up with her and Loni used to being called that for dating older men. It’s not that serious. I’m 23 and my boyfriend is 27 and people always joke that I’m the child in the relationship and I don’t yell at them that I’m not a baby and I’m grown. This is not a fairy forest. Elders aren’t only people who have great wisdom. It’s people older than you.

  • S. Jay
    S. Jay 19 days ago +1

    At least they ain’t say boomer 😂

  • Tameka P
    Tameka P 19 days ago

    Keisha Cole is almost 40 and she’s dating a 23 year old man. You’re his elder boo boo. Embrace it or let it go smh 🤣🤣

  • Savvy C
    Savvy C 19 days ago +1

    Damn, wardrobe was on point today. Especially Tamera, girl was looking like a snackk🙈

  • jtheobbles86
    jtheobbles86 19 days ago

    Keisha is immature in her mind

  • D M
    D M 19 days ago

    Nah, let's not talk like we know what's in Nick's head when he said elder Loni! We don't know his motive. It was a poor choice of word but I don't think he meant it in a bad way because he proceeded to talk about him and Mariah.

  • Jeanette H.
    Jeanette H. 19 days ago

    I think Loni and Adrienne are going back to when they were younger and to them "elder" is someone like their parents that you respect, theyre wise, you ask for advice but it doesn't go further than that kind of love. Adriennes thinking of a church elder you dont cuss in front of them your mannerisms are different. Verses someone you're married to and you may be more layed back with yes they can be like Tamera said the eldest but you wouldn't go up to Adam, James and them and say oh your her elder, or go to Loni and say James is your elder. That's more like what is okay for them to say but not for outsiders to say of their relationship. For one it sounds weird.

  • Lilly H.
    Lilly H. 19 days ago

    Please, let Loni also speak. It's frustrating

  • Adrian Campbell
    Adrian Campbell 19 days ago

    it does not bother me when I'm called. the oldest or elder.

  • tiktok do it myself 101

    Im with genie....get over yourselves...no offense

  • SHA J
    SHA J 19 days ago

    Come it’s not a bad word, and Keyshia is older than him by I believe 10 years. I guess she didn’t like the word elder when referring to her and her younger boyfriend.

  • S
    S 19 days ago

    Jeannie lately has been a little ignorant and problematic recently, but it’s her view and just cox it’s different from others it doesn’t mean it’s bad. WITH THE Exception of the nasty TI comment. I can’t see her the same way ever again

  • M. Aden
    M. Aden 19 days ago +1

    0:27 Yes Jeannie!! Only if they understood 🙄

  • Amber L
    Amber L 19 days ago

    Why is Adrienne in her feelings? It really is just a word that means older, everything else is just her perception of the word. Its not that serious..

  • MsForeverFly
    MsForeverFly 19 days ago

    so they don’t like stigma around aging women but they find the term elder offensive? ok real lol

  • I.A. Food Reviews
    I.A. Food Reviews 19 days ago +1

    Tam: “again adjective” yesss haha

  • Owl Manny
    Owl Manny 19 days ago

    Dr. Phil told you it's wrong to continue this aggression against an older woman, and you know he's right. You're just embarrassed everyone knows since Steve Harvey told all of what you're doing.

  • Owl Manny
    Owl Manny 19 days ago

    Stop hiding behind political correctness and humanitarianism. You don't fight for human rights, you violate them. Let a bunch of minority women have an iota of power and they use it to oppress an older black women. House slaves. Far worse than the white men you claim ruined the world. They've done more for humanity than you ever did or will.

    A ORTIZ 20 days ago

    Let Loni talk

  • I am Meci
    I am Meci 20 days ago

    Everybody is taking it so personal she’s more than ten years older than her BF! She’s his elder. It is what it is.

  • Riss B
    Riss B 20 days ago

    Nothing Adrienne said makes sense! How the hell is Loni not your elder? And how does the word Elder has nothing to do with age but then the first thing she mentions is that it's someone who is older. It's clear she just loves to hear herself talk. 😒😒😒

  • Dion Harder
    Dion Harder 20 days ago

    Elder is of greater age, senior, big. As a noun it is a leader, senior figure or patriarch.

  • Shmooboogie
    Shmooboogie 20 days ago +2

    Adrienne-“it’s not about age” then goes on to say “people view elders as someone MUCH older” yeah okay girl

  • Deedee's Network
    Deedee's Network 20 days ago

    *Reads title*

  • TheMusicalFeeling
    TheMusicalFeeling 20 days ago

    Elder simply means older. Simple english.

  • george Oteng-Attakora
    george Oteng-Attakora 20 days ago

    What about you f you were dying of cancer and have two kids with you wife or ex-wife and your best has expressed interest? wouldn’t you rather someone you know can count on be a step dad to your kids?

  • Nallah B
    Nallah B 20 days ago

    I'm SO confused as to why it must be received as offensive? The real question here is how do you relate to the process of growing older? Are you scared? Do you view it as a degeneration rather than an evolution?!

  • Dee Asa
    Dee Asa 20 days ago

    Why is elder considered an insult?

  • Vivian M
    Vivian M 20 days ago

    I like how Loni is always talking about no being easily offended and not flipping out over silly stuff and here she is getting all emo about being called "elder". For real? And come on Adrienne, you really in your feelings about someone calling you "elder"? Enough with this being scared of getting older. So what if someone calls you elder? Just be like: "Aight" and keep it pushing...

  • johnny appleseed
    johnny appleseed 20 days ago +4

    Adrienne: “that’s literally what we’re saying. It’s not about age. People view elder as someone much OLDER.” Thought it wasn’t about age.

  • Jackie Munno
    Jackie Munno 20 days ago

    Adrienne all you date are elders. Your husband is a full on ELDER. Your creepy daddy MCM fetishes ARE ALL ELDERS. Sit down

  • Bobby Trevino
    Bobby Trevino 20 days ago

    Its not a bad thing to be called elder i rather be respected than called aomething like old man or old woman. Elder just means you wise and respected. Keyshia just needed a story line for people to talk about

  • lucky4evr1
    lucky4evr1 20 days ago

    I'm so surprised that people don't know how to use Elder properly..lol.. Actually I'm not surprised at all. I hear people using words wrong everyday!! Elder is never used in a romantic relationship. It's compared to a group.. Eldest sister.. Elders at the ceremony.. My eldest Uncle. 🤦 Jeesh!

  • Milan Carter
    Milan Carter 20 days ago

    Yall should ask Angela from 90 days fiance about being called an elder.

  • Theresa Robinson
    Theresa Robinson 20 days ago

    Lmaooo honestly, the only people who are offended by this are people that are old 😭😭 its not that deep.

    • Theresa Robinson
      Theresa Robinson 19 days ago

      @destiny child how so? Why is it offensive if elder means older?

    • destiny child
      destiny child 19 days ago +1

      It depends on how the word is used and in what context.

  • Mah Rdn
    Mah Rdn 20 days ago

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  • J Nic
    J Nic 20 days ago

    She should be with someone her own age then. She’s his elder. We know she’s not a senior citizen.

  • KING-L
    KING-L 20 days ago

    Elder is a old wise person.

  • Lore Ah
    Lore Ah 20 days ago

    This is so childish.
    Did they forget to communicate, listen, understand and reciprocate.
    Come on yall 30, 40 smh
    Omfg elder in a relationship!?
    Loni nd A, too closed minded.

  • Jay dot.
    Jay dot. 20 days ago

    Loni can be so contradicting sometimes it's annoying

  • Sabrina Grimm
    Sabrina Grimm 20 days ago

    It's really cultural. For whatever reason Americans have a negative view of anything having to do with or sounding old. Meanwhile in other parts of the world - for example Asia and Africa. Being an Elder is good. Yes, older people are elders, but it also refers to the wisdom someone has with being older, and the respect that they gain from being older. It's honestly a respectful term. Not something to be offended by.

  • Beautiful Flower
    Beautiful Flower 20 days ago +1

    Honestly when I here elder it’s like saying grandma or grandpa

  • This World IsCrazy
    This World IsCrazy 20 days ago

    So sick of the spirit of sensitivity wish people would just grow up°° what's wrong with being older?

  • Ebunoluwa13
    Ebunoluwa13 20 days ago

    Elder means 'elderly' period

  • Staci B
    Staci B 20 days ago

    I feel like Adrienne needs to respect people regardless of their “elder” title or not. It’s like she can’t respect people or what?

  • Arigato Kiss
    Arigato Kiss 20 days ago

    The difference in opinion on the term elder stems from culture. Being an elder or older person in various Asian cultures is an honor and a privilege.

  • Sasha Dimetries
    Sasha Dimetries 20 days ago

    Tam is always so funny!

  • Whitney Philis
    Whitney Philis 20 days ago

    Elder means "One who is older than another". If you are older than someone, you are that person's elder even if its just a year older. 😂😂😂 thats what Nick Cannon meant but I guess he was wrong for not sugarcoating it. I died when Adrienne said "I dont want to be the elder in my relation"😂😂😂 then dont date someone younger than you simple.

  • Sabrina
    Sabrina 20 days ago

    Well...technically Elder is older innit? 🤷🏾‍♀️
    I guess Ade just doesnt like the stigma attached to it ie you can't talk back to them, you have to respect and listen to them, you can't say bad things about them. That's a social thing that we've added to it that leaves a bad taste in our mouth.
    Just don't call 'em an Elder if they don't like it...(But they are lol)

  • Fatouma Yassin
    Fatouma Yassin 20 days ago

    I think Adrienne wants to disagree just to disagree because her reasoning doesn't make any sense....

  • Beck Cetera
    Beck Cetera 20 days ago

    An elder is meant to be someone who is *wise* based on their years and experience who passes down knowledge. It is not just an old person, or someone who might be younger and passes on their knowledge it is literally someone older and wiser than you that teaches you.

  • Jesse Markee
    Jesse Markee 20 days ago +6

    Why get into a relationship with someone WAY younger then you, then be offended that you’re the older one in the relationship?? 👀👀

    • Dion Harder
      Dion Harder 20 days ago

      LMAO! Exactly Jesse.

    • lucky4evr1
      lucky4evr1 20 days ago

      She got offended because she was called his older leader basically that he got into a relationship with.

  • NM
    NM 20 days ago +1

    Israel is an elder. I said what i said

  • Marianna P
    Marianna P 20 days ago

    No, elder is what it is. Don't try to change the definition just because you dont want it to fit in your situation. It is what it is, period. If you are an older than someone your dating by years, you're they're elder.

  • Tenisa White
    Tenisa White 20 days ago

    In Asian culture Age is a big thing and I’m positive that the ladies don’t know that and that’s why they don’t understand why Jeannie was getting to hot.

  • Karma Came
    Karma Came 20 days ago

    Oh Lord as long as your Intent is respect In your meaning of how you use it...it's all good.Tomato..To ma to...