NARCISSIST, SOCIOPATH, OR PSYCHOPATH?: HOW TO RECOGNIZE THE DISTINCTIONS

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  • Published on Jan 30, 2019
  • As you learn more about narcissism, you may uncover a distinct lack of conscience in some. You wonder, "Am I dealing with a sociopath, or worse? Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter explains commonalities and distinctions regarding narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths.
    Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. Over the past 39 years he has conducted many workshops and over 60,000 counseling sessions.
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  • Karen Ely
    Karen Ely Hour ago

    I appreciate your thoughts. And sadly yes, I have to deal with a person with all of what you said. Not just one or 2. All three.

  • The Cothran Family

    Wow. Just wow. Keep it coming!

  • Joe Cox
    Joe Cox 4 hours ago +1

    The signs he mentioned are all true to my ex-girlfriend she would lie even when I knew she was lying. She bought a home that I remodeled for her even after I had neck surgery she was still wanting me to work on her home this took place over10+ years and I thought I could change her however she broke off our relationship and moved in with another man 3 weeks later and sold her home and made $100k and took lots of my things with her. She broke off all communication period , I finally seen her on twitter where she lied about being a Christian for 10+ years and being a brain tumor survivor so many lies and I called her out in front of all her was following on her tweet and I was blocked again. I never chased her or road by her house but it took a large toll on me which after 1+ years just now starting to trust someone. So take him seriously because these type people will harm you sometimes for life.

  • Footage
    Footage 7 hours ago +1

    This channel is so good to finally understand these twisted people

  • Bernard Barnett
    Bernard Barnett 9 hours ago +3

    Narcissistic orange potus dotard Cheeto clown and grifter traitor that's #45.

  • alison webster
    alison webster 20 hours ago +1

    Grief, you just described your President...good luck America..your in the grip of unhealthy mental conditions in charge of your lives.run for the hills...

  • Shari D
    Shari D 20 hours ago

    I happened on this video yesterday and watching it was like relieving my broken marriage of 26 years. Four and half years ago my husband went to prison for 21 years as a result of an investment scheme. He, of course, maintained his innocence claiming he was duped. In spite of my devotion and commitment to him through the investigation, charges, court trial and conviction, he did absolutely nothing to prepared me for the moment he would go to prison. Nothing. I was left with nearly a million dollars in unpaid taxes which he, again, claimed weren't owed. I lost everything while he built his little kingdom in prison. He has never expressed any kind of brokenness over the financial destruction his actions have caused for hundreds of people including many family and friends. Tragically, the deepest heartache came a few months after his imprisonment, when two family members came forward to reveal they had been molested as little girls. The devastation was incomprehensible. So many questions in my marriage now had context. Still, he took no responsibility explaining away the accusations or even refusing to address them. I had absolutely no idea who I had married. His facade was almost perfect. He was the son of minister; he knew the talk and walk; he was gregarious and charming; I loved a man that didn't exist. My daughter and I were in counseling for several years and during that time we were introduced to the person my husband truly was - a narcissistic psychopath. We have worked to rebuild our lives after I divorced him, and God has been kind and gracious to us carrying us through a journey no one should ever face. I wish I had understood many years ago what you are teaching. Maybe I could have prevented the heartache that he has caused. I pray for his victims everyday.

    • Shari D
      Shari D 7 hours ago

      @Surviving Narcissism Thanks! We are doing great! God has been very good to us! Thanks for the resources also.

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  16 hours ago

      What a story. I hope you and your daughter can get back on your feet after all this chaos. Dr. C

    • Shari D
      Shari D 20 hours ago +1

      As a follow-up - the women who have come forward that were assaulted are over the age of 18, and it is up to them whether to press charges. There is no mandatory reporting. My hope is that they will eventually choose to hold him accountable since he will pursue other victims when he is released.

  • XOCHIL G
    XOCHIL G 21 hour ago +1

    My x husband is a Narcissistic Sociopath

  • Athanase Athanasious
    Athanase Athanasious 23 hours ago +1

    When people sound to have everything together, they like to judge others who have difficulties like mental illness. For example, people who never experience suffering in life, they think that life is going to be easy for someone else. Some people might succeed in life and others will not succeed, it depends on the life circumstance that they have.

    • Athanase Athanasious
      Athanase Athanasious 8 hours ago

      @Patricia Krenik I do not agree with you!

    • Patricia Krenik
      Patricia Krenik 15 hours ago

      No, it doesn't depend on the life circumstances that they have, unless of course, the body is malformed or disfunctional. We all experience suffering and many of us poverty, it is how we somehow get out of that condition. It is harder, of course, when born into life circumstances, to climb out of it, but there are those who want to, so they do, and those that say it can't be done. Separate the wheat from the chaff.

  • Athanase Athanasious
    Athanase Athanasious 23 hours ago +1

    When people sound to have everything together, they like to judge others who have difficulties like mental illness. For example, people who never experience suffering in life, they think that life is going to be easy for someone else. Some people might succeed in life and others will not succeed, it depends on the life circumstance that they have.

  • Athanase Athanasious
    Athanase Athanasious 23 hours ago +1

    When people sound to have everything together, they like to judge others who have difficulties like mental illness. For example, people who never experience suffering in life, they think that life is going to be easy for someone else. Some people might succeed in life and others will not succeed, it depends on the life circumstance that they have.

  • Athanase Athanasious
    Athanase Athanasious 23 hours ago +1

    I hate when others don't realize that we all have feelings and that it's easy for someone to get hurt. Sometimes these bullies don't have any remorse or sympathy until they go through a similar experience as we all do. They think that when they hurt someone, it 's okay but they don't recognize that the pain that we can endure is painful. The only things that can change these bullies are if they go through a similar experience as we all do.

  • Athanase Athanasious
    Athanase Athanasious 23 hours ago +1

    Every case or situation is not the same. Some people might have the ability to do great things and others might not have the same capability. Every case and challenge is different from others. That is why we must be forgiving and empathetic to those that we meet. The more we respect others, the more that we can respect ourselves.

  • Melissa Laster
    Melissa Laster Day ago +1

    I have been worried for years that I have been improperly diagnosed. Supposedly I have anxiety and depression. But after a lot of research I am wondering about bi-polar or sociopath. Now, I am see the same signs in my 10 year old. He has been diagnosed same as me. But your description of sociopath describes me and him perfectly.
    I am wondering if we should go to a psychologist/psychologist instead of a therapist. So we can get a different diagnosis.

    • Patricia Krenik
      Patricia Krenik 15 hours ago

      Sociopaths don't introspect as you are doing. More likely the anxiety and depression is a missed sociopath still connected to you in your life and somewhat affecting it.

  • crikey8
    crikey8 Day ago +1

    wow, a portrait of trump!

  • ninjanicnic
    ninjanicnic Day ago +1

    President narcissist

  • Frankfield Frankfield

    The kind of world we all together are building is a kind of machine for produce this kind of emotional intelligence disable persons, so thinking in this way, at the moment to find who blame, I think the most responsible attitude is to look inside instead to look outside... I think 'm an ex sociopath narcissist, I think I started to be healed at the moment I went to a therapist for help. My therapist helped me to realize by my self about my problem. I went out of the blaming not sense dynamic and started to accept what really was happening with me being humble and learning that appreciate my self is by going and letting go.

  • Michael Smith
    Michael Smith Day ago +1

    There seem to be a lot of these type of people nowadays. I have known and dealt with some myself. I Wish I had known this earlier in life. I could have completely avoid these people.

  • mlaclare
    mlaclare Day ago +1

    💕👍

  • joewger
    joewger Day ago +1

    I always like people who like to talk you into doing things they wouldn't do themselves. Rule one. Never loan money to people unless it's around $20 or so.

  • Cheryl Simpson
    Cheryl Simpson 2 days ago +4

    Thank you for the information. Unfortunately I know several ppl who fit into some of these categories. Luckily I don't have to spend much time with any of them anymore. Life is stressful enough without people like that in your lives.

  • Meredith Thomas
    Meredith Thomas 2 days ago +2

    Wow. Ex husband is all three!

  • Mark Conger
    Mark Conger 2 days ago +1

    How is it that narcissism is not considered a mental illness? Sociopathic and psychopathic behavior is, but narcissism isn’t? Why is that??

  • Mr. Indie
    Mr. Indie 2 days ago +1

    Funny thing is, my ex portrayed that “good girl” image to a tee. It was one of the things that made me fall in love with her. She was the farthest thing from it... clearly a malignant covert narcissist with a lot of sociopathic tendencies and a little bit of psychopath thrown in as well.

  • Nuwanda Music
    Nuwanda Music 2 days ago +2

    I like the way you talk doc. Thank you for putting such super complicated things down as easy as possible. do you have any video about NARCISSIST, SOCIOPATH, OR PSYCHOPATH father? Cheers!

  • Fluff Your Garfield
    Fluff Your Garfield 2 days ago +1

    I went to therapists for years, trying to get help because I'm being targeted by a narcopath, who was my landlord and had many ties to my life in a smallish town. I knew she had NPD, but did not know what this meant for me. They didn't either, and most (all?) concluded I was paranoid. For over 15 years, this narcopath (and Pillar of the Community) has been stalking me, smearing me, recruiting an army of flying monkeys, etc., and I have been unable to find help. SO FEW people know about this stuff. I am so grateful to Dr. Carter for giving people this extremely important info - and this validation. My stalker clearly fits this description of a sociopath. No one who knows my stalker will believe this, however, or even that she is stalking me.

  • MrRoundthetwist
    MrRoundthetwist 2 days ago +2

    I lived this for 5 years with my ex narcissist.. sad thing is I really loved her.. we have 2 young children together
    Wish I could be no contact but that won’t happen until the girls are grown and on their own
    Relieved to be out of that cancerous toxic relationship atleast, now 8 months separate
    It’s scary and jarring how she nails just about all the narcissism traits you describe
    Thank you doctor for helping to open my eyes

  • Cindy Preston
    Cindy Preston 2 days ago +2

    Another trait that all 3 conditions meet and must be considered is that they have the devil in them😑

  • Sal Paradise
    Sal Paradise 2 days ago

    Sounds like the Democratic Party! HAR! fact!

  • Sal Paradise
    Sal Paradise 2 days ago +2

    fantastic video! Keep it coming.... well done!

  • Sal Paradise
    Sal Paradise 2 days ago +2

    My older brother is a Narcissist, but has Sociopathic tendencies. Although the latter has eased up over the years, he's still a fucking Narcissist cunt and I avoid him like the plague. Our mother has been in denial over this and has never admitted to any of this, but her defense of his shit behaviors over the years certainly never helped.

  • M. J.
    M. J. 3 days ago +1

    Well I have dealt with them all and still married to the first one. Pretty depressing stuff when you come to understand that they cannot change yet we still hold hope , especially because it's the father of your children. I fear more of what will happen if I am not keeping tabs on him and how it could affect our children. He cannot handle having no control.

  • Sarah B
    Sarah B 3 days ago +2

    I KNEW IT, MY SISTER IS A F*CKIN' SOCIOPATH I F*CKIN *KNEW IT* !!!!!

    • Vicky S82
      Vicky S82 Day ago

      Mine is both a narcissist AND a sociopath! This gentleman just tied it all up nicely and put a bow on top.

  • Sunny Wakefield
    Sunny Wakefield 3 days ago +1

    RIGHT ....LIKE WHEN DONALD TRUMP SAID IF YOU DONT LIKE IT ...JUST LEAVE THE COUNTRY !!!!...DUH !!!!

  • Sunny Wakefield
    Sunny Wakefield 3 days ago

    JUST ABOUT EVERY ONE IN NATIONAL SECURITY AND F.B.I...ARE ALL THREE !!!!!...LOL..OH AND DONALD TRUMP !!!!

  • Ranaldo Bobsled
    Ranaldo Bobsled 3 days ago +1

    I used to date a girl with strong borderline personality traits and with an almost equal dose of narcissistic traits. She was/is a high functioning basket case. In the end I was literally scared of her. She made threats against me that weren't true and a whole host of mixed up mess of a relationship. After the love bombing then belittling and devaluation I found my escape on her discard of me when she said she was seeing someone. I quietly backed away and haven't heard from her or seen her again. They say the narcissist comes back but fortunately that hasn't happened and it's been a couple years now. If you haven't experienced a person like my ex my advice to you is early on during the love bombing phase RUN!!! Do not walk "RUN"!!! Life is too short to play in the borderline narcissistic fun land where you will not win that game.

  • Liquid bend
    Liquid bend 3 days ago +8

    I could almost guarantee ... my Brother and Sister are all three of these categories!!

  • Jack St. Jack
    Jack St. Jack 3 days ago

    My best friend works for a boss that exhibits some of all of these 3 types. How to know which one of the 3 his boss is?

  • A A
    A A 3 days ago +1

    Like Cardi B. Did you see her music video press?

  • Celeste Carrington
    Celeste Carrington 4 days ago

    Thank you. Brutal truth

  • TheKapias
    TheKapias 4 days ago +1

    Unfortunately I dated one of these for a year and a half! Thinking a widower will take time!NOPE👍👍😬😬thank you

  • Julie Jackson
    Julie Jackson 4 days ago +1

    223 Narcissists etc disliked this video!

  • icvdaniel
    icvdaniel 4 days ago +1

    In other words, everyone wants to be a big somebody.

  • John Sluder
    John Sluder 5 days ago +1

    Too good!!! True. Lol

  • Aser Lewis
    Aser Lewis 5 days ago +1

    My mother thinks I need counselling, my father is a psychologist he tried to take me to see someone, I’ve come to the conclusion I’m sociopathic

  • Peter Bruns
    Peter Bruns 5 days ago

    I don't completely agree with his placement of narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths on a spectrum. It gives the impression that sociopaths and psychopaths are increasingly "dangerous", but that undermines the narcissist's potential to be extremely dangerous as well. The kinds of manipulative behavior he compartmentalizes to the label don't really line up, they all use all of these techniques to some degree or another. You recognize the narcissist by his ego, it's all about him. This person is the most dangerous when it comes to personal relationships, as they will emotionally destroy their victims. Sociopaths and psychopaths operate so similarly that I don't think it's necessary to define the two here, just suffice to say that they don't have an ego that needs stroking. Their danger lies in the fact that you could be a random stranger in the way of what they want, and they don't want your praise... they want something tangible or material for you. Sure, they can emotionally abuse you as well, but it's for the same purpose of getting not your praise, but maybe your wallet.

  • Bah Saddigu
    Bah Saddigu 5 days ago +1

    wow ! it is awesome to have this knowledge.

  • Pavlichenko 1312
    Pavlichenko 1312 5 days ago +3

    So sociopaths and psychopaths are both also narcissists, right? Great video, thank you.

    • Pavlichenko 1312
      Pavlichenko 1312 3 days ago

      @Surviving Narcissism I see, thanks!

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  5 days ago +2

      Correct. Narcissism is the hub of the wheel, and these are 2 of the spokes extending from it. Dr. C

  • Rob Sommars
    Rob Sommars 5 days ago +1

    The norm in a fallen world 🔽

  • cacauldr
    cacauldr 5 days ago +18

    This will be the future norm. And the 'normal' will become 'unhealthy'. Unless people wake up.

  • Rob Sommars
    Rob Sommars 5 days ago

    Snowflakeism

  • Fukurouyoujo
    Fukurouyoujo 5 days ago +5

    my most recent ex abuser was a narcissist, for sure. But he certainly wasn't a sociopath or psychopath. I never felt threatened by him. But we still had to come to an end, because he was always judging me, but than got hypersensitive when I judged him. I told him I didn't want to have sex with him until he got tested, and if he had been a sociopath or psychopath he would have made a rape attempt. I know self-defense, so he wouldn't have gotten far, but nobody wants to have to go through that in the first place.
    I have a lot of narcissistic family members, and a few sociopathic ones, even fewer psychopathic ones. I don't talk to any of them at all these days. but those people are how I learn to set my boundaries and how I interact with other people, so I'm thankful that my upbringing was harsh so I don't feel any kind of social pressure with being too lenient to other adults.

    • toyoscio
      toyoscio 3 days ago +1

      Socio and psychopaths "read" people and adjust theirinteraction with them accordingly. Your ex probably did that to you, sadly

  • guloguloguy
    guloguloguy 5 days ago +5

    IMHO: IT HAS BECOME VERY CLEAR, THAT WE ARE BATTLING WITH A VAST ARMY OF "HIGH-CONFLICT" PERSONALITIES, aka:"NARCISSISTS" "SOCIOPATHS/PSYCHOPATHS", ETC. WE MUST STUDY THEIR BEHAVIOR, AND OPPOSE THEM, INTELLIGENTLY, AT EVERY OPPORTUNITY!!!....["SHARED ON FAKEBOOK, AND ON GAB.AI ]

  • Shawn Dyer
    Shawn Dyer 5 days ago +1

    Trump is two out of three of these.

  • Michelle Valle
    Michelle Valle 5 days ago

    I truly enjoyed your very, eased & simple differences AND similarities of these 3 different types on personality disorders. I have come across my fair share of narcissistic beings during my lifetime, & a handful of sociopaths, BUT I believe (at least to my knowledge) have fortunately only come in contact with a true psychopath. I say fortunately, because I'm still alive & well today virtually unscathed.
    Any wrong doing ever done to me by one of these narcissistic or sociapathic individuals, may have "hurt" me initially, but ultimately I learned from those experiences & it only made me stronger!
    I conclude that, I despise people who fall under any of these 3 disorders so severely that if I witness a child, an animal, someone who is elderly or someone who clearly is unable to not defend themselves~I will step up, defend, fight, get in between, call police, go to jail to protect them!! Thanks!

  • jeanette terry
    jeanette terry 5 days ago

    I must listen again. The most disappointing aspect is that these people simply do not operate in honesty or justice. These videos are equipping me with knowledge and understanding of how not to treat people and how I wish to be treated. God bless you and your family. I am happy I found your channel Dr.

  • Kathy Pappas
    Kathy Pappas 6 days ago +1

    Narcissistic Sociopath is Trump !

  • Anatoly Kern
    Anatoly Kern 6 days ago

    Sounds like any government is a psychopath of our society.

  • Irish Dzny Girl
    Irish Dzny Girl 6 days ago +1

    my brother in law fits all 3 of these

  • crystal wilkes
    crystal wilkes 6 days ago +2

    Very good informative work done for this video!! Thanks for sharing😊

  • Gee Tee
    Gee Tee 6 days ago

    I believe the characterizations of psychopath and sociopath are incorrect in significant ways.
    Psychopaths are often very successful in business, politics and academia.
    Socipaths are often products of their environment like petty criminals who have consciences but override the guilt with rationalizing about how they need to commit the crimes or how the victims deserve it.
    These explanations didn't seem based in psychology but more in layman self help.

    • Gee Tee
      Gee Tee 12 hours ago

      @Patricia Krenik
      Hi. From what I understand psychopaths are born and sociopaths are made usually by early childhood experiences that diminish conscience or by a dangerous environment that makes empathy a liability. Psychopaths are generally more calculated than sociopaths. Sociopaths generally have more impulse control issues and aren't particularly cunning or charming but they understand how to abusively/criminally exploit the weaknesses of others.

    • Patricia Krenik
      Patricia Krenik 15 hours ago

      Gee Tee, while you are right in what you say/have observed/ that doesn't mean the characteristics are wrong. A successful psychopath is still a psychopath. Look at Ted Bundy, for example. His apparent life was quite normal.

  • MrMustard2U
    MrMustard2U 6 days ago +1

    Good Video...Subscribed...

  • Kimberly Hood
    Kimberly Hood 6 days ago +1

    Thank you sooo much for this very informative😊

  • Angela Hagerman
    Angela Hagerman 6 days ago

    My narc mom used to glamourize bad people,,the worse the better...and the better I became she loathed me...and she was supposed to be a Christian...

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  6 days ago +1

      Some people call themselves a Christian, but it's not always the same as being Christian. Dr. C

  • J Price
    J Price 6 days ago +1

    This made me cry

  • Maturity is earned
    Maturity is earned 6 days ago

    The female schemer married the male predator - oh great. Hope she is weaker after he’s gone so she doesn’t get the 4th husband. Who knows if her kids can survive him.

  • no2well
    no2well 6 days ago

    No we should not glamorize people that injure only people that heal. Dr. Carter I work with attorneys, I think they are all psychos, help!!

  • Terese Woltz
    Terese Woltz 7 days ago

    DSM does not acknowledge sociopath now. It is now psychopath. All Narcissists are pscychopaths, not all narcissists are psychopaths.

  • Sandra Boletchek
    Sandra Boletchek 7 days ago

    Thank you for sharing!

  • H C Hayes
    H C Hayes 7 days ago +1

    Forgot to add. I had some training in recognizing the demeanor of a person lying. This same narcissist landlord property owner of the house next door also used gestures of being a liar. Arms folded over his chest, covered his mouth when he spoke, kept turning his head left to right, talked fast, did some body leaning. I think we handled him well enough for the situation. I lured him off our property by "showing him" the view from our front door compared to his rental house front door area. He was defused when two friends of my husband showed up to buy a bike from him.

  • H C Hayes
    H C Hayes 7 days ago +1

    I am going to be a regular to educated myself from Dr. Carter videos. I wished I'd seen this video last year. We have just spent the last year dealing with a family of Sociopaths who rented the house next door to us. When they skipped on the rent and vandalized the house, the owner landlord showed up at our door and made threats against us, the other neighbors and H.O.A.. We hired an attorney and he instructed us to dial 911 on this guy the next time he's pulls a stunt on us. This landlord is 100% Narcissist. His entire demeanor fits what Dr. Carter describes in this video. Well, now we are better armed and I will have no guilt when we call 911 on him the next time he pulls a stunt.

  • cathy laurenzano
    cathy laurenzano 7 days ago +1

    I cannot get my ex husband out of my life. He wanted a divorce years ago. Didn’t hear from him for seven years we started talking again. I didn’t see the signs when we are married before. But now I moved back to the same state and we got back together. I see them clearly now since the children are not there. I am moved out after about a year and a half of this. And he still warm I get out of my life. I’ve done a lot of studying and research and realized he’s definitely one of these three and I think it’s the latter. He’s in therapy every week oh and he also served in the military eight years. I want with him for the first two appointments and he will longer wants me there. The doctor is having a hard time diagnosing him by the way. Because he’s not honest not even till himself not to anybody even with the doctor. He pulls me in every time because he looks very convincing he knows the right words to say. But then we have conversations and will have two different conversations back to back and the second one will talk about at least 15 or 20 minutes. All of a sudden I’ll be back to the first conversation and he’ll deny we ever have a second conversation. He spends things and he blames it all on me. I’m the bad guy I’m punishing him. Oh and by the way we work together one day a week. He’s highly abusive physically mentally and emotionally. I’m realizing he has no empathy he has no regard to my feelings it’s always his. I’m always doing something bad to him to make him feel bad we broke up and I moved out about a year ago and every time we start talking again we’re going out again automatically. And I found myself when we go out to eat but I’ve been paying for it I took him in when he was affected did not ask for money he got his apartment I gave him money towards that. Is staying at my apartment to do three weeks more and could’ve moved in and didn’t. He milked it at my apartment. I don’t make much money. Oh and by the way when he stayed with me I took care of his cat while he slept. I am finding out it’s all about him. And I can’t get this man out of my life Juan around the same mountain around and around and around for the past 2 1/2 years and he will not get out of my life. He’ll get mad cause a fight and I won’t hear from him for a couple days and and he may even block me on his phone and he’ll be the first to do that. Then a couple days later areas again he never admits or talks about the arguments and when I bring it up it always put it on me he does not want to except responsibility for his actions of it. He does not assume responsibility. Lazy and his job does the least amount of work possible while others do the work. He’s very highly intelligent he has a pretty good high IQ. And I found all he does is lie and he doesn’t even admit it. It’s always about what I’m doing to him. And I am an empath. So I guess you can understand what this is like knowing I’m an empath. I can’t get the smell out of my life he won’t leave.He won’t leave me alone. He wants to get to gather and then after we’re together he demand sex. We’re not married I don’t want to have sex. And how dumb right do you mean as hell if we don’t have sex. I don’t want to have sex with anybody. I’m not a follower of Jesus Christ and he says he has one too but here’s the thing I don’t see good fruit falling from him

  • Wonder Woman Smith
    Wonder Woman Smith 7 days ago +2

    Excellent video! Describes my mother & brother to a "T." Also BLM, antifa fascist, Demoncrat libtards, MSM, etc.

  • Clare Kuehn
    Clare Kuehn 7 days ago +1

    Very nice, as usual. Thanks! 😍

  • pati wallette
    pati wallette 7 days ago +1

    Thank you & God bless you.

  • Janet Todd
    Janet Todd 8 days ago +1

    very informative I continually run across all three , it is important to learn how to deal with them . It is either very common or I am unlucky enough to find them

  • Jackie Roy
    Jackie Roy 8 days ago +1

    Thank You Dear Sir. Your helpful advice and kindly approach are sincerely appreciated. Living with this unbearable behavior, taking in your terrific wisdom and observations eases my troubled mind. Plans for a better future are in the making.

  • Lynne J.
    Lynne J. 8 days ago +2

    It seems to me that narcissists and sociopaths can be fun to be around casually (fun at a party), but you wouldn't want your best friend married to one. Nor would you really want any kind of close relationship, even friendship, with one. Psychopaths outright dangerous.

  • Toni Johnson
    Toni Johnson 8 days ago +13

    My mother is all 3 ... no joke ... I use to need help when I was a child but I survived her now I’m no contact

  • Allen Stuart
    Allen Stuart 8 days ago +1

    But what about if you know a person who shows and jas all these 3 traits

  • WingsDragonfly
    WingsDragonfly 8 days ago +1

    Excellent information! Thank you. Years ago, nobody other than therapists knew what a narcissist was. It helps me understand why I could never resolve those relationships.
    Interesting point about the romantisation of rule-breakers. This rewards people for unhealthy behaviors. Much to digest in this video.

  • Gladys Ogle
    Gladys Ogle 8 days ago

    I don't even have to watch the video to know this guy is too much. Mental health is like abstract art and can't be defined because if you take ten different doctors and a piece of abstract art they will all have a different perception. No counselor or support group can do what only you can and that is to change your mind to go in a different direction. Once you do that you change your circumstance. You are the only one that can make the decisions that will ultimately affect your life. Though I have lived thru the hatred, ignorance and the inferiority of others who purposefully wreak havok on the lives of others based on their emotions and not their principles. Of course it goes without saying you never mix business with emotions, and I have lived to see licenced therapists and counselors abuse that license making decisions that were purely based on emotions and not principle. I lived under surveillance for decades because I was in a porn ring that started at age 5. I along with my children became the price to pay those people's debt, meaning the people who placed me in that ring. A lifetime of struggle and simply trying to get away from these people who purposefully made our life a living nightmare. And in the end a doctor that gained access to my daughters phone number thru a surgery I had that I am left to wonder what his intentions were.....We use to call it premeditated when someone planned out a crime, now people just call it their job.

  • Sophiah Koikas
    Sophiah Koikas 8 days ago

    what is a person who is all three!

  • Claire Calitz
    Claire Calitz 8 days ago +1

    Thanks Dr Les, your explanations are so clear. I think I have a bit of borderline sociopath in my make up. I'm going to visualize my soul as a beautiful garden and weed out the ugly traits that have crept in. When I die I want to know I did my best. I started watching because I have just ended a relationship with a narc and now I find I just want to improve myself instead of yearning for another relationship. I need to be honest with myself and I've come to the conclusion that none of my relationships have worked long term because I need to work on being a better person. I clearly see the entitlement in myself and it's ugly. I want my soul to shine with beauty and goodness and that's going to be my new focus not a new relationship. Thank you for your good down to earth energy.

  • Alex 282
    Alex 282 8 days ago +1

    Chillingly mine ticked all three boxes ...x

  • T Palmer
    T Palmer 8 days ago +1

    This just made me think;how they make you think, everything os ok, so they can reel you into the DANGER.

  • Gage23
    Gage23 9 days ago +1

    My current wife has traits in all of these. I'm so confused what's going on.

    • H C Hayes
      H C Hayes 7 days ago

      If you don't have kids, and you are young enough, divorce. Divide it all 50% or give it all to your wife in the settlement. Give them no reason to pursue you after the divorce.

  • MSG Lulu
    MSG Lulu 9 days ago +1

    When some one is playing with their own shit ... and put sex toys in their asss with shit on it... what is that ???

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  9 days ago +1

      That's depravity, probably some psychosis. He needs help in the worst way. Dr. C

  • MSG Lulu
    MSG Lulu 9 days ago +1

    Merci monsieur....thank you Sir...

  • Peaceserenity 101
    Peaceserenity 101 9 days ago +1

    This was very helpful. Thank you!

  • Carole Lopes
    Carole Lopes 9 days ago +1

    Thank you for your expertise , it was very informative. You broke it down so well to understand and do think I've had a few of them in my life. This has helped me to really look deeper with the people I interact with. Thanks again and many blessings!! I will read it again and again to really understand.

  • nowvoyagerNE
    nowvoyagerNE 9 days ago +1

    you are using "sociopath" (informal term) as the same as "antisocial personality disorder" (formal, psychiatric term), correct. why not use the formal term for the disorder?

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  9 days ago +1

      You are correct, and I used the term "sociopath" because that is what the general public relates to more readily. It was a judgment call on my part. Dr. C

  • ANA MALI
    ANA MALI 9 days ago +1

    Thank you Dr.Les. God bless you.

  • Aubrey
    Aubrey 10 days ago +2

    Hmmm, now I'm a bit confused. My previous boss who I thought was a narcissist now I'm thinking might be a sociopath. She was definitely scheming, with the triangulation, sabotage, smear campaigns, etc. I wonder if Dr. Carter would categorize these traits as narcissistic or sociopathic?

  • Mark Olander
    Mark Olander 10 days ago +1

    Dr. Les Carter Thank you!

  • J Lock
    J Lock 10 days ago +1

    Donald Trump has every narcissist trait this man talks about.

  • Kimberly Grier
    Kimberly Grier 10 days ago +2

    Thank you so much Dr. Les! This was so helpful. I knew my ex-husband was a narcissist, but I also think he is a sociopath. So glad I left him, my life is much healthier now.

    • Zipo 26
      Zipo 26 7 days ago

      How would you know for sure

  • andy. hello.
    andy. hello. 10 days ago +1

    describes royalty...

  • Patrick X
    Patrick X 10 days ago +1

    Wait... Narcissist? Didn't he just described normal behaviors of the contemporary woman?

    • Patrick X
      Patrick X Day ago

      This is a broader anthropological discussion on human behavioral constructs... But, yes, in all of my relationships and all of everyone l know, the man is more a surrogate parent and the woman allowed more range of absolution for less than responsible behavior.... Foremost would be treating a relationship as a true partnership... This means true reciprocity... Rather than a vehicle of self service.
      To discuss further would be to parse details and make it a personal study... Perhaps involving unwelcome truths that would be held over a comment section with great difficulty.

    • con chuk
      con chuk 2 days ago

      @Patrick X On what sample size is your hypothesis based? Do you have controls for factors like age, level of education, country of origin, etc.? What is your definition of "contemporary"? If you are going to make generalities based on a sample of only women you've dated, you are completely out of line.

    • Patrick X
      Patrick X 10 days ago

      @Surviving Narcissism Unfortunately most, but a paradigm deeply set in our culture that makes the ubiquitous invisible due to its pervasiveness.

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  10 days ago +1

      All women? Dr. C

  • Bonnie Dunbar
    Bonnie Dunbar 10 days ago +2

    My mother was ill and my sister and brother inherited her illness. My brother was a thief and my sister died of alcoholism. I was terrified of both of them all my life. Can mental illness be passed from a mother to her children? I moved away 20 years ago and never want to go back? Thank you

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  10 days ago

      There is something to be said for personality styles being inborn. That said, people can still adjust as long as they practice self awareness, insight, and accountability. Dr. C