NARCISSIST, SOCIOPATH, OR PSYCHOPATH?: HOW TO RECOGNIZE THE DISTINCTIONS

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  • Published on Jan 30, 2019
  • As you learn more about narcissism, you may uncover a distinct lack of conscience in some. You wonder, "Am I dealing with a sociopath, or worse? Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter explains commonalities and distinctions regarding narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths.
    Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. Over the past 39 years he has conducted many workshops and over 60,000 counseling sessions.
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  • Preacher At Arrakeen

    Narcissism seems to be a dominant theme in your videos. May I ask why?

    • Preacher At Arrakeen
      Preacher At Arrakeen 2 hours ago

      @Average Guy further, psychopathology comes in all shapes and forms. Why, specifically this one? Why not Hebephrenic Schizophrenia? Why not your average neurosis? Your question is a tautology.

    • Preacher At Arrakeen
      Preacher At Arrakeen 2 hours ago

      @Average Guy No. But how can I explain it to you? You're just an 'average guy.' Please look up what George Carlin had to say about 'average intelligence.' THPPPT!

    • Average Guy
      Average Guy 5 hours ago

      Probably because that's what he is teaching us about? Kind of stupid to ask why isnt it?

  • J. Svensson
    J. Svensson Day ago +1

    The key phrase came out and you helped so much with that one phrase "Smoke and mirrors" THANK YOU!! You took it out of his own lips. He laughs about his love of "smoke and mirrors"... thank you

  • SnoozeFest
    SnoozeFest 3 days ago +1

    I enjoy your videos. You speak clearly, concisely, and your set is well lit.

  • Kevin W
    Kevin W 3 days ago +2

    Make it easy on yourself, just look to Washington. You see them everywhere.

  • 4UCarla
    4UCarla 4 days ago +3

    I believe all presidential candidates should have a psychological evaluation before running for the position of Commander-in-chief. And every year thereafter.

  • noname
    noname 5 days ago

    Former NY detective Ralph Salerno once said that out of all of the antisocial gangster characters he met, there were two who could paralyze you with fear just by looking at you with their psychopath stare. One was Carmine Galante and the other one was Aniello DellaCroce. Some psychopaths have that unsettling, hyper-observant, predatory glare that burns right through your soul. The eyes of a killer!

  • Adam Hernandez
    Adam Hernandez 7 days ago

    Where are your citations?

  • kulturfreund66
    kulturfreund66 8 days ago +1

    Finally somebody says it. - It´s a lot of glamorizing the ruthless nowadays in the movies. While the movie and game industry take the profits, people do not only suffer directly but also as tax payers when having to make good the damage in society.

  • Melinda Gandy
    Melinda Gandy 8 days ago +1

    Thank you, Sir, for all of this wonderful information! I have always been intrigued by psychology - particularly when compelled to research a certain behavior b/c of a family member(s). But, oh, how I wish I had known these truths when I was much younger!! ☺️

  • Hatt Kelley
    Hatt Kelley 8 days ago +1

    Such a clear analysis and description! Thank you!

  • Stacy T
    Stacy T 9 days ago +1

    Very fitting for a Narcissistic video, start with a commercial starring Alec Baldwin😂😂😂

  • Brenda Drew
    Brenda Drew 9 days ago +1

    Had a father like this and then a husband like this for 42 years...."glutton for punishment"? Repeat compulsion as therapists say..the only paradigm we have in our brains! End result? MS now from all the abuse which did a number on my nervous system! When therapists say they can wreck your health...listen to them!! Despite having been a fitness trainer in the 90s, run the opposite direction...FAST!

  • rubbersole
    rubbersole 11 days ago +1

    chilling

  • Tamara Kennedy
    Tamara Kennedy 11 days ago +1

    I MARRIED A SOCIOPATH AND WAS STUNNED THE MASK CAME OFF AFTER 6 YEARS IT WAS THIS ENTIRELY DIFFERENT PERSON WHO HAD BEEN LYING THE ENTIRE COURTSHIP AND THEN MARRIAGE BUT I KEPT CATCHING THEM IN LIES, THEN FINALLY SAID PACK YOUR SHIT AND LEAVE GO GET HELP OUR DAUGHTER AND I WE DONT DESERVE THIS....THEY STOLE FROM US HID MONEY STOLE OUR SAVINGS USED MY SOCIAL SECURITY INFO AND STILL CLAIMS MY DAUGHTER OH NOT ONCE CALLED OR COME TO VISIT OR EVEN WRITE ANYONE CALL ANYONE NOR EMAILED MY DAUGHTER WE RAISED TOGETHER THIS HAS BEEN NOW 3 YEARS AND NOT A WORD FROM IT...I CALL IT IT BECAUSE ANYONE WHO COULD LIE CHEAT AND STEAL MANIPULATE ABUSE AND ROB TRICK FOOL AND USE US HAS NO SOUL..

  • Rhonda Williford
    Rhonda Williford 12 days ago +1

    What do you think of someone who thinks it's funny when her husband recovering from a stroke speaks in a garbled way -- and her teenager daughter joins in the laughter too. This same woman took open delight as a supervisor in downrating a long-term employee -- as if doing this was a deep source of joy. Thank you for any insight. (She also laid traps and delighted when an employee fell in.)

  • Brad McEwen
    Brad McEwen 12 days ago +2

    A timeless gift to all that sit in front the screen seeking another chapter of understanding toxic personalitys and ourselves. I think down the road up and out of someone else's issues that were needlessly, naively absorbed, you get a increased value once out of the brain fog.

  • Denis Shillingford
    Denis Shillingford 12 days ago +1

    Sociopaths make great politicians in America. The Democratic party and the Republican Party are full of them. That's the reason we have problems in America today. The police departments are full of psychopaths.

  • Grady Sanders
    Grady Sanders 12 days ago +1

    My questions are a little scary for me. But can staying with a narcissist possibly turn you into a socio-path? Survival depends on getting along, so getting along with a narcissist requires you feed their ego to get rewards, sad, but a possible reality. Also if a child of a narcissist, sees this can, that person, through trial and error, and example of another manipulations of the parent narcissist, become a quite competent sociopath-path? I write this believing that my wife is a narcissist, and that her children are manipulating her to the detriment of our marriage. It seems that I am left out during holidays due to their “plans” with their mother. Yesterday, Thanksgiving” I was left alone the majority of the day while she spent time with her kids, the last three hours to watch a movie they could have easily watched over here. I am worried about myself, because I can’t leave right now, but I want to have some semblance of happiness till the time is right. I hate fighting, it’s always non-productive and it just leaves me feeling weak and tired.

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  12 days ago

      The more you are exposed to those types of people, the easier it is to mimic it. It's like picking up a regional accent after living there for a while. Dr. C

  • Lavinia Carson
    Lavinia Carson 13 days ago +1

    Thanks Dr carter, im still struggling with no contact with one brother whos the sociopath. He's out of control, coz i refuse to have anything to do with him. My other brother was a psychopath, who recently passed away. I don't ever wish anything bad on anyone, but i have to say I'm free after over 30 yrs of abuse.. Thankyou so much for helping ppl understand mental illness. It's very much appreciated. 💖🎅🙋‍♀️

  • Gen Goldy
    Gen Goldy 13 days ago +1

    And it appears as though there can be an overlapping of the narcissistic and sociopath characters. So glad I found this channel. Thank you!

  • Michael Ryan
    Michael Ryan 14 days ago +1

    Excellent as always

  • Joan Chambers
    Joan Chambers 14 days ago +1

    I think I'm in a relationship with one ! How come it takes so long to figure this out ? We have been seeing each other for a year and a half and I am just coming to this conclusion !

  • Roxy lee
    Roxy lee 14 days ago +1

    🏃 don't walk away from these people my best advise

  • SUZANNE BUNBURY
    SUZANNE BUNBURY 14 days ago +1

    Wholesome words of life, illuminating words for life! Thank you Dr. You are very needed at this time. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👏🏻🏆

  • George Karkafi
    George Karkafi 15 days ago

    What causes these different personalities?

  • Esther414
    Esther414 15 days ago +1

    Do all the good you can,
    By all the means you can,
    In all the ways you can,
    In all the places you can,
    At all the times you can,
    To all the people you can,
    As long as ever you can.
    ~John Wesley

  • William Edmondson
    William Edmondson 16 days ago +1

    I very much appreciate your video's. I have always wondered about these types of personalities and now I feel as though I can examine my relations a lot better. Being more knowledgeable about these topics gives me more confidence when I have to interact with them. I don't have to doubt my own sanity.

  • Susan Jones
    Susan Jones 16 days ago +1

    to all the people out there who have just found Dr. C what he instructs to everyone is so so true.I listen and fit his instructions into my past a p ast that isn't simple but magnified to a degree of a sad proportion for me he has put labels on what I went through. It is as if now I know the why of it all,

  • Sugar Free
    Sugar Free 17 days ago +1

    Based on my experience married to a psychopath for a long time, I would say that psychopaths are. (tertiary mental illness). Everything he did wrong or disgusting was and still is I'm told, dismissed as poor judgement.
    The term surviving is apropos. I am long gone, but I can see that the dominoes are still falling and the collateral damage is horrific.

  • Karen Miller
    Karen Miller 17 days ago +1

    Dang I was with a guy that was all three . A narcissistic sociopathic Psychopath. I'm lucky to be alive. Wow! I am shocked I desalt with it as well mas I did. Am I in danger? Is there any chance of retaliation for breaking it off with him? He has threatened to kill me all the time. I told him I am not afraid of him at all He said YOU HAVE NO IDEAWHO YOU AREDEALING WITH. He is still watching me . I have blocked him Everywhere. He said it's NEVER ONER>>>EVER! I was already harmed seriously. Her broke my hip and I had replacement surgery. He caused me to go through major surgery and he acted like I went through nothing at all. Amazed me that he was so cold and heartless after doing something so monstrous to me. He did not apologize or even say " I did not mean to hurt you so seriously. All I got was ..PROVE IT BITCH! I was with him three years. Of constant Hell. Literal Hell. He still tries to contact me and always says the same thing.. Love me you know you do. And Just love me. I told him in no way will I be with a man that views me as NOTHING ANDDOES NOT MAYYER AT ALL> I refuse to be seen as NOTHING. So I said :well you have really lost :NOTHING AT ALL." in reality. As far ass I am concerned you can not get here from there.( where you are is not acceptable to me or my life ever again. I am Done and Gone Bye I know he will wait a few weeks and try again. He did this for five months before . Begging me and all the lies all over. I told that in no way can I or will I ever even trust him to ever be alone in any way with him ever . Good bye and have a wonderful life. I will not be in it. I refuse. Then I blocked him everywhere. Social media. Phone. And his family members are blocked also. But her will use other peoples numbers I know. He has before. I will not answer numbers not in my contacts this time for sure. I am not alone at least. I have a roommate that will shoot him. YEAH! I am a bit worried about my safety though. I feel concerned about the monster I was with . He is violent and is not in the same reality as normal people are.

    • Karen Miller
      Karen Miller 17 days ago

      @Surviving NarcissismI responding so quickly. He's hurt me seriously and caused major hip replacement surgery already. He's not getting near me ever again. I will take it as a threat if he trees, I've warned him already. He will go to jail guaranteed.

    • Karen Miller
      Karen Miller 17 days ago

      @Surviving Narcissism I know. I've been attacked from behind every single time. Not once to my face. Kinda being a chicken about it all. I'm 98 lbs, he's 234. Very evil even made up lies just to be hateful and almost attacked me because I laughed at him and said he's not a good liar and should get another hobby. He doesn't like to get proven wrong with evidence at all. I humiliates him. I can not even see why I was even with him now. I messed up and told him that too. He does still spy on me. But I pretend he's invisible. I know that he's still in shock over me doing what he's done for three years to me, HE knows that I am serious about it too
      I refuse to even play games. He knows I don't lie to anybody also. I told him that last times have no warnings. I'll just never be spoken to by you about anything ever again. The end dude, go be happily ever after. But never with me.

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  17 days ago +1

      They can be vindictive, so watch your back and have accountability procedures in place. Dr. C

  • RALPH STADLER
    RALPH STADLER 18 days ago +2

    Thank you!!!

  • Ray Lovelace
    Ray Lovelace 18 days ago +1

    It would please me no end for someone to jam Faux News and stream all his videos. So current on many levels.

  • Shannon burgess whittle
    Shannon burgess whittle 18 days ago +1

    I just will never understand how ones cannot care, have remorse, continually hurt and harm others. I’m an empathetic human, I’m learning how me and my granddaughters have been manipulated. My oldest had to cut her mom off, this is so sad. It can be such a traumatic situation. Causes PTSD, also, no bouncing. We’re working on this. Thank you so much for teaching so I can share and to many comments that have helped. Many blessings to many.

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  18 days ago +1

      I understand how it happens...intellectually, but I'm with you. It's hard to understand at an emotional level how they can be this way. Sr. C

  • Karen Rogers
    Karen Rogers 18 days ago +3

    My mother was a diagnosed psychopath. I'm 66 and have suffered all my life with depression and no self esteem. Still in therapy but there's no way out after all these years. My life has been wasted. She should never have had children. It's been a life sentence for me.

    • Anne Mette Amby
      Anne Mette Amby 15 days ago

      Thank God you are here and I have had similar bad experiences from my early childhood....My mum was not a psychopath but more narcissistic...but my own daughter grew up to become a grandiose narcissistic person... Was in my parents care for the first 5years and her own father is exactly the same! I seem to be surrounded by a number of these unhealthy familymembers so I feel very stuck and sad....I am 69 years old and sometimes I wonder why I should still be around? Love from Anne.... Denmark.

  • amber kessinger
    amber kessinger 18 days ago +1

    I wush I would of known about this or heard of this during my life. But hell glad now then never. Thank you so much. Grateful shined a light on this last one. Now I feel better about what descion I have to make and why. Forever grateful

  • pourquoipas971
    pourquoipas971 18 days ago +1

    Well it could fit ..with a certain Donald....

  • Kelly Edwards
    Kelly Edwards 19 days ago

    I hate narcissists

  • Richard Tarvin
    Richard Tarvin 19 days ago

    Mental bondage , i know how it feels

  • Von Musklaus
    Von Musklaus 20 days ago +1

    I think I am all 3 of these?

  • Emz
    Emz 20 days ago +1

    How do I stop being a narcissistic sociopath?

  • HiddenWen
    HiddenWen 20 days ago +1

    Unfortunately, society has evolved to a place where narcissism is rampant. It's even hard to succeed in highly competitive work environments if you aren't one nowadays. The narcissist know how to self promote much better than normal people and put their needs and ambition ahead of everyone else, so they will usually get ahead at work.

  • bwanna23
    bwanna23 20 days ago

    Are there any cures or alleviations, or do these people need to be kept in cages?

  • Worrywart
    Worrywart 21 day ago +2

    Let's see, which type is Donald Trump: a narcissist, a sociopath or a psychopath?
    Answer: YES!

  • Child advocate
    Child advocate 21 day ago +2

    Oh my gosh this fully explains to me a person in my life. Narcissist/sociopath. Both. Exactly. Thank you.

  • Deb Morris
    Deb Morris 21 day ago +2

    I realized as a very young child that my mother was mental by the way she treated me versus my sister and brother as my mother fits the psychopath category and I realized so very soon after marrying my husband that I had made a very huge 40 plus year mistake that my mother in law was a narcissist and that I had made a very huge mistake and over the years my husband has followed in his mother's narcissist ways and I am the target. My husband told me no divorce but he is not putting two and two together anymore and I can't live any more like this so he figures no divorce and he can still control me but he is so wrong as I won't let him do it to me any more..

    • Vesna Masnić Galić
      Vesna Masnić Galić 21 day ago

      Deb Morris. Congratulations. Feel your inner strength and you will succed. Good luck

  • Kathy Haga
    Kathy Haga 22 days ago +3

    Yep, my ex is a sociopathic narcissist. Covert, and cerebral. This confirms it for me.

  • Sue Kellar
    Sue Kellar 22 days ago +10

    I wish I had of known about these different types years ago. I could have saved myself a lot of grief. And waisted years on hoping they would change.

  • neon_ juju
    neon_ juju 22 days ago +1

    many psychopaths are successful. they've learned consequences but still have no ability to feel remorse for screwing people over, which is what gives them the upper hand. as long as their cause it served, what happens to you is irrelevant. they're "smarter," less reckless or impulsive, and more chameleon-like than sociopaths are.
    while you may recognize a sociopath, you wont recognize a psychopath at first glance... but they will mirror what you do. they watch you to learn how they should act or react. it is what they've done their entire life. if you laugh at something **completely** inappropriate, they will laugh too. that's a helpful indicator.
    christian bale's character in american psycho is an excellent example of a narcissistic psychopath.

  • Robin's journey
    Robin's journey 22 days ago +1

    Thank u im new to your channel i think my boyfriend is all three Can he be all three behaviors??

  • Lucky G
    Lucky G 22 days ago

    I know of one Narcissist. You described all the characteristics so accurately.

  • Meg Pie
    Meg Pie 23 days ago

    Is it possible for someone to be all 3? I swear I thought the person I am referring to was only a narcissist but now I truly believe he is a combination of all 3

  • Katie Takeuchi
    Katie Takeuchi 23 days ago +1

    Dr Phil’s brother right?

  • Kimberly Sizemore
    Kimberly Sizemore 24 days ago +1

    My mom was a narcissistic sociopath. I can’t tell you the hell I lived through until she died. Actually I was hurt badly by her bc it made her feel better so I’m not sure if she might have been a psychopath. It’s time for me to open up about it bc I obsess about the things that happened. It’s like I can’t move past it bc I never had closure for it. Should I she a therapist or should I go to someone that can write for meds and stuff?

    • Kimberly Sizemore
      Kimberly Sizemore 23 days ago +1

      Thank you for replying. Knowledge is power that I can use

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  23 days ago +1

      Here's the crummy news. Narcissism and sociopathy are not medical issues. And they tend to make poor candidates for counseling, although that is where you should start. Dr. C

  • Brian Cee
    Brian Cee 24 days ago +6

    It's money above all. That's what they want.

  • oceanofemeralds
    oceanofemeralds 24 days ago +2

    Do star signs come into this at all I wonder.

  • TJoseph Yoakum
    TJoseph Yoakum 24 days ago +1

    Very helpful! Thank you for doing these videos!
    I have distanced myself considerably from these types of people,but have a good friend who recently got out of a HORRIBLE relationship with someone that ( by your definition here) is a sociopath at minimum..and I would actually( again..by what you say here) call her a psychopath.
    I always wondered where the line was..you communicated that very well!

  • Cody Gigas
    Cody Gigas 24 days ago

    The more you learn, the more you find in the strangest places: bpdfamilyscam.family.blog/2019/11/10/example-post-2/

  • Nathan Jones
    Nathan Jones 25 days ago +1

    Their needs far outweigh your existence, and your needs mean nothing.
    They also like to control all of your relationships. Friends, family and child-parent relationships. It's how they control your perception of them, and others' perception of you.

  • Terri Manning
    Terri Manning 26 days ago +1

    Your videos have helped keep me sane this past 16months . My relationship ended violently . It was sudden & extreme . I'm still confused about that?

    • Surviving Narcissism
      Surviving Narcissism  25 days ago

      It can take a long time to unpack, particularly when you have to have ongoing contact due to a child. Stick with us! Dr. C

    • Terri Manning
      Terri Manning 26 days ago +1

      I'm still in a endless cycle of fighting . I'm basically no contact/ smart contact because we share a son ...

  • Patrice Boivin
    Patrice Boivin 26 days ago +1

    thank you for explaining the differences between the three