Body Language Expert Explains How to Show Confidence | WIRED

  • Published on Oct 17, 2021
  • Former FBI agent and body language expert Joe Navarro explains how we can project confidence through our body language. Joe takes a look at various celebrities and politicians and demonstrates the things that they do that can help them appear more confident.
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  • Pingu Nootson
    Pingu Nootson 6 months ago +13287

    Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.

  • Killer Queen
    Killer Queen 5 months ago +1846

    I feel like I just paid for a master class, wow

    • Buddy Revell
      Buddy Revell 4 days ago

      Weird...I saw the video for free.

    • I VisiBomb I
      I VisiBomb I Month ago +1

      but 'chu didn't!

    • Killer Queen
      Killer Queen Month ago +5

      @Giovanni Garcia thank you so much

    • Giovanni Garcia
      Giovanni Garcia Month ago +9

      You should read his books, or listen to them, they go into so much more depth. You'd love them, he teaches you A LOT.

  • kayla
    kayla 6 months ago +3143

    my notes:
    1. use cadence
    2. confidence is about being comfortable but controlled
    3. broad graceful smooth movements (less abrupt reactive movements)
    4. convey NOT convince (say it once)
    5. spaces force people to anticipate what you’re saying next
    6. typical “soldier posture” doesn’t equal confidence (comfort)
    7. decisiveness is imperative
    8. “the person in charge controls time” no need to speed up for anyone or anything
    9. self grooming (self soothing) behaviors look less confident (bc why are you soothing urself rn if you’re confident)
    10. if you’re scared, own it (say it) instead of trying to not be “found out” (literally worsens social anxiety)
    11. rehearse performance so it’s not sudden/new/scary when you first do it (more control)
    12. gain full confidence (breathe, etc) before facing the crowd
    14. KNOW your info/skills have something to be proud of and have the info to anchor and ground yourself in (so you won’t be unsure or face imposter syndrome)
    15. look around and make eye contact (keep eyes at about eye level)

  • Jessica
    Jessica 6 months ago +654

    Cate Blanchett is indeed a very good example. She has this quiet confidence, she's articulated but not loud, so when she speaks everyone listens.

    • Roky Erickson rocks
      Roky Erickson rocks 20 days ago

      The king is gone, but he’s not forgotten. This is the story of Johnny Rotten.

    • raphael halfon
      raphael halfon 29 days ago

      NO,NO,NO, END NO!

    • Be Be Bonni
      Be Be Bonni Month ago +4

      And yet she’s Australian, the most avid users of uptalk 😂

    • Laleh Rehmani
      Laleh Rehmani 2 months ago +13

      And being gorgeous helps her a lot too

    • Bennyton
      Bennyton 4 months ago +17

      She's the queen

  • iPettyNote
    iPettyNote 7 months ago +13681

    My social anxiety levels already went through the roof.
    **Goes to bed with confidence**

  • Orange_Soda_Pop
    Orange_Soda_Pop Month ago +239

    As a very shy, introverted, jittery person who recently became a professor, I'm gonna do everything I can to be more confident. Wish me luck you guys 🥴
    Edit: thank you everyone 😘 I'm much better than before. I used to sweat so much because I was very nervous. Now, I barely sweat. Here are some things that really helped me and hopefully might help you too: 1. Be very thoroughly prepared 2. Do not dissociate. Focus on the present and what's happening 3. Breathe 4. If you're still nervous in front a class, ask them a question and that will give you a few seconds to recon 5. Be punctual and the students will respect you more and in turn, that will make you more confident.

    • MossyMozart
      MossyMozart 4 days ago +1

      @Orange_Soda_Pop - You don't need luck, just a mirror and practice.

    • Abimbola Idowu
      Abimbola Idowu 6 days ago +2

      For you to be a professor means you have some confidence there. That is courage and confidence

    • randomnyss2011
      randomnyss2011 8 days ago +1

      All the best...

    • Arya Stark
      Arya Stark 10 days ago +2

      I know you can do it

    • 🔥FireNation🔥
      🔥FireNation🔥 11 days ago +1

      Good luck 🍀

  • Wilde Wilde
    Wilde Wilde 2 days ago +6

    I was born confident and as a little girl I was constantly scolded for being too bold or outspoken. Now I own it again and found joy in life like when I was true to myself.

  • artwork by bernizzz
    artwork by bernizzz 5 months ago +438

    0:58 Traits of Confidence
    3:11 Model
    4:48 Behaviors
    5:38 Intonation
    7:34 Cadence
    9:27 Nonverbals
    11:34 Public Speaking
    13:11 Conclusion

  • Mohammed Junaid
    Mohammed Junaid 6 months ago +487

    "I am here to convey. Not to convince" felt so powerful.

    • Nicole Nicole
      Nicole Nicole 6 months ago +2

      I do this now and my stress in speaking is much lowered .. and people react better towards me .. 😀😀

    • Devil Dev
      Devil Dev 6 months ago +2

      Like when we ask for a leave of absence.

  • Kimberly G.
    Kimberly G. 7 months ago +13155

    Public speaking technique: _shrink_ your audience scale. Pick 3 people in different parts of the audience. Talk just towards them. Not necessarily directly at them, but look in their general area, gliding back and forth between them. It's much easier to talk to 3 people than, 10, 100, 1000 or greater. It will bring down your anxiety and raise your confidence.

    • What
      What Day ago

      How to do that? How do i not overthink about what each and every single one of them thinks?

    • scholars digital solutions
      scholars digital solutions 5 days ago +2

      Very well said👌

    • Infinity
      Infinity Month ago +1

      I'm not even confident when I'm alone, that's how bad it is. I'm paranoid that maybe there was someone I didn't see or that a camera is recording me (CCTV and dash cams).

    • Bjoern Altmann
      Bjoern Altmann Month ago

      I found it much easier to talk to 100 people with bright lights on me, on a stage. It becomes quite anonymous - and the mike helped 😂 But in a room with 12 people it’s all up close and personal.

    • Swapnil
      Swapnil Month ago

      @Cesar Bernal This trick is not for raising confidence, it is to reduce Anxiety. confidence is gained over a period of time when the anxiety is gone.

  • Quite Mundane
    Quite Mundane 5 months ago +169

    For someone usually timid, anxious and can’t keep eye contact when speaking to someone, this video has taught me that confidence is more about knowledge with whatever you speak about, that it is not so much about forced external confidence (posture, facial expression, tone). You don’t even have to try too hard.
    I truly wish this video was created and came across it during my formative years. I lacked confidence when I was in elementary and high school, and unfortunately, in college too. I would have been a confident student then and would have performed better.

    • Ishtar Cephei
      Ishtar Cephei Month ago

      Would it help you to imagine the quantum world and that what you see as a person is nothing more than a neatly distributed association of molecules that at the very minute scale actually has a lot of empty spaces in there? Definitely better than that old idea of imagine the room empty.

  • Ashley
    Ashley 6 months ago +213

    I wish my parents taught me about confidence. I wish self love was taught in schools. 💛

    • Ashley
      Ashley 9 days ago +3

      @B L thank you so much. I hope so too 🙏🏾

    • B L
      B L 9 days ago +2

      It's part of life. And it's a life-long thing. I do recall learning bits and pieces of those in school. Confidence is something internal, too. Some of it can be taught, but some of it cannot. I hope you keep growing in confidence. You deserve to be confident.

    • 🔥FireNation🔥
      🔥FireNation🔥 11 days ago +1

      Life goes on. Don’t stay there

    • Mary O'Keefe
      Mary O'Keefe 5 months ago +11

      True, however it is never too late to teach ourselves. His examples about emulating other successful people we admire is very helpful.

    • Ashley
      Ashley 5 months ago +11

      @Pleiades Luciernaga No.

  • Stella Skopal
    Stella Skopal 6 months ago +414

    Actually, people ARE born confident. They just lose it in a process of growing up...

    • Sassy Barbarian
      Sassy Barbarian 3 days ago

      We need to be confident enough to pop that out

    • ClawPlaw
      ClawPlaw 27 days ago +1

      @Vega WRLD No cause same

    • Vega WRLD
      Vega WRLD Month ago +1

      False. Because I myself was NOT born confident.

    • Infinity
      Infinity Month ago

      To an extent, I agree. As we grow up, we become much more self aware, and more informed about what is and isn't socially acceptable. The way we act holds much more weight; acting confidently will land you more jobs, friendships, etc. We are, at a subliminal level, judged by others, and thus, feel as if we are forced to act a certain way, and these expectations ultimately destroy our confidence and "freedom" in a sense. These "restrictions" are ultimately what makes social anxiety so damaging.

    • Emiliapocalypse
      Emiliapocalypse 3 months ago +3

      Yes!! I used to be more confident than I am now, if one could ever call it that. Now I’ve lost what little I did have 😖

  • A A
    A A 4 months ago +45

    Honestly I feel like confidence comes naturally when you care about something so much that you are no longer sensitive to how people see you and how you appear in front of others. Like Jane Goodall or Colin Powell - I'm a person that has a mission that's important to me, plus huge experience and knowledge that built me, and I'm proud, and what the world thinks is not my concern.

  • Mila
    Mila 19 days ago +10

    I have ADHD so usually it's hard for me to focus on talks, speeches and so on. But when someone is really good at speaking and confident about what they're saying, I tend to pay more and even full attention. I paid full attention to this video and even remember what I learned after watching only once. This is my 2nd time here! Just to make sure I don't forget :)

  • No One
    No One 5 months ago +28

    Working on my own self confidence, and this was much appreciated. Never stop learning

  • Public Speaking Body Language

    "I think people sometimes mistake a machismo or theatrical displays of power as confidence. Confidence can be very quiet.” - I couldn't agree more! Speaking of theatrics, research into how dictators and dictatorships make use of it is a fascinating topic in its own right. I'm yet to come across an interesting/insightful analysis of it.

  • Sumbae 7
    Sumbae 7 Month ago +8

    To me confidence means being happy with who you are. Having that inner peace with the person you are.

  • Nathan
    Nathan 7 months ago +16860

    “a confident person takes their time to leave or enter a room”
    Me: arrives at school 50 minutes late to show my confidence

    • Nurihan Seiti
      Nurihan Seiti 8 days ago

      Hahahahahahahahahaha… you gained confident .. but you lost time

    • B L
      B L 9 days ago


    • Rose Donato
      Rose Donato 25 days ago

      Lmfao yesss!!

    • MsLovelace
      MsLovelace 2 months ago

      That's not confidence, that's unrespectful to people.

    • Maria Santana
      Maria Santana 2 months ago

      Just don't forget that it's disrespectful to make people wait for you, especially in a professional environment. It can be perceived as arrogant, rather than confident.

  • Carbon Footprint
    Carbon Footprint 3 months ago +3

    The presenter here delivers his knowledge succinctly. He IS the example of what he is teaching. Thank you for a concise, no extraneous lesson. It is has been immensely helpful.

  • Karolina Ska
    Karolina Ska 2 months ago +5

    This is SUCH a good presentation of the content. I'm saving it to watch again and again until I've internalized the principles covered here. Thank you!

  • Nini D
    Nini D 5 months ago +8

    Saying something once and doesn't need to convince people, so strong! Thank you this is so helpful!

  • SchattendragonflyPL
    SchattendragonflyPL 4 months ago +3

    I really enjoy listening to this man speaking and take a lot of his knowledge and experience that he shares. Thank you, Mr Joe Navarro.

  • January Eliot
    January Eliot 6 months ago +10883

    "confidence can be very quiet" - finally someone said it, thank you!

    • raphael halfon
      raphael halfon 29 days ago

      U3 not U2 it's ok!

    • Sheldon Cooper81
      Sheldon Cooper81 Month ago

      @January Eliot
      Keanu Reeves i Someone i Admire A LOT And Hugh Jackman and Dwayne Johnson and Robert Downey Jr.
      These men are all very quiet and speak Slowly in their Interviews.

    • Heidi Marchant
      Heidi Marchant Month ago +1

      The quiet but confident are the ones that are the most convincing usually and can tear a room to shreds within minutes.

    • C.
      C. Month ago

      Yes, Putin looks like a clown.

    • Alexander Windh
      Alexander Windh Month ago

      @What can possibly go wrong? Well.... Sometimes. Have to watch the clusters

  • Pao Poblete
    Pao Poblete 3 months ago +2

    Preparation and knowing your topic back and forth certainly helps me with my confidence when im conducting seminars and trainings. Knowing that I can answer every question (expected and unexpected ones) really makes me comfortable. Preparation and planning is the key. You don't wing a great public speaking act. Unless your super talented.

  • Yin
    Yin 6 months ago +1

    Well said and explained. I like the way the see about confidence. Some of the gestures, tricks suggested are subtle in nature yet can be very powerful in order to own the space and time/ audience you are being in and with.

  • Lakesha Laky
    Lakesha Laky 5 months ago +4

    Great video! There are so many great take aways! I was watching a TheXvidr life coach and she said something so profound, she mentioned that we were actually born with confidence, to add to this she pointed out that babies love themselves and feel proud to look themselves in the mirror, then I realized that they also are so confident that they do Not care what you think about them when they are crying for food, to be changed, or because of sleepiness.

  • Ani V
    Ani V 5 months ago +1

    I liked how he explained about being confident, I’m going to try this everyday! Thank you Mr. Joe Navarro!

  • Liszt Dylan
    Liszt Dylan 7 months ago +5798

    Working as a teacher, having good body language and tone to project confidence is super important. It can be the difference between a class that mocks you and one that respects you.

    • Pranay Ranjan
      Pranay Ranjan Month ago

      Being a teacher myself, I agree

    • Xaviar 77versus99
      Xaviar 77versus99 Month ago

      Whether that's good idea, it's fun to have a class clown teacher. And you get paid for it. You shouldn't have to discipline other people's children. You can't do that.

    • Mélodie
      Mélodie 2 months ago

      @izabelaR exactly!

    • izabelaR
      izabelaR 2 months ago +2

      @Mélodie I believe that. I never respected teachers who had too much ego but no heart. But those teachers that were truly passionate & confident about what they taught & enjoyed what they were doing, students loved & respected them.

  • Brian
    Brian 4 months ago +6

    One key to developing confidence, is getting to a point in your life that you don’t care what others think of you. Not in arrogance, but you realize that no man is to be the judge and jury of how you feel about yourself.

  • Princess Nouna
    Princess Nouna 6 months ago +2

    I watched a lot of videos to help me build that confidence when talking to audience but this man is the best. Thanks a lot !🙏

  • Sarah Yambao
    Sarah Yambao 3 months ago +7

    This makes sense. I honestly thought this would be full of blunder like the hundreds of confidence videos out there but thankfully this is actually useful and informative.

    • Cloot Scalhoun
      Cloot Scalhoun 25 days ago

      This guy of an actual expert and not a vacuous bag of social media nonsense

  • Misty Culous
    Misty Culous 3 months ago +2

    When I was young, I was so much taller than everyone else. I had to deal with the fact that people were going to look to see if I had heels on, up and down. Watching them do that so often when I walked into a room didn't mean they were also judging me in other ways. It was merely common curiosity how tall I really stood. Once I understood that - this made it much easier to be "confident."

  • Fleabag
    Fleabag 7 months ago +9343

    A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

    • Isabella Demarko
      Isabella Demarko 17 days ago

      i love that your name's fleabag in this context.

    • Phoenix
      Phoenix 4 months ago

      Ahaaaaaaaannnnn ohoooooooooo aaayhayyyyyyyyy wink wink 😉

    • fitnesspoint2006
      fitnesspoint2006 5 months ago

      there is a problem with what your said, if the compliment affected you that much then a criticism will affect you in the opposite direction just as much. The complement shouldn't affect you either.

    • TheAnimeist
      TheAnimeist 6 months ago

      @Fleabag - Yeah, moms have a way of making you feel good.

    • Skoo658
      Skoo658 7 months ago

      @Crusty Dinglecherry 🤣

  • music brazilian
    music brazilian 6 months ago +3

    Thank you for these tips. Another way of becoming more confident is to never stop learning.

  • Alex Spa
    Alex Spa Month ago

    Wow, this video is so good, useful tips..
    I found out there is a thin line between confidence and arrogance, and sometime we are being perceived the latter..
    Personally, fitting clothes always bring me a boost of confidence

  • Shinwari
    Shinwari 6 months ago +1

    THANK YOU! It was the most comprehensive and helpful video about the topic! Great job!

  • Rajani Dubey
    Rajani Dubey 5 months ago +5

    This man drops truth bombs throughout the video. This is the best TheXvid video I've come across confidence. 👍

  • twinkletoes800
    twinkletoes800 7 months ago +5426

    Confidence comes when you have a deep knowing that you are of value and worthy to be on this earth and worthy of respect and being listened to.

    • Fiyoro Ratso
      Fiyoro Ratso 4 months ago +1

      @That'sjustnotfair Still the way I said it is the only way to solve a problem.Doesn't matter if you're insulted or something else but if something cross the red line which depends on you you can get into fight unless there is another way but my way seems to fit into the even confusing situations

    • Peter Parker
      Peter Parker 4 months ago +1

      How to have confidence ?
      Be rich or atleast appear rich

      VITKO MUSIC 4 months ago

      All the people think that. But only few are worth something....
      So... Sorry.. Not true

    • Claudia Lamberts
      Claudia Lamberts 4 months ago


  • The Turkish Teacher
    The Turkish Teacher  2 months ago

    This was such an eye opener.The hand gestures indicating where the man's amazing how subtle changes in body language can convey you in a completely different light!

  • Maha Tony
    Maha Tony 28 days ago

    Thanks for your points of view but I believe that we should allow ourselves to show our uncertainty in our gesture if we feel like that otherwise we are faking confidence, after sometimes we might end up losing our credibility in front other people who believed in us.
    However, I certainly value putting effort on expressing ourselves in confidence in general.

  • Olen Sharaf
    Olen Sharaf 6 months ago

    Love the way you convey the information. Thank you!

  • zeindal
    zeindal 4 months ago

    Thank you very much for this video! It was very helpful and informative, something I will use in my life.

  • ʚWoLGɞ
    ʚWoLGɞ 7 months ago +4736

    Teacher: You should be confident
    Student: *Confidently answers the wrong answer*
    Teacher: **Humiliates the student**
    Student: - 9000Confidence

    • Infinity
      Infinity Month ago

      @keir farnum in this context, the latter.

    • icmull
      icmull 6 months ago

      @realfries thats because there are dumb questions. If you are in grade 12 and ask what is multiplication you should be laughed at. You shouldnt be this far along.

    • icmull
      icmull 6 months ago

      Thats called being overconfident.

    • Scarlet Wilson
      Scarlet Wilson 6 months ago


    • vee kay
      vee kay 6 months ago

      No one can humiliate you. You feel the humiliation after YOU have the thoughts. No one is responsible for your feelings. No one. Just you.

  • Caio Ferreira
    Caio Ferreira 5 months ago +1

    Body language is literally language in some languages and cultures. Perhaps some cultural traits even sustain stereotyped perceptions. A simple although vast "café da tarde mineiro" at my very humble Brazilian grandma's is a lesson for life. When she waves her frail hand in the air while she breathes, thinks, or even takes a sip at her coffee before continuing whatever she is saying, nobody makes a single sound. We would not dare! I could spot a Brazilian in a crowd, something about the way we communicate is very particular. Unfortunate, Bolsonaro is proof that confidence can also serve as a shield for ignorance or/and bad faith!

  • Knot Hardly
    Knot Hardly Month ago +1

    i have been asked all my life how am i so confident. i told them in the past and i tell them still... "i am not confident... i just don't doubt myself". there IS a difference. if i fail i learn. it is that simple. i am not always right... i am not always wrong but i am always advancing. 'confidence' is for those that wish to lie to themselves. you came into this life alone and you will leave this life alone so why worry about how others perceive you? it all lies in how you perceive yourself. start by not lying to yourself and know that even if you fail you succeed. "experience is what you get when you don't get what you want" cheers and may God bless

  • Rick writes
    Rick writes 5 months ago

    The cadence issue would be interesting to evaluate in syllable vs stress timed languages.
    For those who don't know: Stress-timed languages, you place the stressed syllables at equal intervals but shorten or lengthen the unstressed syllable to fill the time between intervals (English, Thai, Russian, Persian, German) if an English speaker this is most easily visualized when studying metered poetry.
    In syllable-timed languages, each syllable is given the same stress and time (Spanish, French, Italian, Mandarin, Cantonese, Icelandic, Turkish).
    Like I imagine JFKs speech would sound much more machine-gun like if he was a native Spanish speaker.
    How do you evaluate cadence in syllable-timed languages?

    • Infinity
      Infinity Month ago

      I guess it's time to speak in iambic pentameter.

  • Living Once Upon a Time

    Thank you! That was so clear and very helpful.

  • ananse77
    ananse77 4 months ago

    As he says at the end, I believe that the key to confidence is mastery - Mastery of yourself and of your skill/art.

  • Jaya makes art
    Jaya makes art 4 months ago +1

    Wish I had watched this yesterday before my speaking exam, one of the teachers critic was that I was too anxious (I’m still proud of myself cuz I usually have full on panic attacks when I do presentations, to the point I have to get out of the room, but this time I was just extremely nervous and fidgety but I still managed to do the presentation)

  • Anand Kumar Ranganathan

    one of the best videos i ve seen so far. Hats off to Joe Navarro and the team ! :)

  • Rajan Khanal
    Rajan Khanal 5 months ago +8

    You will appear confident when you actually feel confident. So focus on knowing yourself ( "know thyself" ) and developing yourself & not only on how to appear confident.

    NEON KUE 7 months ago +3850

    Confidence is a learned trait that builds up naturally as you put yourself in a situation repeatedly and get rewarded for it. Everyone starts out insecure cus they don’t know what to expect or how to react in a new situation. Over time, it just becomes muscle memory in how you act and speak on a regular basis regardless if you get rewarded for it or not.

    • NEON KUE
      NEON KUE 6 months ago

      @honeycomb Try it a different way. If you’re truly determined, you will find a way to overcome your past mistakes. Take a look at all the other things you have accomplished and use that same energy to drive everything else. Build confidence off other successes to succeed in new obstacles.

    • honeycomb
      honeycomb 7 months ago

      @NEON KUE but if you fail over and over again then how do you build confidence? If confidence is build on successes then what a person should do if they mostly fail?

    • la la
      la la 7 months ago

      A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

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      Wendi Watson 7 months ago


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      Mahashweta Borgohain 7 months ago


  • sop rona
    sop rona 6 months ago

    This man is amazing! I learned a lot!

  • Mind Life Flow
    Mind Life Flow 2 months ago

    Interesting video content - thank you! Confidence can be displayed in many different ways...and body language is such an important part of the puzzle right? thanks

  • Anne Greener
    Anne Greener 3 months ago +1

    Could listen to this everyday. Thank you. So empowering.

  • Sonia x
    Sonia x 4 months ago +1

    Being able to speak publicly is a big plus. I have somewhat nerves but when ever i have always had to make a speech or lead vocally i have a level of confidence because i know what i am doing

  • Gabrielle Snow
    Gabrielle Snow 7 months ago +5855

    Knowing that 2.7 million people just learned how to say “no” correctly is amazing

    • Vibhor Anand
      Vibhor Anand 5 days ago

      @Val Elliott sure 😳🤣

    • Val Elliott
      Val Elliott 29 days ago

      @Vibhor Anand would you like an ice cream cone? Whoa kind of aggressive.

    • Haylie R. Wilson
      Haylie R. Wilson Month ago

      @Infinity but you have the confidence to comment, and that's all that counts lmao

    • Infinity
      Infinity Month ago

      I didn't say a word throughout the video because I'm not confident enough to speak :(

    • Reo Rio
      Reo Rio Month ago

      @A B thank you

  • Elizabeth Freshour
    Elizabeth Freshour 4 months ago

    This is brilliant. I already showed my kid that powerful advice on how to say no.

  • Beatrice T
    Beatrice T 6 months ago +40

    When you know your worth, it's easy to exude confidence. ✨ BTW, this video is biased towards men due to the disproportionate examples of male leaders. The Kim Kardashian example is petty. Women often "upspeak" because we are brought up to "be nice". It's not a lack of confidence, but more of a learned social behaviour.

    • Beatrice T
      Beatrice T Month ago

      @The Heart of Texas I don't agree that Upspeak sounds ridiculous. If you want to talk about dismissed geographical speech inflections, start with the Texan drawl or the mountain twang.

    • The Heart of Texas
      The Heart of Texas Month ago +1

      I disagree. “Upspeak” is an affectation that came out of “valley girl “ speak. It, and vocal fry, sound ridiculous, and makes most listeners discount and/or dismiss the speaker.

    • Pleiades Luciernaga
      Pleiades Luciernaga 5 months ago +6

      Kardashian has inspired millions of women to use uptalk and fry talk, both of which sound unprofessional.

  • peg o'
    peg o' Month ago

    I WISH the information in this video was available when I was working. I was very good at my job, but had this video been available then, I could have been great at my job. Love these videos.

  • Rachel Forbes
    Rachel Forbes 3 months ago

    This video actually taught me a lot, and it’s practical too! Thank you!

  • BlazeOfGlory717
    BlazeOfGlory717 7 months ago +3543

    Finally a video that does not just focus on posture, intonation, gestures, etc but emphasises the importance of KNOWING the subject you're talking about.

    • 딸기 가 좋아
      딸기 가 좋아 2 months ago

      @la la lmao it’s so sad when you copy someone’s comment word for word. On a video about confidence no less. Either come up with your own comment or say nothing

    • kota
      kota 7 months ago

      @GUNS Me T T i dont think they were being serious

    • V Perez
      V Perez 7 months ago +2

      @la la same. One of my most respected friends told me I walk in the room like I can have anything I want. Outside perspectives give so much confirmation!

    • Aristote 78
      Aristote 78 7 months ago +5

      Agree with you, knowing the subject is the most important, it gives more self confidence

    • Vishwa Rao
      Vishwa Rao 7 months ago


  • We Grow People
    We Grow People 6 months ago +1

    Confidence is not a concrete characteristic. There are things we can do to influence our confidence level. Whether we realize it or not, we all go through waves of low and high confidence, depending on the scenario, or based on what else we’ve done that day. For some of us, it’s based on what we’re wearing or how we’re feeling. There are some situations that universally test our confidence more than others, but the good news is that you can build confidence.

  • Colored pencil Art with RJK24

    Very nicely explained 👏

  • Sasi Saipim
    Sasi Saipim 3 months ago

    Thank you so much indeed! The content is very useful for learning and improving myself.✨🙏💝

  • John George
    John George 6 months ago +9

    Listening to this expert, I feel confident.

  • Ophelia Rising
    Ophelia Rising 7 months ago +3179

    As a woman, choosing makeup, hair and outfits appropriately hugely impacts my confidence. When I’m at my lowest, I can’t even make an eye contact, but at my best, my spine straightens up itself.

    • Nicole Allen
      Nicole Allen 2 months ago

      Lol i call it my confidence suit - I’m a faker idc

    • Klm49
      Klm49 2 months ago

      @Tim Molloy Do you want to make someone else feel small and weak for no reason??

    • Naicia Jones
      Naicia Jones 4 months ago

      @jupiter212 wooow beautiful explanation ! .. I believe that also 😇

    • RandomPower
      RandomPower 4 months ago


  • Tasha
    Tasha Month ago +5

    Being Australian, uptalk is *LITERALLY* our entire accent lol 😅
    Very difficult to change...

    • Star Victory
      Star Victory Month ago +1

      Same in Norwegian and Swedish. It's our language.

  • Marco Sander
    Marco Sander 3 months ago

    Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be fine anyway is always a great mindset to have

  • AnnieWays
    AnnieWays 2 months ago +1

    Glad I said "No" the exact same way he did, been practicing how to say no while learning boundaries.

  • CT1010101
    CT1010101 5 months ago +3

    4:15 But Cary Grant was riddled with self doubt. He's quoted as saying "a lot of people want to be Cart Grant and I'm one of them."

  • Teressa E.
    Teressa E. 7 months ago +9151

    I cant wait to use this for all the public speaking and confrontation I won't be doing!

    • Infinity
      Infinity Month ago +1

      I've mastered the art of avoiding to speak and do human interactions. I've actually never done an interview.

    • Lina Gazelle
      Lina Gazelle 6 months ago

      You don't have to do a public speaking to apply these tips. These can be used with any person you talk to in every day life.
      It is all part of looking confident, with any person.

    • Balaka
      Balaka 6 months ago

      me prepping for a party 😂 😂

    • amyt9119
      amyt9119 6 months ago


    • Illiana Maxwell
      Illiana Maxwell 7 months ago +1

      @Amber Howard Dude same... I've been giving imaginary TED talks for so

  • Christine
    Christine 5 months ago

    I really enjoyed this and found it enlightening. The part about 'uptalk' was also really funny, because it's how so many millennials (including myself) have become accustomed to speaking.

  • Scroubignon
    Scroubignon Month ago +2

    The utmost confidence for me is illustrated in a story about a Russian tsar (I think it was Alexander III).
    As he was fishing, one of his counselors urged him to hurry back to the city because several european headstates were waiting for him to discuss important matters.
    His answer was "The Tsar is fishing. Europe can wait."
    Imagine having 20% of that confidence.

    • Dave W
      Dave W Month ago

      Wasting other people's time just because you are in a position of power doesn't make you confident, but rather arrogant. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and is very easy to cross the line without knowing it.

  • Devil Dev
    Devil Dev 6 months ago +6

    Confidence comes free when you know what you are doing.

  • Brutal Leper
    Brutal Leper 4 months ago

    I've never been scared w public speaking. I love it and it makes me know I immediately belong because i know i know what i know and people are listening because i do have the research and the authority. I never thought about every day life as this. I suppose it should be the same thing. Just to treat life like public speaking.

  • Mtra.der.veler
    Mtra.der.veler 7 months ago +2576

    Not being intimidated by others can make you confident. No matter what your status in life is, we're all just humans.

    • Peter Parker
      Peter Parker 4 months ago

      How to have confidence ?
      Be rich or atleast appear rich

    • yves pascal tshingani
      yves pascal tshingani 5 months ago


    • tahsina .c
      tahsina .c 6 months ago +4

      @Ray D Tutto very true the educational system drills hierarchies into us and constantly reminds us where we are and that we should stay there

    • Dave Crupel
      Dave Crupel 6 months ago

      @IanFromCalifornia Superhuman category?
      Nice. I agree. 👌

    • Ray D Tutto
      Ray D Tutto 6 months ago +6

      It's all about breaking the programming that schools and the media have conditioned us with. Certain roles must be treated a certain way. Theres a reason you can walk in anywhere and not get questioned wearing the right uniform or just carrying a clipboard/wearing a reflective high vis vest.

  • E.L.
    E.L. 3 months ago

    The way he explained everything made it make so much sense

  • Somesh Golait
    Somesh Golait 3 days ago

    #Nailed It.
    Just Practice What High Value People Are Doing That's It.

  • Shahina Akhter
    Shahina Akhter 5 months ago

    Wonderful lessons. Thank you

  • Rania bella
    Rania bella 2 months ago

    Infinitely helpful. Thank you.

  • De livia
    De livia 7 months ago +1312

    Confidence in the way one walks is actually very admirable and attractive. One of my classmates always carries herself with certainty and elegance, so natural and smooth, no awkwardness or hesitation in her gestures. It speaks a lot about her well balanced personality and ability to socialise in different environments. Quite impressive in my opinion:)

  • Danuta Hanyga
    Danuta Hanyga 6 months ago

    These are great videos. Really helpful.

  • Charmaine Tico
    Charmaine Tico 6 months ago +2

    I have severe social anxiety, yet some of my colleague finds me intimidating. I was shocked to know that they see me like that when in fact, I felt small in front of them.

  • Rana Singh
    Rana Singh 4 months ago

    I have read his book. What every body is saying.
    Such an amazing book he has written.

  • M Manique
    M Manique 4 months ago

    Excellent video very informative 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👍🏼

  • EzLivingMD Soulphysician
    EzLivingMD Soulphysician 7 months ago +2813

    Children are born confident, they lose it due to whatever their environment nurtures. I agree with everything else... Nice talk!

    • It's a blessing being an American.
      It's a blessing being an American. 22 days ago

      Negative parental influences.

    • raphael halfon
      raphael halfon 29 days ago

      What are you doing?

    • Wouter
      Wouter Month ago +1

      I doubt a tiny infant has any reason to be confident.. You start out super fragile, incompetent and 100% dependant on others

    • Clark
      Clark Month ago +2

      Because Children doesn't even know right and wrong, when you know the difference between Right and wrong it gives you signal not to do the wrong things. Ignorance gives you confidence.

    • BitchChill
      BitchChill 2 months ago +1

      Everyone is born neutral

  • Figaro Hey!
    Figaro Hey! 6 months ago

    If you know what you are talking about, you have authority. You are believable. Knowing you really know your stuff and can calmly explain what you know gives you confidence. Jane Goodall knew her stuff and was a world-famous expert. She might not have come across so confident in a stressful emotional situation. Cary Grant knew thoroughly how to present himself as a particular kind of person. His total mastery of that knowledge was the key to confidence.

  • Taslima Akter
    Taslima Akter 3 months ago +1

    I watched your video about 5 times at a time. So magnetic speech! Thank you so much.

  • Hooping_hood_ Mike
    Hooping_hood_ Mike 5 months ago

    That looking around thing is really difficult for me , a lot of times i find myself walking on a straight line towards my "goal/task" so that way i don't look around , but when I realise it i can fix it on the spot ... So what does that mean ? If my confidence low would i be able to fix it ?

  • Poot Lovato
    Poot Lovato 2 months ago

    valuable resource/information offered, at some points though - this guy is the epitome of not changing (a flawed) system but adapting yourself to fit it.

    BELPHECROW 7 months ago +7345

    need me this after our years of quarantine so i can have a humanlike posture as opposed to the semi-pterodactyl stance i've developed as a result of solitude

      BELPHECROW 4 months ago +2

      glad i could make some people laugh :D and for the "years?" people, check ur calendars

    • vee kay
      vee kay 6 months ago

      What planet are you living on where there've been "years of quarantine?"

    • Christine Agnew
      Christine Agnew 6 months ago +2

      I think right now, the art of the "pterodactyl" you've mastered, is important. blending in instead of standing out can be extremely useful in extreme circumstances.

    • Vanessa K
      Vanessa K 7 months ago


    • Bina
      Bina 7 months ago

      Lmao 😂

  • Petr Dvořák
    Petr Dvořák 4 months ago

    This was a trully amazing video of people just working normally. Bravo!!!

  • haidyyorlena
    haidyyorlena 2 months ago

    Absolutely wonderful! Thank you!

  • iKandy
    iKandy 6 months ago +8

    I wish professionals like this gentleman gave importance to charisma. Confidence without charisma is never received well. That being said, a charismatic person is very subjective so it's hard to necessarily teach people that. Body language and gestures only works on some and can actually be very off-putting to those who are knowledgeable about these things- they can get quite defensive because they feel as though they are being manipulated.
    I will say that the propelling force of influence these days is relatability. I've seen celebs and everyday people who aren't the best people by any stretch of the imagination, they may be incredibly selfish etc. However, if people find them relatable, all sins are forgiven. If the masses don't relate to someone, no amount of good they do or gestures etc will win them over, people will almost look for any reason or twist any scenario to fit their negative narrative.

  • cyberstud007
    cyberstud007 6 months ago

    I watched motivational videos like Bob proctor mind power. Later my mind changed differently. There was an interview to attend and I got selected in the first 5 mins of the interview. After a month or so the CTO said I had a dozen of interviews and your confidence was enough to know that you will be able to do the job. So yes. I think confidence makes a difference.

  • Yutubechannel
    Yutubechannel 4 months ago +2

    Thank you, this really helps, I'll try to be more confident next time.

  • Heidi Marchant
    Heidi Marchant Month ago +1

    Being humble can be more beneficial in the long run than someone whose overconfident, that's my 2 cents of the day!

  • Queen of the Butterflies

    When you TRULY LOVE YOURSELF you are confident. You don't need any1 else's approval. Peace and love - Thankyou for this video, Joe, great information xxoo