Girl Chat: Embracing Your Age

  • Published on Feb 9, 2019
  • The ladies of “The Real” chat about premature age anxiety and society’s perception of age, specifically in relation to women. They also have an open discussion about tattoos and the judgment that surrounds them. Do you have any tattoos? If so, do you feel like people judge you for them?

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Comments • 423

  • monikabutmaybedaisy

    This makes me feel better about my age... I know I need to chill but I’ve always had a fear of growing up..

  • Meme L
    Meme L 2 days ago

    love Monica

  • jen s
    jen s 6 days ago

    Tamera u look great hun

  • Abiana C
    Abiana C 10 days ago

    Okay guys but still, use an antiaging cream and sunscreen
    protect your skin, drink lots of water, eat three meals, sleep, move a lot, and you'll age gracefully

  • GigiSxm
    GigiSxm 11 days ago

    My first greys were in the nether regions. Nobody prepared me for this

  • tisland
    tisland 12 days ago

    It's actually younger women who shame older women for their age; and they do it harshly. Little do they know that they are aging themselves. They need to stop and realize that if another woman was born before them then all that means is that they were born before them. It doesn't change anything...happiness, sexiness, love remains...the difference is intelligence and maturity improves. Ppl need to learn that aging is a source of privilege, not a disadvantage as most want to enforce.

  • The Sweet Forever
    The Sweet Forever 14 days ago

    All my life, I never looked forward to 30 😂. It seems so old. But after 30 is fine 🤷🏾‍♀️😂. I have 6 years to go 😤. Better drag on. Not ready to turn 30.

  • Norma M. Perez
    Norma M. Perez 17 days ago

    Make these clips longer and NOT 100 years old

  • Shreese Vanderhorst
    Shreese Vanderhorst 17 days ago

    Monica's makeup is flawless!!!

  • benni secreto
    benni secreto 25 days ago

    Tamera is so beautiful! I love your curls!

  • The Cool Dude
    The Cool Dude 25 days ago +1

    Tamara and Adrienne like their men old

  • Chen Kin
    Chen Kin 27 days ago

    I am not a fan of this new guest host

  • Boney Locs
    Boney Locs 28 days ago

    I love Lani! She said give them a juice box and an Xbox.

  • Jenie's MindEscape
    Jenie's MindEscape Month ago

    I am 40 and I feel pretty awesome. The things I worried about in my 20s and 30s no longer hold as much weight. Although I have my moments of feeling I am not where I want to be in life, I am reminded of how much I have accomplished and survived. As I get older, I am more focused on how I can be a better person and how I can contribute to a better world rather than materialistic things. #feelingblessed

  • Antonia Chavez
    Antonia Chavez Month ago +1

    When people say "I'm going grey!" like it's a bad thing gets to me everytime 😂 I literally started going grey at 13!! And I love it!!!🥰✌💋💁‍♀️ and I guess it's not necessarily grey its straight up white!👯‍♀️💟

    • Antonia Chavez
      Antonia Chavez Month ago

      @Denise Jimenez awe girl thank you so much!! And I totally understand where your coming from though! I'm 24 now and it took me a while to get here.. When they first started coming in I didn't like it because they were just short white hairs popping up (and only in the front where my streak is now) and they were so hard to maintain. Most of high school I started bleaching my hair and dying it all different colors, but eventually when the white becane more prominent I had to bleach my hair more and more to get my colors to stick. I just didn't want to damage it anymore so I dyed it all one color in 2013 and haven't colored it since.. Everyone always asks where I get it done because they've tried it and it never comes out as white and I'm just there like "uhh it's not dyed, but thank you"😂

    • Denise Jimenez
      Denise Jimenez Month ago +1

      Antonia Chavez omg i started getting greys at about 19/20 and since then (i’ll be 27 soon) i’ve HATEDDDDD my hair so i dye it blonde lmao i wish i was as confident as you are, maybe one day 😂 your hair looks amazing on you 😍

  • Jullie
    Jullie Month ago

    When she asked do you guys Ever wanna go back to your 20s ? And everyone said “ heck no “ “no!” Lol stop lying . Ya stay frontin

  • 123hgardner
    123hgardner Month ago

    I guess I am weird. The alternative to growing older is death and I want to live! I'm happy to be alive!

  • Mrs. Magical Monica
    Mrs. Magical Monica 2 months ago

    I absolutely LOVE Monica! She’s beautiful and her voice is amazing.

  • Palesa Thipane
    Palesa Thipane 2 months ago

    I love jeani

  • Yolanda Warren
    Yolanda Warren 2 months ago

    Did Monica just say that she is 36? I thought she was 38 and will be 39 later this year.

  • Rochelle Smith
    Rochelle Smith 2 months ago

    When Tam said 2 amazing women in her life, I thought she said kids lol

  • Big O
    Big O 2 months ago

    I love older women currently looking for a woman 40+

  • Charles Skipper
    Charles Skipper 3 months ago +1

    Tht top tht Jeannie wearin is the same top tht Cardi B wore on love and hip hop the reunion

  • Heida Summer
    Heida Summer 3 months ago

    Get it Monica, get it! I married 7 yrs younger. I'm 40, he's 33. We're 7 years, 1 mth and 8 days apart. 😍

  • Kayla Bullock
    Kayla Bullock 3 months ago +1

    Who else thought of the Kardashian/Jenner family during this convo?😂😂😂

  • Atta Senior
    Atta Senior 3 months ago

    I do too and I’m only 16 I feel so old where is my childhood

  • Luc-sen's Cham
    Luc-sen's Cham 3 months ago

    it is totally different for me... I always looked older than my age, I am 19 I am just now learning how to do the makeup stuff and the only time I really wear is when i am going to church sometimes but it's nothing crazy lml... but even without makeup, I look older than my age... it's to the point where I feel uncomfortable with my face and body because I always get hit on by older people, I never get hit on by people my age..... And whenever I am walking with my siblings they say I am their mom, when I am with my mom they say I look like the mother, or when I am with my aunt they say we look like sisters... and it's really hard tbh but I gotta deal with it... so I done went through so many things in my 19 years of existence that I feel like a 30-year-old mentally lol !

  • jay
    jay 3 months ago

    "im not afraid to turn 40 because i look very young" that's the whole point of the conversation tamera. women fear ageing because their looks change/ they decrease in value. so you saying you look younger than your age feeds into that idea that if you don't you have less value/ you should dread your birthday

  • Michelle lopez
    Michelle lopez 3 months ago

    11:35 omg yes amen

  • KiKi !!!!!!
    KiKi !!!!!! 3 months ago

    Loni makeup is like a box of never know what your going to get !

  • Silent Me
    Silent Me 3 months ago

    ??? Do they know that millennials are about to turn 30?? Millennials don’t stay 25 forever

  • Carla Maddison
    Carla Maddison 3 months ago

    lol !!! lol!!! Monica put a white jesus on her arm LOL !!1 daaang... has she never read the bible...jesus is black from the line of judah, david....and they are described as black unto the !!!!

  • claritycentral
    claritycentral 3 months ago

    I relate with the Golden Girls....not even 40 but i feel comfortable hanging out with those golden girls. They make being old seem exciting lol...
    It was not until the photo came up that i realised that the Woman in the middle is Monica.

  • Ellis Smith
    Ellis Smith 3 months ago


  • Sparkle & Shine
    Sparkle & Shine 3 months ago

    I am 25 and I think the way you think. It just depends what life has given you to deal with.

  • amzz xx
    amzz xx 3 months ago

    I’m 15😂

  • A New Love Official
    A New Love Official 3 months ago +1

    Age is never a problem unless you let yourself look older than Your age though. I feel so happy for Monica about her love life because even if her boyfriend is 5 years younger than her but it's not gonna be an issue with them.

  • Gina Pacheco
    Gina Pacheco 3 months ago

    i LOVE tameras hair in this

  • Onefaithinjesus Cross
    Onefaithinjesus Cross 3 months ago

    Yeah that look don't mess with me I dare you to mess with me

  • Onefaithinjesus Cross
    Onefaithinjesus Cross 3 months ago

    Okay it shows all in his face that he g*********** tattoo or no tattoo he looks like a gang banger change of face and maybe people are change the way they perceive you are what you wear

  • Yoncé Knowles
    Yoncé Knowles 3 months ago

    she has a white jesus tattooed on her arm..that in itself says alot about how much she knows about her history..doesnt the bible say not to mark your body? lol oh the irony...

  • Glenda Rashanna
    Glenda Rashanna 3 months ago

    Even though this is old, I hate this, only because I'm a millennial and went to school for beauty marketing and merchandise and one of the most important things I learned is that skin care and anti aging products can actually be beneficial to your looks if you're using them in your earlier ages. Although it's not needed, I just feel like this topic wasn't researched enough. We live in a generation where we have more access to information that wasn't accessible before.

  • Brittany Jacqueline
    Brittany Jacqueline 3 months ago

    "Times change" but origins don't honey. Js 🤷🏽

  • Jewels Ohbearing
    Jewels Ohbearing 3 months ago

    Mine has no meaning. It is estheticall y attractive tribal art.

  • Jewels Ohbearing
    Jewels Ohbearing 3 months ago

    Oh. That's too many I only have a few. Back of my neck. Guys can do that. I love this show it's almost like the other panel.

  • Jewels Ohbearing
    Jewels Ohbearing 3 months ago


  • Michelle Cortez
    Michelle Cortez 3 months ago

    I’m only 23 years old and there’s some nights when I’m in bed and I start thinking of me getting closer to 30 and that gets me thinking about HOLY COW I’m going from 30s to 40s ext. and That leads to me having a panic attack but it’s not because I’m ma get “ Old “ that I worry about. But because I’m scared of getting closer to death. I also think about will I have my own family? and if I don’t will I be ok with leaving this earth without leaving a peace of me behind? UGH! 😖

    BRANDY D 3 months ago

    Has Jeannie and Adrienne fulfilled bucket list of Jeannie's by 40 crashing wedding???🤔🤔🤔

  • Bria Monique Burnette
    Bria Monique Burnette 3 months ago +4

    I'm black I'm not worried! Sorry😂 we glow differently 😍🔥

    But did she say a science project 🤣

  • Christmie Racine
    Christmie Racine 3 months ago

    I started going gray really young like 14

  • Paris Roam
    Paris Roam 3 months ago

    This was only a month ago, but why does it look like Adrienne is 10 years younger right here?

  • raeloves
    raeloves 3 months ago +1

    Loni looked good in this episode 😍

  • puppylover 246
    puppylover 246 3 months ago

    Turning 31 was. Best age ever

  • TheTyWay
    TheTyWay 3 months ago

    Adrienne looking like she has botox or some other fillers.

  • Tiffany W
    Tiffany W 4 months ago

    @ 5:45 I've been thru sum thangs.... Yassssss A! I feel the same way (in my mid 30's) lmao

  • R R
    R R 4 months ago

    I started feeling old since I turned 24. I thought entering my mid twenties was old and I dreaded my birthdays, but I realized it wasn’t the number. I just wasn’t where I wanted to be at that age.

  • Rainy Pow
    Rainy Pow 4 months ago

    It's immaturity thinking

  • Molly1321
    Molly1321 4 months ago

    Tamera is so quiet

  • kelly burgess
    kelly burgess 4 months ago

    Tamera me too!!! Lmao none on my head but in South Africa....... lol

  • Kayte Larsen
    Kayte Larsen 4 months ago

    Grey hair I thought can be reversed if you cleanse kidneys?

  • Taylor Reed
    Taylor Reed 4 months ago

    Why does loni always look angry for no reason 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

  • Slim/Thick🔥 Apostolic Chic🔥

    Times change but Gods word never changes👀

  • Francena
    Francena 4 months ago

    I love Monica.

  • Tricia Charlton
    Tricia Charlton 4 months ago

    Back when Jeannie was skinny

  • Maricruz
    Maricruz 4 months ago +2

    I'm 24 and people always think I'm 16, and when I was 18 people thought I was 12 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

  • Maricruz
    Maricruz 4 months ago

    Oh yeah like I'm going to go up to a gang member with a gun and ask him what he's tattoos mean 🤔 nah I'm not trying to get shot.

  • Sisandra
    Sisandra 4 months ago

    Im 22 and have grey hair😩

  • Abigail S
    Abigail S 4 months ago

    I LOVE MONICA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Ben Ola
    Ben Ola 4 months ago +1

    Am I the only one that think she looks older? Lady in middle

  • Page Joudian
    Page Joudian 4 months ago

    Time has change, but not God