I'm A Tomboy, And No One Wants To Date Me

  • Published on Dec 1, 2018
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    This is Jo. Actually, her name is Josephine, but you wouldn’t be able to imagine a person less suitable to be called Josephine. She’s a tomboy, and she’s proud of it. However, life as a tomboy is not as amusing as you might imagine. She’s faced a lot of problems, and she wants to tell you about them.
    Jo had trouble communicating with other girls right from her early childhood. She remembers one time when a large group of children had gathered in one place for a party or something, and her mom gently pushed her towards the other girls and said, “go play with the dolls, make friends with someone!” She diligently started moving dolls here and there and listening to boring talk about girly problems, but all the while she kept looking at the boys, who were playing something thrilling, laughing and doing their boyish stuff. She was so envious that at some point she just silently stood up and joined them. That was the moment when the fun started for her.
    Things didn’t improve as the years went by. Jo was always attracted to the world of boys, and all of her friends were boys as well. She felt at ease when she talked to them, and felt that she understood their problems and their way of thinking better. Whereas when she was around girls, she was totally clueless. Their problems were hard for her to follow, especially when they complained about boys.
    Jo had to adapt her looks to her lifestyle as well. When she went out with her friends, they always did something active, like skateboarding or exploring abandoned buildings or climbing trees. For these kinds of things, you need to dress in a practical way. She found out that jeans and hoodies are much more comfortable in this respect than typical girls’ clothes, which she had always hated in any case. And that is how she has dressed her whole life. For Jo, it was always a tragedy when they made some formal visit and she needed to dress “properly”, as people would call it. A cute dress, shiny shoes, a neat hairdo… ugh. As you can probably imagine, phrases like “wear skirts, be more feminine, you’re a girl” were the things she kept hearing time and again, until at one point her parents just gave up.
    It wasn’t that Jo felt she was ugly or anything, and that being a tomboy was her way of gaining confidence. She actually thinks she’s quite cute, and when she’s forced to be a girly girl she looks no worse than her peers. For her, being a tomboy is a lifestyle, and she’s happy with that. The problem was that some time ago, she’d noticed that her friends had started dating.
    One of the things that people were often mistaken about was the belief that because Jo was a tomboy, she must be gay. But she’s actually attracted to boys, not girls. Ironically, she actually gets a lot of backtalking from girls who say that she’s just trying to get attention from all the boys around her. She’s never taken this seriously, because she’s never had THAT kind of attention from the boys. Which is actually the core of her problem.
    Yes, she’s seeking her first romance. She has lots of boys around her. So what’s the problem, you might ask. The problem is that they don’t really see her as a girl! They know she’s a girl, of course, but they don’t want to date her, because who would date a bro? Once, there was a boy she liked, and she thought it would be wise to approach him and ask if he wanted to go out with her. And guess what - he just laughed at her! He wasn’t mean or anything, it was more something like “Sorry bro, I don’t see you as a GIRL”. Seeing the look on her face, he corrected himself: “I mean, THAT kind of a girl”. Oh thanks, now that’s much better!
    This was the first time when being a tomboy had a negative effect on her life. She even tried to put on make up and a dress, but felt really weird and the boys just looked at her strange as well. She gave up and lost hope. It seemed like it was a price that she had to pay to keep the comfortable and amusing life of a tomboy. She became a bit melancholic looking at all those happy couples, and felt that something was missing from her life for the first time.
    One day she was invited out to go skateboarding, but she wasn’t in the mood so she just sat there, watching her friends and thinking her sad thoughts. One of her oldest friends soon came over to sit with her and asked why she was so sad. She didn’t want to lie, so she explained everything as it really was - that no one wanted to date her because no one considered her a potential girlfriend. “Don’t cry”, he said, “I’ll go on a date with you!” She refused out self-respect. “I don’t need charity”, she said. Suddenly, he became very serious and said that he really wanted to. And so she accepted. Accidentally, she had made the same mistake all her friends had made with her - she hadn’t considered his feelings, because you don’t go on dates with buddies. Well, she was mistaken.
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    • Karina Lopez
      Karina Lopez 12 days ago

      I'm kind of a tomboy but i have a boyfriend

    • Bree’s Channel
      Bree’s Channel 25 days ago

      silver cross .1082 I’m exactly a tomboy!!

    • kit kate
      kit kate Month ago

      Im have never hear a story so much like my story

    • Mounib Abbas
      Mounib Abbas Month ago

      Wait wtf is this?

  • chicken or noob
    chicken or noob Day ago

    So if you're a killer and hates the human race someone will still want to date you? 😯😮

  • Gacha_ JaydentheFox

    I am too

  • Slime Lover
    Slime Lover Day ago

    I’m a female and I have never worn a dress.

  • drizz c
    drizz c Day ago

    Same but i dont skate

  • Deborah Rossney
    Deborah Rossney Day ago

    I'm a tomboy and I feel to bad

  • E'ire Quigley
    E'ire Quigley Day ago +1

    I can relate to some of your struggles but a lot of guys that I'm friends with do you like me in that way even if I don't and there's a lot of other tomboys besides me in my school.

  • DjPsychoGirl
    DjPsychoGirl Day ago

    Why did you amdeba story about me? XD

  • Aaliyah Ali
    Aaliyah Ali Day ago

    I am a tomboy, toooo

  • 14008 xxx
    14008 xxx Day ago

    oh hell noooooo

  • Nirwan Syah
    Nirwan Syah Day ago +1

    I am tomboy and someone have a crush on me...

    Idk why and everyone like me?and i'm very pretty they say...

    Why me? T^T

  • amazing wolfld
    amazing wolfld 2 days ago

    I'm a tomboy and my mom doesn't want me to be a tomboy she what's me to be a girly girl and I don't what to be a girly girl

  • kaysa chanツ real name reliza

    Maybe tomboy is a good personal cuz I'm gay ;3

  • Amarette Lewis-Degaetano

    I feel you Me and my sister

  • KB Gacha
    KB Gacha 2 days ago

    And when ur trying to find a guy be u

  • KB Gacha
    KB Gacha 2 days ago

    I'm like her but I like fashion cutting my hair shaving a side and I have a boyfriend he loves me

  • disman 360
    disman 360 2 days ago

    I realate

  • Derp Potato
    Derp Potato 2 days ago

    Pshhh you think that’s hard try being trans and finding a mate

  • DRlo13 75857
    DRlo13 75857 2 days ago

    Just dont say nothing to the bullys

  • Fun time with Nadia tv

    Well I’m a tomboy and I’m not gay or straight I’m bisexual

  • Alyssa Millington
    Alyssa Millington 2 days ago

    I'm glad someone else has the same problems!! I am a tomboy and people bully me but I stand up for myself!!

  • ChiefSlump09 YT
    ChiefSlump09 YT 2 days ago

    If I were to date somebody. I would likely date a tomboy bcuz they are strong unlike normal one

  • Chenayi Nyathi
    Chenayi Nyathi 2 days ago

    I'm a tomboy and like everyone in my school literally hates me cause I 100% look like a boy.

  • Sofia Shepard
    Sofia Shepard 2 days ago

    I’m a tomboy too

  • Lily Maloy
    Lily Maloy 2 days ago +1

    I can relate so much all my friends are boys and I can’t get a boyfriend because I’m a girl and I dress like a boy I always wear shorts and a T-shirt. Edit: i’m also an outcast sometimes like a depressed because of that

  • Sxge plays
    Sxge plays 2 days ago

    I’m bisexual , tomboys are perfect for me

  • Bernice Garcia
    Bernice Garcia 2 days ago

    Are you a filipino

  • itz me salfia
    itz me salfia 2 days ago

    Ikr, I understand how you feel cuz I experienced everything like you

  • Kyleigh Stalker
    Kyleigh Stalker 3 days ago

    I love this story. I was and still am a tomboy, I grew up with a short hair cut, playing w the boys, wearing “boy clothes”, etc. and you’re absolutely right. Someone will come along who loves you JUST for how you are. My boyfriend and I met in high school & have been together for 5+ years now (: stay true to yourself & everything will work out💗

  • Kamillez Z
    Kamillez Z 3 days ago

    Omg can I relate but the only this is my group is just tomboys XD and I am >~

  • Dab a tron Cool
    Dab a tron Cool 3 days ago

    Well I'm 10 and I like boy things and am a girl

  • Ally the rabbit
    Ally the rabbit 3 days ago

    im a tomboy and pround of it because i was born like that and i do hang out with girls but they don't care if im a tomboy and Also I HATE WEARING DRESSES

  • theshining endereye
    theshining endereye 3 days ago

    Same here except I’m a guy and nobody likes me

  • Bdog
    Bdog 3 days ago +1

    I'm a tomboy so I feel you girl

  • Random kid 11
    Random kid 11 3 days ago

    My whole family thinks I’m gay I don’t really like talking to girls They are really annoying (no offense)and I like wearing long shorts with long socks but I’m not aloud to wear them out of my house and all of my friends are guys and have Ben better friends than a girl could be

  • Scribble .S
    Scribble .S 3 days ago +1

    *gets rejected once* I'm A Tomboy, And No One Wants To Date Me

  • Angelica Figueroa
    Angelica Figueroa 3 days ago +1

    Hold the phone.....are you playing Life is Strange style music for this?

  • Aurnz167
    Aurnz167 3 days ago

    Call me the DM’s are always open

  • Cadogan Crete
    Cadogan Crete 3 days ago


  • Noura othman
    Noura othman 3 days ago

    I'm a tomboy too but no one annoy me

  • JONA mae
    JONA mae 3 days ago

    How to share my story?

  • ElshaDIE DIE
    ElshaDIE DIE 3 days ago

    I’m the same but have learned to understand girly girls it takes time though and is confusing!

  • Riley ruth
    Riley ruth 3 days ago

    I can’t date because I’m embarrassed of my past my family and I don’t really feel capable or worthy of being in a relationship

  • Aisy Pine
    Aisy Pine 3 days ago

    no one want to date me because people think i'm gay

  • Alexandria Foxworth
    Alexandria Foxworth 3 days ago

    I’m a tomboy and girly girl 😂

  • Ian Laurence Alde
    Ian Laurence Alde 3 days ago

    some body will belong to me muauagahahahahahah I don't think it's true that somebody is for me

  • NancyDoesGacha
    NancyDoesGacha 4 days ago

    I’m a tomboy? I guess I am.

  • Yoyo Panda
    Yoyo Panda 4 days ago

    If you wanna be a tomboy be a world champion tomboy. I'm a tomboy but I don't care; I never cared about girly stuff, when I do robotics with the boys I do my best and I became a Vex Iq world champion.

  • michellefnaf Rodriquez

    im a tomboy i feel the same thing

  • darkstripe425 gaming

    To be honest at school boys annoy me and I chase them to get away from me and I would sometimes kick them and no I'm not girly at all

  • Yunger._.Ramen
    Yunger._.Ramen 4 days ago

    Probably cause your a tomboy

  • Cotton Games
    Cotton Games 4 days ago

    My sister is tomboy/girlygirl too also she's bi and I'm straight!

  • Brooklyn Hill
    Brooklyn Hill 4 days ago

    im a tom boy too also i like your hair

  • Ben dy
    Ben dy 4 days ago

    I am a tomboy

  • Squish
    Squish 4 days ago

    Ama Tom boy too I play basketball and I skate I always have the hoodies on but one time I actually found a friend that was a girl and she was also a Tom boy most of my friends are boys but idc the girls can think what they wanna think🥀😂🏀

  • AestheticLord Gaming

    I’m a tomboy as well.
    Nobody likes me nor cares about me

  • Lyxaira Montanez
    Lyxaira Montanez 4 days ago

    I can relate

  • Aamirha Hallman
    Aamirha Hallman 4 days ago

    I'm A tomboy and I have a great because he's nice and accepts me for me and he is kinda chunky

  • Alan walker
    Alan walker 4 days ago

    Not problem all

  • Ali hussain
    Ali hussain 4 days ago

    Who needs love when you have .......... Anime but still there are people who want to be loved including me but there are some people who judge other people by there mistakes .
    confidence or hard work are not even looked

  • GJ Arollado
    GJ Arollado 4 days ago

    i have a side of me thats a "tomboy" and i also have a side thats a "girly girl" and my boyfriend doesnt mind it at all.

  • NashKrys Testor
    NashKrys Testor 4 days ago

    I love this story!

  • Coolnavajo9881
    Coolnavajo9881 5 days ago

    Goof job for her 👍
    Still single livin the life 😌

  • Tribecca Bess
    Tribecca Bess 5 days ago

    I understand the struggle I get mistaken for a boy a lot because of the way I dressed

  • Eliana De La Torre
    Eliana De La Torre 5 days ago

    Omg I am such a tomboy and everyday people call me a boy and it doesn’t really bother me. But people think I want to be a boy. Which I don’t I just have some...boy traits. Also it reallly bothers me when people say I’m a boy then i say I’m not and later we would just have a conversation like what is your favorite hobby and i would say baseball or basketball or football or like skating and they say “I THOUGHT YOU WERE A GIRL” and I would say “yea...why” and they would say something like “GIRLS ONLY LIKE PINK AND DRESSES AND MAKEUP AND BALLET NOT BOY SPORTS” that just really irritates me (sorry for this very long rant I just needed to tell someone because my sister is the most girly girl you can ever imagine my mom doesn’t like the word TOMBOY don’t know why and my dad well he has mixed feelings so I can’t really tell anyone) well...have a nice day

  • Gregra 007
    Gregra 007 5 days ago

    My sis is a tomboy

  • Balancing The Fads
    Balancing The Fads 5 days ago +4

    Is legit the first thing you think when you realize you're tomboy that you can't get into a relationship?
    Wow.... no wonder

  • Sophia Lopez
    Sophia Lopez 5 days ago +1

    sheesh.. us girls can..
    play coco dress up... video games.. 😔

  • Elizabeth Espinosa
    Elizabeth Espinosa 5 days ago

    This made me cry

  • Agnika Routh
    Agnika Routh 5 days ago

    "They don't see me as a girl"... Story of my life.

  • Jacob Parkinson Xbox

    U didn’t even like the boy u dated he asked u out u said yes just so u could say u have a boyfriend

  • WhiteHorseWinter Snowdrift

    My best friend is a tomboy. Me and like... maybe 3 others are her only friends. We’re all goofballs though, so that strengthened our friendship.

  • Reindeer Gaming
    Reindeer Gaming 5 days ago

    I know how it feels. I'm a tomboy too and it's quite hard for me to communicate with girls. It doesn't help that I have aspergers syndrome

  • animation introvert
    animation introvert 5 days ago

    Thank you I needed that statement for a while

  • Wolfpack Alpha jaylin

    I'm a tomboy I like hanging out with boys

  • Hanapaw Rin-Chan
    Hanapaw Rin-Chan 5 days ago

    I’m a tomboy but I don’t only wear clothes meant for boys

  • - Gacha Vannah- YT
    - Gacha Vannah- YT 5 days ago

    I'm in between so I'm a tomboy and a girly girl

  • Shriaansh Chari
    Shriaansh Chari 5 days ago

    Ur story is full of positivity

  • 1st class demo Man
    1st class demo Man 5 days ago

    Tomboy more like cowboy

  • —Alyssa Gamer—
    —Alyssa Gamer— 5 days ago

    Okay, the actual term for tomboy is demiboy tho-

  • boyish stuffs ranz
    boyish stuffs ranz 5 days ago


  • leah Stasse
    leah Stasse 5 days ago

    I'm not even a proper Tomboy but no one wants to go out with me either😂

  • AlexTheCatWolfYT And ItsLaylaXD

    I’m a mix of a girly girl and a tomboy

  • Swagpants 21
    Swagpants 21 6 days ago

    I kind of agree I'm a boy but I mostly hang out with girls because other boys are just mean.

  • Looney Tunes
    Looney Tunes 6 days ago

    I wanna date her lol

  • maria laplume
    maria laplume 6 days ago

    i have all the same problems same as in this is exactly what i am experiencing

  • Cotton Games
    Cotton Games 6 days ago

    I'm both tomboy and girly girl when I was little I used to thought I was just tomboy until I started liking girly stuff more often then I used to.👓🕶👟👠

  • Im Mima
    Im Mima 6 days ago

    Remember when being a Tomboy was cool?

  • Tarek Massoud
    Tarek Massoud 6 days ago

    wats a tomboi

  • Terell Williams
    Terell Williams 6 days ago

    Idk why but I'm attracted to tomboys. Always have😏

  • bts svt
    bts svt 6 days ago

    I'm not tomboy or bisexual or anything. But ever since I met this girl,I fell so hard for her. I love her very much.

  • Abdulrahman zahid
    Abdulrahman zahid 6 days ago

    My little sis is a tomboy

  • Malaiy Phann
    Malaiy Phann 6 days ago

    @ 3:18 You said you’re against gender stereotypes, but being a tomboy in itself IS conforming to a gender stereotype. The stereotype of a boy! Let’s all keep in mind that boys and men go through the same stupid gender expectations that women do. The word tomBOY itself is indicating a gender. So only a boy acts masculine, athletic & adventurous? I know so many beautiful women who are seen as feminine and they can flip a switch and do masculine deemed things. That part just threw me off so I had to point it out. No aggression from my part intended because I know through text people can misunderstand the tone.

  • Isabella Bavington silly stories

    Thanks that was a lovely story 😘

  • bulldog Jr.
    bulldog Jr. 6 days ago

    I am a major tomboy but I have all girls for friends. Were weirdos

  • Irmina Buena
    Irmina Buena 7 days ago

    so your a Filipino

  • Tikki The kwami ;3
    Tikki The kwami ;3 7 days ago


  • Iceplayz gamez
    Iceplayz gamez 7 days ago

    I would say yes

  • MyJazzyMac/Jukebox James/Jason Pleasant

    I Love this Story Jo

  • Prince Ahmed
    Prince Ahmed 7 days ago

    It is awesome to be single