How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen
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- Published on Mar 3, 2020
- Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Last message was the best.
Your value does not decrease because of someone's inability to see your worth.
Keep going!
My guy slapped some sense into the school system
@Sahil sounds right. Like the waiter that decides to provide poor service is telling you that you really have little value for him at that moment.
To me, that was just a cheesy motivational line, practicality, that currency note has value limited to specific time-period and geographical territory, which would mean that our value is totally subjective
Exactly! 👍
100%
This guy deserves standing ovation.The intricacies of human psychology so beautifully explained...
👏
This is 17 minutes and 36 seconds of pure f...... gold. That guy was able to put word on unspeakable things for most people 💯🔥
I found his talk to be sincere and honest and the real life he had to handle, very relatable. I knew I had some problems but after watching this I know why ,thanks mate.
Thank you so much You change my family's life 👪 thanks
I so agree
He really didnt take it personally, in presenting to such a Dull audience. Bravo sir, you proved your point
@Frederik Imbo I love your work and the Ted talk!
No worries, he definitely did get an ovation. This was too amazing for him not to. There’s just some microphones that tune out audience noise, I am sure that’s why it sounded so silent 👍
@Heather H microphones
Another way of looking at it is...it's a sensitive topic internally for everyone and so they were quiet and absorbing it all, perhaps?
@gonzalo The last sentence got me laughing, good point! Kudos to Frederik!!!
I love how he doesn’t bash anyone for taking things personally. He just gives advice. This is what we need in this world
Yeah fr!
@Michael Willette it isnt if you keep thinking that way
@Kiandria Johnson There is a fine balance. Communication is not easy.
But even if someone is speaking negatively on people/the result of taking things personally it wouldn’t be bashing-just to be clear; it would be factual
It’s sad that this isn’t everyone’s default setting. Need to teach this to parents to instill to their kids. This is a lesson for children. So many people hurting unnecessarily.
It’s a vicious cycle. People feel hurt, so they hurt others. Those people with hurt feelings go on to hurt someone else. The only way to stop the cycle is to learn techniques to stop taking it personally.
I feel you Chris.
You are exactly right!
I WONDER WHY THESE THINGS ARE NOT TAUGHT IN SCHOOL. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE STARTS WITH AWARENESS. THANKS FOR THIS WONDERFUL TALK SIR.
No need to yell. This audience is willing to listen to you. We appreciate you 🙏.
Life is school, and your path is laid out for you, its called Karma.
You'll learn about emotional intelligence after you've learnt to find the square root of x!
I am a teacher, and I AM teaching this to my students. Yes, this is something parents should teach, but many of them either don't know it or don't spend the time. Some do teach it, and you can tell because of their well-adjusted kids. This is a great way to free people from the "victim mentality."
"It's not about ME!... It's about his/her emotions, bad experiences etc." I always have this thought spinning in my head when dealing with difficult people.
It helps a lot.
@Imboorling good stuff brother. I'm definitely going to try to keep this in mind.
I'm gonna try using this👍
@Frederik Imbo hi Frederik, what if people (like me) have some autism or disorders that can't use your advice because everything offends them. Love your advice and good luck being a referee
@Iman Omari When we focus first on the needs of the others, it does not mean that you're responsible for meeting their needs. On the contrary. The best way to react towards someone in the most empathetical way is not to feel responsible for what the other person feels. And so focus as quickly as possible to your own feelings and needs and learn how to take more responsibility for it. This leads to personal growth.
@Imboorling but how will we improve ourselves if we only think it’s about their needs ? Sometimes we are blind to our abilities , our nature or mistakes and by thinking it’s about them we lose that opportunity to be better at work, relationships or any facet of life
I have watched this again after 3 years and I can literally feel the power as I remember all the times I tried not to take things personally, using this strategy and trust me it feels empowering!!!
How awesome! It gives me hope because I couldn't master the technique :P still too much ego! Congrats to you 🥰
Hi Hitanshi! Thank you for sharing me this. I'm super happy that this works for you!
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Best 17 minutes to watch. The way he was speaking and explaining, his gesture, expression all of it was very captivating. I didn’t realise how time passed. The speech was very beautiful.
@MShooky🐨 Thank you!
@Imboorling Thank you for your nice words sir. Yeah,I liked your last sentence. And I have already shared it with my friends.
Hello Mienarvaa!
Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end!
I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
These 17 minutes have helped me understand my social anxiety more than I ever thought a video could. I now have a new process of thinking that I will apply to my every minute of life.
There should be a class in school where we just watch Ted talks all day.
i would attend
Great idea 💡 👍
that sounds wonderful! i would certainly take the class ...but then again, knowing me when i was a kid, i probably wouldn't care...that just to say, things hit people differently at different time.
Agreed.
This is such a wonderful presentation. Engaging, entertaining and very memorable. Well done Frederik. As a psychologist who helps people with many self esteem issues I thought this was an extremely clever and poignant way of conveying what is, in reality, a very difficult subject to explain and teach. Well done and thank you for your wise words!
Agreed.
Very well resumed ! 👏
my niece was under the claws of psychologists. They all failed. I told her to stop the nonsense and she did. So many people make an easy living lecturing people.
Thanks SO MUCH FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE EFFORTS 👍👍👍👍👍👍 interesting view 🙂.
Good job!!
Hello Susan,
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you, even for you as a psychologist.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
"No matter what they do or say you always keep your value" now that right there was the biggest lesson learned!
Thank you for sharing this Becca!
I've always struggled with taking things personally because I'm quite a proud person, but this speech was amazing! Smart, funny, enrapturing, interesting, and soooo helpful. I now use these strategies every time I need to and I actually feel that I'm loosening up! Thank you, Frederik.
This is a 10/10 talk, one of the best! He is also such an engaging speaker!
Hello UhOreally (nice nick name)
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
The crowd sucks... his speech is great, he’s funny, authentic. He deserved more recognition
The mine is in him only
He doesnt take it personaly
Remember that the crowd didn’t have an mic, even if they were to shout it would be hard to head
This is why people can’t take things personally. You judged the issue of not hearing a reaction from the crowd and said “they sucked”…
This is why they’re at this talk… to not take your comment personally…
Because people will insult other people. We have to ignore them(you) and the 2,800 people you agreed with you.
@yobabybubba Even, maybe they we're so into it that they we're recognizing themselves and doing some introspection. Such a brilliant way to challenge one self. I'll make sure to try it, because I take things personally all the time.
One of the best & practically useful(usable) speeches I’ve heard. He was so genuine in how he communicated with the audience. Wish there was more encouragement from the audience . Nevertheless, it wasn’t about HIM! He was damn good !
Hello Srinivas,
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Really good speaker. He shares his emotions and thoughts so easily without filtering what could be used against him.
By putting himself in a vulnerable position, people easily give him their attention. Even though at the beginning, he's perceived as pitiful by being so vulnerable, by showing that he's aware of it and still does it reveal some serious confidence. It's part of his charisma and it radiates warmth.
About his message, I'm conflicted on it. In term of relationships, I do think it's a very good strategy. But on a personal level, he's still fuelling the EGO by placing so much attention on the viewpoint of others. This weakens his awareness of himself.
"I'm not who I think I am, I not who you think I am, I am who I think you think I am."
By placing so much attention on other people viewpoints of him, he reinforces the number of thoughts about his own value. And it's much easier for negative thoughts to prosper in this environment compared to positive ones.
I would rather pursue a path of detachment to other people opinions of myself. Understanding that people's opinions of me is based on their own criteria of what is good and bad. That's why it's better to focus on the people who share the same values as you and let go of those who think less of you because you are different.
hi Arthur. Thank you for taking the time to both watch my Tedx talk and send me your opinion. We should all become more free and less dependent on what others think about us, without becoming rude or arrogant.
This talk by Frederik is like a tightrope walk because people are watching for something extraordinary and he delivers with such precision! Thanks for delivering this masterpiece online.
one of the best talks i've heard. the peaks and valleys are refreshing. he doesn't sugarcoat it. well done.
A very wise woman once said "people dont do things TO us, they do things FOR themselves"
people don’t do things TO us, they do things FOR themselves
@Richard Roberts I agree! Then people could debate for real instead of name calling and being obnoxious and defensive.
That's a good saying.
@Dhruv Pathak That's like telling a cancer patient "it's on you to discover how to cure your cancer." And that's how doctors are made, motivated by the need to cure others.
@Norma Stone Not an excuse.
Dear Frederick, I am near tears, struggling with how much I block by giving in to a personal affront rather than showing love and empathy towards others. It is shameful for me to be so ego driven. Thank you for helping me find peace with myself and the people I love. It will take practice, but I am determined.
Dear Sherri, wow! Thank you for being so open about yourself. I encourage to become a more vulnerable and loving person towards others. I wish you to be mild and patient towards yourself.
You got this!
❤️
16:58 love this last part of his speech. Love it!😍
Been treated badly in the past & recently by friends, family and coworkers. Which I could have heard this back then. It is very challenging to move forward even now with the past stigma in my mind, but his last statement felt so profound to me that I will keep in mind and heart, "whatever they do or say: you will always keep your value." Thank you🥰🥰🥰
Hello
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
I'm the one who takes things personally, after watching this video I feel so positive. Last word and example in your speech is very true.
The audience wasn't responding appropriately! A beautiful TEDx Talk!
Hello Mohammed,
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
A very wise woman once said "people dont do things TO us, they do things FOR themselves"
Or one step further, People don't do things TO is, they do it FOR us ......
@Aditya Singh Why was it a man? Do you know the man that YOU & only YOU believed said it? Well, it was woman that said it. Get over it.
@Damon Jones tf
@Aditya Singh bruh it says women
@ExplorationFan i
He explained it in the Best Possible way a person can understand...and end msg strike the right chord ..Big Thumbs Up🥳🥳🥳
loved it... fredrick sir.. thank you soo much for these much needed stratergy❤️🤗
One of the finest TED talk ever. So inspiring! I'm blessed with such a wonderful lesson,which is completely life changing. Admiration for this gentleman from the core of my heart.
@Frederik Imbo Ohhhh my goodness! Sir, you are so generous and gentle. Thanks for your kind reply. It has filled my heart with joy. A big thanks to TED talk through which I was able interract with your thoughts.
Hello Dipankar!
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
2022, I still listen your advice and trying to keep my mind not to take personally. Wish I can improve in this new year. 👏
@Imboorling Hello Sir, thanks for this I'll follow what you've taught.
Good luck!
I cried when he said "No matter what people say, you will always keep you value." Hit me like a ton of bricks.
It is understandable when it is 100 eur crying but not 10 cents or so. You see my point?
Seeing your comment, i went through whole video to get this moment and thanks for that .. I didn’t cry honestly but this point is undoubtedly True☺️
me too :')
maybe you (positively) took it personally 👍
@parvati rajeev people like to criticise because it helps them feel superior: they do it because they are themselves insecure.
Science shows that indulgence and encouragements work way way better that criticism in the process of learning, so don't let others trample on you and spread the word. You should not suffer because of other's insecurities
Wow. What an incredible keynote. The perfect amount of enthusiasm and intention, clarity and confidence. The conclusion was touching and powerful. No wonder he does this for a living!
I take this personally by falling in love with his personality ❤️ this speech is a keeper, I'm sharing it to my loved ones right away ❤️ Thank you Frederik 🙏🏼
Hello!!!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Great lesson. Love it ☺️❤️
His method of delivery is one of the best I've witnessed especially on such a difficult topic. This desperately needs to be taught in schools.
Hello James!
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
He explained it to us like we are fifth graders and that’s exactly what I needed; a good break down and understanding of each part. This was beautiful
Tipping point
Exactly ! Sometimes people make it too complicated ! We need it in a simple form 🙏🏼🙏🏼
as einstein said, If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.
Exactly what I needed as well
IDK why people dont understand that breaking things down like that could be the best way...lets not take it personally its just someone wants you to understand in the most simplest and best way possible :)
This is an amazing talk, got to learn many things. The audiences could have been little more engaged. I am not taking it personally, i believe the audiences were busy in taking notes :)
They were listening how to learn this technique or taking notes. Great speaker
haha Mir Galib! Nice perspective!
I just went through similar issue of taking things personally
And universe already started giving me signs by dropping this video
Same
that's how the universe works!
This is one of the best TED talks I have watched. I really want to apply these steps in my life for the betterment of myself which, will make a good impact on my family. Thank you Frederik Imbo!
Hello Vince!
Thank you so much for your kind message and huuuuuuge compliment. Wow. I'm flattered. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Absolutely brilliant message and presentation. Thank you.
Hello Nancy,
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
The audience was seriously so unresponsive. I would be actively giving reactions to such a beautiful TED Talk. The man explained his points in such an easygoing and jovial manner. This was truly really amazing. 😊
It could be they're unresponsive because they're so serious digesting what Frederik said.
i honestly think this was covid times so there was no audience
Frederick didn’t take it personally though did he.
@Good It's been ages since 'guys' and 'actors' had begun to refer equally to women as to men.
@///Chris Correct!
I literally had this thought last week: do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Now here this is. And he explains so eloquently.
What a coincidence!
if you know for certain you are right, then there is no need to fill out a check list for someone,
That last move he did with the 20 euros kinda made me tear up.
Great presentation thank you sir
Very useful and deep message. Maybe this type of education or advice could help teenagers, or kids to overcome frustration, grudge, avoid conflict etc. Sometimes conflict between two people is based only on conflict between their egoes. This could be prevented. Really wonderful advice is what mr. Frederick teaches us. Thank you!
Hello Diana Popa!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
I've been going through hard time and my emotions are out of control about how other people perceive me but this made me think so much!! Thank youu for this outstanding speech. I made a note to remind myself.
Hi! Thank you for sharing this with us here. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
All the dislikes are from people who took this TED talk personally
Clearly lol
@Imboorling I love it
🤣
Indeed
We’re just human.
Now I understand why some of my friendships suffered, and probably why I haven't been able to stay friends with anyone for very long. I'm the type who gets offended easily. Your lecture has opened my eyes, thank you!
Hello Kristy,
Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end!
I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
This Ted talk must be taught at schools. At every single school in this world. The very first day. Then we'll see the world turning into a better place.
Hello Liset,
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
I am just 3 minutes into the video and I am already laughing so hard. I love the way he shares his story.
What a great speaker.Frederik u nailed it n simplied the emotions
Thank u for this
Hello Tebogo,
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
"People may attack you, criticize you or ignore you. They can crumple you up with their words, spit you out or even walk all over you. But remember: whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value. "
🇺🇿:)
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@Imboorling brilliant
@KibyNykraft Neither a plant, nor bug would have written this comment! If you believe your opening statement - then why did you write it? To feel connected, validated, valued?
The best advice i can give on how not to take things personally is, know yourself and what is true about yourself.
Not what you Believe about yourself, but what is actually true, be honest to yourself.
This is not always an easy task and there are things about yourself that you will struggle to admit.
Accept your Faults and the fact that no one is perfect.
We are all an open book with pages continuously being added.
Introspective is the most important way to really break free of the jail that is other peoples opinions on you.
I really related to this and found it helpful. All of the things he mentioned in examples…been there and done that! Totally going to try these two techniques out. With this talk I just realized by being vulnerable I’m actually being assertive..and so there is no need to get mad and become aggressive if the actual need for empathy is being met.
Hello Aywancfc.
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Thank you for this great and educational Ted Talk! I really needed this whole concept (which I was struggling to understand), broken down into simpler terms. Cheers!!!!
Hello Osvaldo
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Great and inspiring. Loved this man's honesty, compassion and complexed approach.. very useful wonderful talk
@Imboorling I agree, and appreciate your phrase. I guess one of the main obstacles is the one in our mind, our negative thoughts that we keep producing, as you mentioned in the talk. I'm glad to take part in this , and hope to give my share for myself as well as for others. Good luck for us, my friend :)
@Rachel I think that the more we develop love and understanding with ourselves as well as for others, we create both a more harmonious life for ourselves and a better world for others. Good luck with contributing to this.
@Imboorling Thank you Frederik :) Indeed it is a big issue, and a wide subject for me as well, to put into practice. Definitely I will try. In your talk it seemed like each time you go through another layer and your progress is actually towards inside your self. I hope to achieve some progress on this as well, and to get mostly some freedom and relief. Thank you very much for your response, and kind words. And it opens the heart to see how you really care about this quality of living for all of us humans :)
Hello Rachel!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
These are lessons we need to learn in school. This would decrease fits, anxiety, and a lot more. 🥯
@Ana M. TAlk to the school boards; they set the curriculum.
But is school actually supposed to be helpful? You really believe that? Have you read ‘The Getting of Wisdom’?
Facts
Ikr
Learn that in what ? You mean the place they train you to be a good .
Knowledge is power.
Don't give out too much if you want to stay in power and you are a bad leader!
the end almost made me tear up! we often forget how valuable we still are despite being brought down by others. well spoken, Frederik!
Hello Arsonchld,
Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end!
I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Arsonchld. I dont hardly reply but this resonate truly. People dont learn to understand or are not self awareness of their ego and insecurities. If people learn to let their ego go. People be more open and respectful. This society will live more in harmony.
Wow, I did not realize how much I needed to hear this. I love the ending and the humour during the speech.
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Mrs Charlotte Sae has really changed my financial status for the good. All thanks to my aunty who introduced me to her.
@Joe Lurie Yeah, her good works and consistent speak of her, I'm also a huge beneficiary of Charlotte, I keep on earning 35,700 dollars every 5 days with her trading platform.
I've seen different recommendations about this Charlotte Sae, she must be very exceptional for people to talk this good about her.
I just worked as a call center and it's my first day today. I has been crying because people can be hard sometimes but after I watch this I feel relieved. your talk is the best!
please take this personally !
Hi Bourwong, Nicharee!
I'm glad that watching my Tedx talk was helpful for you after your first day in that call center. How is it going right now?
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
"Do u want to be right or do u want to be happy?"
Best sentence!!!
Impressive , I never looked at it that way before. Thanks
Honestly a tough decision, most people want to be right.
Both….
i'm kinda embarrassed i know this, but dr. phil says that a lot.
@Imboorling Thank you for a motivating talk to take a closer look inside and find the reason for causes that prevent from happiness. Happy holidays!
An excellent message for all the people!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! God bless you!!!
Hello Alma!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
I keep rewinding this video! Your deliverance on this seriously needed concept was made easy for many to understand! I'm going to practice not blaming for my feelings being hurt, and use those moments to reflect on myself. It's crazy how people concentrate so much on a player's feelings, but forget a referee is carrying worlds on their shoulders. Lately I've been practicing this video's guidance before I watched this. This truly has reinforced my confidence to practice being mindful. As a veteran with some temper, this will help build my communication skills with my loved ones.
Hello Eduardo.
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you as a veteran.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Love this 💚 “no matter what people do or say, you will always keep your value.”
Hello!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
I had a close friend who frequently did the opposite..for many times, he was definitely the one who made the mistakes, but he would always feel good. It's hard for him to admit his wrongdoings until he was cornered with logics and findings.. but then he was so confident not to say any apology.. he would say sorry at the end of the day but yeah not appropriately as seen from his light facial expression 😁
Hi! Thank you for sharing this. I hope that this friend now feels happier?
Watching this again one year later and I’m really grateful for this advice, I’m in a different stage of my life and ready to put it more in practice, thank you
Whoohoo Mela Mar! Nice to read this. Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Such a great talk! Thank you, Frederik!
Hello Sara Anne-Maria!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Whatever people do or say, you will always keep your value.
Thank you sir,
Good summary Leele! Thank you!
Thank you for being there👌👌 when I wanted you ton..... I was lost in this new world that I was hassled to start with ....you not only guided me along the way but you also showed me the proper way....whatever little I have been able to achieve in life is because of you today ..... I want to thank you for being there and showing me the proper way of doing thing for me you are my best guide as you truly showed me the way to life....once again , I would like to tell you a heartfelt thanks for being
there🙏🙏
I just love this presentation.
It's just the right mix of enthusiasm and psychology into the minds of people and their social interactions. I definitely do my best to use the advice in this presentation, and it has helped immensely - I don't feel so wound up or stressed out anymore.
I also shared this presentation with my college professor and classmates for an assignment because sometimes I feel that as a young Millennial (and my fellow younger generations), we need this kind of guidance to practice harmonious person-to-person interaction instead of having lessons and drama beaten over our heads.
1000/10 the best wisdom I've taken to heart! :)
Hello Janine!
Thank you so much for your kind message and huuuuuge compliment. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
I was always seeing this video on TheXvid but never had the courage to open it. Now, here I am, and just wow... During the talk couldn't help but get emotional sometimes, it was amazing. Thank you for this amazing speech...
Hello Gaye Akyol!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
I loved listening to this presentation! Well done 👏 👏 👏
Hello Nyx,
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Thank you for your uplifting message. I will take it personally!
“People may attack you, criticise you, or ignore you. They can crumple you up with their words, spit you out, or even walk all over you. But remember, whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value.”
Thank you for this. Searched for Ted talks like this and it came at a really appropriate time. It's terribly hard not taking workplace scenarios seriously. I have a long way to go to understand and embrace this.
:)
Despite the hardship and Corona virus, I still make profit. Investment in Btc is always forward.
@Imboorling Yes, I agree with you it might not be natural to say that in the middle of your presentation although it is doable but after all this is your presentation. I was actually refering to the comments here where you say "Thank you for quoting me" where it would have been more appropriate to say who inspired you to those words. Anyway, don't take it personal I tried to give you constructive critisism.
That's incredible! Love all his advice
great speech. loved how he included personal experiences and shared vulnerable thoughts in order for the viewers to relate more and it worked.
Hello Shivani Giri,
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
This was amazing. Great presentation my man!
Thank you so much. I have saved your Ted talk so I can keep listening and remember your advices. I have been struggling with overthinking and taking everything so personally throughout my life.I hope this can save me and set me free from my worries and can live happier.🙏🏻
Hello Winnie!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
This man needs more credit for how enthusiastic he's being during this whole thing, Good job.. Good job indeed...
I like your pfp bro.
@Shannon McCarthy l
@Imboorling momos
@CringeWorthyBears they blocked out the noise from the crowd so we could hear him clearly.
he's clearly talented in expression, would be a star in entertainment. I'd see his acts, if he ever tried it out.
Loved this message!!!!
What a strong positive message. Im going to try very hard to apply. Thank you
Such a great speech! Amazing! Thank you!
Hello Kateryna!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
I take things very personally and if someone has sent this to me I would have lol. So glad I stumbled upon this. Anytime my best friend says “don’t take it personal” I automatically take it personal. You saying we have to look at their intentions made a light bulb pop on because they also say it isn’t their intention to make me feel bad. Thank you so much for speaking on this topic.
Hello Leesa,
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
"Whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value." Words for the wise.
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@Tony Perkins up kilojoules ok I o u
@Jessica Warrior yes...sticking to your value can make you not listen and think about another point of view.... Like in Israel/Palestine...
"remember, switching to your pistol is faster than reloading" -Mahata Gandhi
@Sala Banka comfort is positive following extended periods of hard work. To become successful means fully mastering the art of relaxation, so you can get back up and go even harder than before. Try It!
Amazing! At the end, with your last statement, I stood up and applauded. I absolutely agree.
Hello Eva!
Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end!
I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Bob will forever be remembered as one of the greatest iconic legends & fathers of the personal development industry. May your life of significance & legacy of inspirational teachings & wisdom continue to impact future generations.
Bob has deeply influenced us contemporary thought leaders & next generation of torchbearers.
An incredible extraordinary big hearted, direct, & wise man. He was a self-taught winner in life & business. Bob embodies the true definition of a life-long learner & great Canadian success story. His life’s work was unlocking the limits of possibilities, mastering the principles of excellence & success in creating abundant mindsets. The law of attraction will continue to drive people to your work online, through the movie the secret & other teachings. That is a life of purpose & true impact from a great transformational leader. We love & respect you Bob, your spirit & energy will live on.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us!!
This was excellent and I needed to hear this really badly
Summary:
1. It is _not_ about me.
- Look at the other person's intention.
2. It is about me.
- Give yourself empathy. Speak up.
3. People may attack you, criticise you, or ignore you. They can crumple you up with their words, spit you out, or even walk all over you. But remember, whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value.
Thank you sir
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That saved my time. Thanks bloke!!!
This video is so powerful,so happy I get a chance to watch.Thank you Mr. Frederick
i discovered this when i needed to hear it the most, thank you Frederik!
Excellent message, expertly and authentically presented. Thank you for your brave vulnerability and joyful and generous spirit in sharing this.
Hello John,
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Amazing presentation! Great tools provided! Thank you!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Hello Nadia!
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
"People may attack you, criticise you, or ignore you. They can crumple you up with their words, spit you out, or even walk all over you, but remember, whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value." 😊 This made me cry. THANK YOU!
Good luck with that. If you’re willing to allow yourself to be someone’s door mat then you have no value to yourself or anyone else.
Me too ...
I’m inspired by your words now. Thank you so much 😊
@Imboorling nice ted talk
@Ashish Mahajan feel the same
Maintaining that level of energy without having an answer is really impressive
Thank you for your empathy Alberto!
Frederik, you have delivered your message in such a brilliantly simple manner and such a brilliant message. Very good TEDx Talks, actually one of the best. Great points on self reflection, empathy of yourself and others and most importantly...value of yourself! 10/10
Hello Alina,
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Fabulously refreshing, something I've wanted to hear said out loud. I think this advice I will rewatch to remind myself alot going forward. Thank you!
Hello!
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
Currently watching this before facing my last day (at least last day we work a same shift/day) at my current job with my manager who I can’t stand. 👍🏻 Hopefully I can apply this successfully !!
Hello Sharline,
Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. Hopefully your last day went well and you'll quickly a find a nicer job with a manager with whom you get along better.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
It’s the best video Ive watched recently . Bravo ! Always keep your value 💯
Hello Vladlena!
Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
From the bottom of my heart,
Frederik Imbo
This is so powerful. Thank you 💕
Hi
How nice to get such a gentle response on my TEDx talk.
thanks for watching.