How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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  • Published on Mar 3, 2020
  • Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • Zoha Abidi
    Zoha Abidi 11 months ago +11302

    Last message was the best.
    Your value does not decrease because of someone's inability to see your worth.
    Keep going!

    • scorpio infographics
      scorpio infographics 5 days ago

      My guy slapped some sense into the school system

    • WingIT Productions
      WingIT Productions 8 days ago

      @Sahil sounds right. Like the waiter that decides to provide poor service is telling you that you really have little value for him at that moment.

    • Sahil
      Sahil 8 days ago +1

      To me, that was just a cheesy motivational line, practicality, that currency note has value limited to specific time-period and geographical territory, which would mean that our value is totally subjective

    • Bright Eyes
      Bright Eyes 11 days ago

      Exactly! 👍

    • Paras
      Paras 15 days ago

      100%

  • satyashree11
    satyashree11 3 months ago +1204

    This guy deserves standing ovation.The intricacies of human psychology so beautifully explained...

    • Team Hector B
      Team Hector B 7 days ago

      👏

    • ThumbP10
      ThumbP10 9 days ago +1

      This is 17 minutes and 36 seconds of pure f...... gold. That guy was able to put word on unspeakable things for most people 💯🔥

    • Alan Rai
      Alan Rai 10 days ago

      I found his talk to be sincere and honest and the real life he had to handle, very relatable. I knew I had some problems but after watching this I know why ,thanks mate.

    • Bright Mykon TV
      Bright Mykon TV 18 days ago

      Thank you so much You change my family's life 👪 thanks

    • tebogo Motsuku
      tebogo Motsuku 24 days ago

      I so agree

  • Mickey
    Mickey Month ago +546

    He really didnt take it personally, in presenting to such a Dull audience. Bravo sir, you proved your point

    • Kblue
      Kblue 5 days ago

      @Frederik Imbo I love your work and the Ted talk!

    • Team Hector B
      Team Hector B 7 days ago

      No worries, he definitely did get an ovation. This was too amazing for him not to. There’s just some microphones that tune out audience noise, I am sure that’s why it sounded so silent 👍

    • Principle
      Principle 7 days ago +1

      @Heather H microphones

    • Heather H
      Heather H 8 days ago

      Another way of looking at it is...it's a sensitive topic internally for everyone and so they were quiet and absorbing it all, perhaps?

    • Heather H
      Heather H 8 days ago

      @gonzalo The last sentence got me laughing, good point! Kudos to Frederik!!!

  • Itz Yasel!
    Itz Yasel! 3 months ago +954

    I love how he doesn’t bash anyone for taking things personally. He just gives advice. This is what we need in this world

    • JustSam
      JustSam 2 months ago

      Yeah fr!

    • zelilah
      zelilah 2 months ago

      @Michael Willette it isnt if you keep thinking that way

    • Michael Willette
      Michael Willette 3 months ago

      @Kiandria Johnson There is a fine balance. Communication is not easy.

    • Kiandria Johnson
      Kiandria Johnson 3 months ago +1

      But even if someone is speaking negatively on people/the result of taking things personally it wouldn’t be bashing-just to be clear; it would be factual

  • chris rush
    chris rush 4 months ago +462

    It’s sad that this isn’t everyone’s default setting. Need to teach this to parents to instill to their kids. This is a lesson for children. So many people hurting unnecessarily.

    • Spongebob's Dummy
      Spongebob's Dummy Month ago +8

      It’s a vicious cycle. People feel hurt, so they hurt others. Those people with hurt feelings go on to hurt someone else. The only way to stop the cycle is to learn techniques to stop taking it personally.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago +6

      I feel you Chris.

    • Leanna Skiba
      Leanna Skiba 3 months ago +3

      You are exactly right!

  • Ivyflix Voices
    Ivyflix Voices Year ago +4477

    I WONDER WHY THESE THINGS ARE NOT TAUGHT IN SCHOOL. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE STARTS WITH AWARENESS. THANKS FOR THIS WONDERFUL TALK SIR.

    • Jay
      Jay Day ago

      No need to yell. This audience is willing to listen to you. We appreciate you 🙏.

    • Juju Rellama
      Juju Rellama Month ago

      Life is school, and your path is laid out for you, its called Karma.

    • Logen M
      Logen M Month ago

      You'll learn about emotional intelligence after you've learnt to find the square root of x!

    • Bart Muller
      Bart Muller Month ago

      I am a teacher, and I AM teaching this to my students. Yes, this is something parents should teach, but many of them either don't know it or don't spend the time. Some do teach it, and you can tell because of their well-adjusted kids. This is a great way to free people from the "victim mentality."

  • Digital English
    Digital English 4 months ago +710

    "It's not about ME!... It's about his/her emotions, bad experiences etc." I always have this thought spinning in my head when dealing with difficult people.
    It helps a lot.

    • Mike Fitzpatrick
      Mike Fitzpatrick Month ago

      @Imboorling good stuff brother. I'm definitely going to try to keep this in mind.

    • Mike Fitzpatrick
      Mike Fitzpatrick Month ago +1

      I'm gonna try using this👍

    • Mikhail Gorbachev II
      Mikhail Gorbachev II Month ago

      @Frederik Imbo hi Frederik, what if people (like me) have some autism or disorders that can't use your advice because everything offends them. Love your advice and good luck being a referee

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 2 months ago +7

      @Iman Omari When we focus first on the needs of the others, it does not mean that you're responsible for meeting their needs. On the contrary. The best way to react towards someone in the most empathetical way is not to feel responsible for what the other person feels. And so focus as quickly as possible to your own feelings and needs and learn how to take more responsibility for it. This leads to personal growth.

    • Iman Omari
      Iman Omari 2 months ago

      @Imboorling but how will we improve ourselves if we only think it’s about their needs ? Sometimes we are blind to our abilities , our nature or mistakes and by thinking it’s about them we lose that opportunity to be better at work, relationships or any facet of life

  • Hitanshi Oza
    Hitanshi Oza 4 months ago +387

    I have watched this again after 3 years and I can literally feel the power as I remember all the times I tried not to take things personally, using this strategy and trust me it feels empowering!!!

    • Cassandra
      Cassandra 3 months ago +1

      How awesome! It gives me hope because I couldn't master the technique :P still too much ego! Congrats to you 🥰

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +17

      Hi Hitanshi! Thank you for sharing me this. I'm super happy that this works for you!
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • MShooky🐨
    MShooky🐨 4 months ago +286

    Best 17 minutes to watch. The way he was speaking and explaining, his gesture, expression all of it was very captivating. I didn’t realise how time passed. The speech was very beautiful.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago

      @MShooky🐨 Thank you!

    • MShooky🐨
      MShooky🐨 4 months ago

      @Imboorling Thank you for your nice words sir. Yeah,I liked your last sentence. And I have already shared it with my friends.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +7

      Hello Mienarvaa!
      Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end!
      I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Taylor Petrarca
    Taylor Petrarca 4 days ago +3

    These 17 minutes have helped me understand my social anxiety more than I ever thought a video could. I now have a new process of thinking that I will apply to my every minute of life.

  • Ambrose Hallward
    Ambrose Hallward Year ago +24580

    There should be a class in school where we just watch Ted talks all day.

    • Jess Sanford
      Jess Sanford 55 minutes ago

      i would attend

    • mekdelawit fiseha
      mekdelawit fiseha 8 hours ago

      Great idea 💡 👍

    • Pisapie
      Pisapie Day ago

      that sounds wonderful! i would certainly take the class ...but then again, knowing me when i was a kid, i probably wouldn't care...that just to say, things hit people differently at different time.

    • Maekani Khan
      Maekani Khan Day ago

      Agreed.

  • Susan Moss
    Susan Moss 4 months ago +147

    This is such a wonderful presentation. Engaging, entertaining and very memorable. Well done Frederik. As a psychologist who helps people with many self esteem issues I thought this was an extremely clever and poignant way of conveying what is, in reality, a very difficult subject to explain and teach. Well done and thank you for your wise words!

    • Julie DA COSTA
      Julie DA COSTA 7 days ago

      Agreed.
      Very well resumed ! 👏

    • Juju Rellama
      Juju Rellama Month ago

      my niece was under the claws of psychologists. They all failed. I told her to stop the nonsense and she did. So many people make an easy living lecturing people.

    • Boost Mobile
      Boost Mobile Month ago

      Thanks SO MUCH FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE EFFORTS 👍👍👍👍👍👍 interesting view 🙂.
      Good job!!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +7

      Hello Susan,
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you, even for you as a psychologist.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Becca L
    Becca L Month ago +70

    "No matter what they do or say you always keep your value" now that right there was the biggest lesson learned!

  • Dreamer Directioner Ravenpuff

    I've always struggled with taking things personally because I'm quite a proud person, but this speech was amazing! Smart, funny, enrapturing, interesting, and soooo helpful. I now use these strategies every time I need to and I actually feel that I'm loosening up! Thank you, Frederik.

  • uh0really
    uh0really Month ago +30

    This is a 10/10 talk, one of the best! He is also such an engaging speaker!

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo Month ago +1

      Hello UhOreally (nice nick name)
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • geekista
    geekista Year ago +3118

    The crowd sucks... his speech is great, he’s funny, authentic. He deserved more recognition

    • MJ
      MJ 26 days ago

      The mine is in him only

    • daniela dobrecevic
      daniela dobrecevic 2 months ago

      He doesnt take it personaly

    • eMallard
      eMallard 4 months ago

      Remember that the crowd didn’t have an mic, even if they were to shout it would be hard to head

    • Nikki Lauren
      Nikki Lauren 4 months ago +1

      This is why people can’t take things personally. You judged the issue of not hearing a reaction from the crowd and said “they sucked”…
      This is why they’re at this talk… to not take your comment personally…
      Because people will insult other people. We have to ignore them(you) and the 2,800 people you agreed with you.

    • Angelica Cortes
      Angelica Cortes 6 months ago

      @yobabybubba Even, maybe they we're so into it that they we're recognizing themselves and doing some introspection. Such a brilliant way to challenge one self. I'll make sure to try it, because I take things personally all the time.

  • Srinivas Poovala
    Srinivas Poovala 3 months ago +44

    One of the best & practically useful(usable) speeches I’ve heard. He was so genuine in how he communicated with the audience. Wish there was more encouragement from the audience . Nevertheless, it wasn’t about HIM! He was damn good !

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago +8

      Hello Srinivas,
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Arthur Moraud
    Arthur Moraud Month ago +33

    Really good speaker. He shares his emotions and thoughts so easily without filtering what could be used against him.
    By putting himself in a vulnerable position, people easily give him their attention. Even though at the beginning, he's perceived as pitiful by being so vulnerable, by showing that he's aware of it and still does it reveal some serious confidence. It's part of his charisma and it radiates warmth.
    About his message, I'm conflicted on it. In term of relationships, I do think it's a very good strategy. But on a personal level, he's still fuelling the EGO by placing so much attention on the viewpoint of others. This weakens his awareness of himself.
    "I'm not who I think I am, I not who you think I am, I am who I think you think I am."
    By placing so much attention on other people viewpoints of him, he reinforces the number of thoughts about his own value. And it's much easier for negative thoughts to prosper in this environment compared to positive ones.
    I would rather pursue a path of detachment to other people opinions of myself. Understanding that people's opinions of me is based on their own criteria of what is good and bad. That's why it's better to focus on the people who share the same values as you and let go of those who think less of you because you are different.

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo Month ago +7

      hi Arthur. Thank you for taking the time to both watch my Tedx talk and send me your opinion. We should all become more free and less dependent on what others think about us, without becoming rude or arrogant.

  • Sabareesh Ponnusamy
    Sabareesh Ponnusamy 3 months ago +45

    This talk by Frederik is like a tightrope walk because people are watching for something extraordinary and he delivers with such precision! Thanks for delivering this masterpiece online.

  • Pisapie
    Pisapie Day ago

    one of the best talks i've heard. the peaks and valleys are refreshing. he doesn't sugarcoat it. well done.

  • Bria Carter
    Bria Carter Year ago +2168

    A very wise woman once said "people dont do things TO us, they do things FOR themselves"

    • Ant Williams XIII
      Ant Williams XIII 19 days ago

      people don’t do things TO us, they do things FOR themselves

    • M.J.G.
      M.J.G. 3 months ago

      @Richard Roberts I agree! Then people could debate for real instead of name calling and being obnoxious and defensive.

    • M.J.G.
      M.J.G. 3 months ago

      That's a good saying.

    • M80
      M80 11 months ago

      @Dhruv Pathak That's like telling a cancer patient "it's on you to discover how to cure your cancer." And that's how doctors are made, motivated by the need to cure others.

    • M80
      M80 11 months ago

      @Norma Stone Not an excuse.

  • Sherri Wittenburg
    Sherri Wittenburg 19 days ago +20

    Dear Frederick, I am near tears, struggling with how much I block by giving in to a personal affront rather than showing love and empathy towards others. It is shameful for me to be so ego driven. Thank you for helping me find peace with myself and the people I love. It will take practice, but I am determined.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 16 days ago +1

      Dear Sherri, wow! Thank you for being so open about yourself. I encourage to become a more vulnerable and loving person towards others. I wish you to be mild and patient towards yourself.

    • HR W
      HR W 17 days ago +1

      You got this!

    • marencia misho
      marencia misho 18 days ago +1

      ❤️

  • 9094mtz
    9094mtz Month ago +16

    16:58 love this last part of his speech. Love it!😍
    Been treated badly in the past & recently by friends, family and coworkers. Which I could have heard this back then. It is very challenging to move forward even now with the past stigma in my mind, but his last statement felt so profound to me that I will keep in mind and heart, "whatever they do or say: you will always keep your value." Thank you🥰🥰🥰

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 25 days ago +2

      Hello
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • V.N Thambirajab
    V.N Thambirajab 2 days ago

    I'm the one who takes things personally, after watching this video I feel so positive. Last word and example in your speech is very true.

  • Mutala Mohammed
    Mutala Mohammed 3 months ago +31

    The audience wasn't responding appropriately! A beautiful TEDx Talk!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago +6

      Hello Mohammed,
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Fajikolpretujik Asrikolretujiker

    A very wise woman once said "people dont do things TO us, they do things FOR themselves"

    • Lala
      Lala 18 days ago

      Or one step further, People don't do things TO is, they do it FOR us ......

    • Jackie Rugrat
      Jackie Rugrat 5 months ago

      @Aditya Singh Why was it a man? Do you know the man that YOU & only YOU believed said it? Well, it was woman that said it. Get over it.

    • yami saify
      yami saify 6 months ago +1

      @Damon Jones tf

    • yami saify
      yami saify 6 months ago +1

      @Aditya Singh bruh it says women

    • Senka Elezovich
      Senka Elezovich 10 months ago

      @ExplorationFan i

  • Reenu Lalwani
    Reenu Lalwani Day ago

    He explained it in the Best Possible way a person can understand...and end msg strike the right chord ..Big Thumbs Up🥳🥳🥳

  • Anusha B S Shivnanjan

    loved it... fredrick sir.. thank you soo much for these much needed stratergy❤️🤗

  • Dipankar Poddar
    Dipankar Poddar Month ago +12

    One of the finest TED talk ever. So inspiring! I'm blessed with such a wonderful lesson,which is completely life changing. Admiration for this gentleman from the core of my heart.

    • Dipankar Poddar
      Dipankar Poddar Month ago

      @Frederik Imbo Ohhhh my goodness! Sir, you are so generous and gentle. Thanks for your kind reply. It has filled my heart with joy. A big thanks to TED talk through which I was able interract with your thoughts.

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo Month ago

      Hello Dipankar!
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Chaw Htet Htet Soe
    Chaw Htet Htet Soe 4 months ago +45

    2022, I still listen your advice and trying to keep my mind not to take personally. Wish I can improve in this new year. 👏

    • Anish
      Anish 3 months ago

      @Imboorling Hello Sir, thanks for this I'll follow what you've taught.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +2

      Good luck!

  • Brian Tanner
    Brian Tanner Year ago +2511

    I cried when he said "No matter what people say, you will always keep you value." Hit me like a ton of bricks.

    • Chiefcomma Apps
      Chiefcomma Apps 5 months ago

      It is understandable when it is 100 eur crying but not 10 cents or so. You see my point?

    • hemant prasad
      hemant prasad Year ago +1

      Seeing your comment, i went through whole video to get this moment and thanks for that .. I didn’t cry honestly but this point is undoubtedly True☺️

    • Aura Zero
      Aura Zero Year ago

      me too :')

    • aub PH
      aub PH Year ago

      maybe you (positively) took it personally 👍

    • carine3652
      carine3652 Year ago +1

      @parvati rajeev people like to criticise because it helps them feel superior: they do it because they are themselves insecure.
      Science shows that indulgence and encouragements work way way better that criticism in the process of learning, so don't let others trample on you and spread the word. You should not suffer because of other's insecurities

  • Ethan Arnold
    Ethan Arnold 4 months ago +13

    Wow. What an incredible keynote. The perfect amount of enthusiasm and intention, clarity and confidence. The conclusion was touching and powerful. No wonder he does this for a living!

  • The Diopti Channel
    The Diopti Channel 3 months ago +10

    I take this personally by falling in love with his personality ❤️ this speech is a keeper, I'm sharing it to my loved ones right away ❤️ Thank you Frederik 🙏🏼

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago +4

      Hello!!!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Carolina Aranda
    Carolina Aranda 7 days ago

    Great lesson. Love it ☺️❤️

  • James Brooks
    James Brooks Month ago +3

    His method of delivery is one of the best I've witnessed especially on such a difficult topic. This desperately needs to be taught in schools.

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo Month ago +1

      Hello James!
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Pokie
    Pokie 9 months ago +2327

    He explained it to us like we are fifth graders and that’s exactly what I needed; a good break down and understanding of each part. This was beautiful

    • Rebecca Harding
      Rebecca Harding 4 months ago

      Tipping point

    • Bethany X
      Bethany X 5 months ago +2

      Exactly ! Sometimes people make it too complicated ! We need it in a simple form 🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • Logan Ruggles
      Logan Ruggles 5 months ago +2

      as einstein said, If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.

    • Kristen Treger
      Kristen Treger 5 months ago +3

      Exactly what I needed as well

    • LyonFan4
      LyonFan4 6 months ago +14

      IDK why people dont understand that breaking things down like that could be the best way...lets not take it personally its just someone wants you to understand in the most simplest and best way possible :)

  • Mir Galib
    Mir Galib 3 months ago +15

    This is an amazing talk, got to learn many things. The audiences could have been little more engaged. I am not taking it personally, i believe the audiences were busy in taking notes :)

    • Gabriel Ruz
      Gabriel Ruz Month ago +1

      They were listening how to learn this technique or taking notes. Great speaker

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago +1

      haha Mir Galib! Nice perspective!

  • Tewkesburybury
    Tewkesburybury 4 months ago +31

    I just went through similar issue of taking things personally
    And universe already started giving me signs by dropping this video

  • Vince Cordova
    Vince Cordova 4 months ago +8

    This is one of the best TED talks I have watched. I really want to apply these steps in my life for the betterment of myself which, will make a good impact on my family. Thank you Frederik Imbo!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +1

      Hello Vince!
      Thank you so much for your kind message and huuuuuuge compliment. Wow. I'm flattered. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Nancy S. Payne
    Nancy S. Payne 4 months ago +18

    Absolutely brilliant message and presentation. Thank you.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +1

      Hello Nancy,
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Ananya Akruwala
    Ananya Akruwala 5 months ago +2386

    The audience was seriously so unresponsive. I would be actively giving reactions to such a beautiful TED Talk. The man explained his points in such an easygoing and jovial manner. This was truly really amazing. 😊

    • Rizqi Bayumantari
      Rizqi Bayumantari 22 days ago

      It could be they're unresponsive because they're so serious digesting what Frederik said.

    • Braysmiles97 ._.
      Braysmiles97 ._. 28 days ago

      i honestly think this was covid times so there was no audience

    • Nick W
      Nick W Month ago

      Frederick didn’t take it personally though did he.

    • A E
      A E Month ago

      @Good It's been ages since 'guys' and 'actors' had begun to refer equally to women as to men.

    • A E
      A E Month ago

      @///Chris Correct!

  • BonBon S
    BonBon S Month ago +10

    I literally had this thought last week: do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Now here this is. And he explains so eloquently.

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo Month ago +1

      What a coincidence!

    • Juju Rellama
      Juju Rellama Month ago +1

      if you know for certain you are right, then there is no need to fill out a check list for someone,

  • Baqer Saad
    Baqer Saad Day ago

    That last move he did with the 20 euros kinda made me tear up.
    Great presentation thank you sir

  • Diana Popa
    Diana Popa 3 months ago +4

    Very useful and deep message. Maybe this type of education or advice could help teenagers, or kids to overcome frustration, grudge, avoid conflict etc. Sometimes conflict between two people is based only on conflict between their egoes. This could be prevented. Really wonderful advice is what mr. Frederick teaches us. Thank you!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago

      Hello Diana Popa!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • S  ♡
    S ♡ 8 days ago +1

    I've been going through hard time and my emotions are out of control about how other people perceive me but this made me think so much!! Thank youu for this outstanding speech. I made a note to remind myself.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 7 days ago

      Hi! Thank you for sharing this with us here. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Milka De La Cruz
    Milka De La Cruz Year ago +7753

    All the dislikes are from people who took this TED talk personally

  • kristy cuthberts
    kristy cuthberts 4 months ago +10

    Now I understand why some of my friendships suffered, and probably why I haven't been able to stay friends with anyone for very long. I'm the type who gets offended easily. Your lecture has opened my eyes, thank you!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +1

      Hello Kristy,
      Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end!
      I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Liset Cecilia Ibañez Lara

    This Ted talk must be taught at schools. At every single school in this world. The very first day. Then we'll see the world turning into a better place.

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 25 days ago +1

      Hello Liset,
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Lola Olusola
    Lola Olusola 14 days ago

    I am just 3 minutes into the video and I am already laughing so hard. I love the way he shares his story.

  • tebogo Motsuku
    tebogo Motsuku 24 days ago +2

    What a great speaker.Frederik u nailed it n simplied the emotions
    Thank u for this

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 22 days ago +1

      Hello Tebogo,
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Javohir Jonikulov
    Javohir Jonikulov 10 months ago +2952

    "People may attack you, criticize you or ignore you. They can crumple you up with their words, spit you out or even walk all over you. But remember: whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value. "

    • Dzz
      Dzz 3 months ago +1

      🇺🇿:)

    • Samantha Chimunda
      Samantha Chimunda 5 months ago

      Up

    • Carolyn Petritsch
      Carolyn Petritsch 5 months ago

      @Imboorling brilliant

    • Mo
      Mo 6 months ago +4

      @KibyNykraft Neither a plant, nor bug would have written this comment! If you believe your opening statement - then why did you write it? To feel connected, validated, valued?

  • Keyboard Warrior

    The best advice i can give on how not to take things personally is, know yourself and what is true about yourself.
    Not what you Believe about yourself, but what is actually true, be honest to yourself.
    This is not always an easy task and there are things about yourself that you will struggle to admit.
    Accept your Faults and the fact that no one is perfect.
    We are all an open book with pages continuously being added.
    Introspective is the most important way to really break free of the jail that is other peoples opinions on you.

  • aywancfc
    aywancfc 2 months ago +2

    I really related to this and found it helpful. All of the things he mentioned in examples…been there and done that! Totally going to try these two techniques out. With this talk I just realized by being vulnerable I’m actually being assertive..and so there is no need to get mad and become aggressive if the actual need for empathy is being met.

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 2 months ago

      Hello Aywancfc.
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Osvaldo Lopez
    Osvaldo Lopez 4 months ago +1

    Thank you for this great and educational Ted Talk! I really needed this whole concept (which I was struggling to understand), broken down into simpler terms. Cheers!!!!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +1

      Hello Osvaldo
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Rachel
    Rachel 3 months ago +8

    Great and inspiring. Loved this man's honesty, compassion and complexed approach.. very useful wonderful talk

    • Rachel
      Rachel 3 months ago +1

      @Imboorling I agree, and appreciate your phrase. I guess one of the main obstacles is the one in our mind, our negative thoughts that we keep producing, as you mentioned in the talk. I'm glad to take part in this , and hope to give my share for myself as well as for others. Good luck for us, my friend :)

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago

      @Rachel I think that the more we develop love and understanding with ourselves as well as for others, we create both a more harmonious life for ourselves and a better world for others. Good luck with contributing to this.

    • Rachel
      Rachel 3 months ago

      @Imboorling Thank you Frederik :) Indeed it is a big issue, and a wide subject for me as well, to put into practice. Definitely I will try. In your talk it seemed like each time you go through another layer and your progress is actually towards inside your self. I hope to achieve some progress on this as well, and to get mostly some freedom and relief. Thank you very much for your response, and kind words. And it opens the heart to see how you really care about this quality of living for all of us humans :)

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago +2

      Hello Rachel!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Rayfil Wong
    Rayfil Wong 2 years ago +3050

    These are lessons we need to learn in school. This would decrease fits, anxiety, and a lot more. 🥯

    • Karol Partridge
      Karol Partridge 4 months ago

      @Ana M. TAlk to the school boards; they set the curriculum.

    • Theo Duval
      Theo Duval Year ago

      But is school actually supposed to be helpful? You really believe that? Have you read ‘The Getting of Wisdom’?

    • Infi Nity
      Infi Nity Year ago

      Facts

    • Daily Rosary Prayer
      Daily Rosary Prayer Year ago

      Ikr

    • Mister Nobody
      Mister Nobody Year ago

      Learn that in what ? You mean the place they train you to be a good .
      Knowledge is power.
      Don't give out too much if you want to stay in power and you are a bad leader!

  • arsonchld
    arsonchld 29 days ago +3

    the end almost made me tear up! we often forget how valuable we still are despite being brought down by others. well spoken, Frederik!

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 25 days ago +1

      Hello Arsonchld,
      Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end!
      I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

    • Rob Tranzen
      Rob Tranzen 29 days ago

      Arsonchld. I dont hardly reply but this resonate truly. People dont learn to understand or are not self awareness of their ego and insecurities. If people learn to let their ego go. People be more open and respectful. This society will live more in harmony.

  • Helena Shimira
    Helena Shimira 4 months ago +4

    Wow, I did not realize how much I needed to hear this. I love the ending and the humour during the speech.

  • Williams Smith
    Williams Smith 2 months ago +38

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    • James Franklin
      James Franklin 2 months ago

      In a few years to come people will be kicking themselves in regret if they miss this opportunity of buying and investing in forex trading.

    • Anton Davidsen
      Anton Davidsen 2 months ago

      Mrs Charlotte Sae has really changed my financial status for the good. All thanks to my aunty who introduced me to her.

    • Mikaline Sagen
      Mikaline Sagen 2 months ago

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    • Joe Lurie
      Joe Lurie 2 months ago

      I've seen different recommendations about this Charlotte Sae, she must be very exceptional for people to talk this good about her.

  • Bourwong Nicharee
    Bourwong Nicharee 2 months ago +3

    I just worked as a call center and it's my first day today. I has been crying because people can be hard sometimes but after I watch this I feel relieved. your talk is the best!
    please take this personally !

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 2 months ago +1

      Hi Bourwong, Nicharee!
      I'm glad that watching my Tedx talk was helpful for you after your first day in that call center. How is it going right now?
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Jasmin J.
    Jasmin J. 9 months ago +1933

    "Do u want to be right or do u want to be happy?"
    Best sentence!!!

    • Satish A
      Satish A 4 months ago

      Impressive , I never looked at it that way before. Thanks

    • The Pudge
      The Pudge 4 months ago +2

      Honestly a tough decision, most people want to be right.

    • 1njtrooper
      1njtrooper 4 months ago +1

      Both….

    • brandi taylor
      brandi taylor 5 months ago

      i'm kinda embarrassed i know this, but dr. phil says that a lot.

    • WinniEd
      WinniEd 5 months ago

      @Imboorling Thank you for a motivating talk to take a closer look inside and find the reason for causes that prevent from happiness. Happy holidays!

  • Alma Gabriela
    Alma Gabriela 3 months ago +2

    An excellent message for all the people!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! God bless you!!!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago +2

      Hello Alma!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Eduardo Serrano-Torres Jr

    I keep rewinding this video! Your deliverance on this seriously needed concept was made easy for many to understand! I'm going to practice not blaming for my feelings being hurt, and use those moments to reflect on myself. It's crazy how people concentrate so much on a player's feelings, but forget a referee is carrying worlds on their shoulders. Lately I've been practicing this video's guidance before I watched this. This truly has reinforced my confidence to practice being mindful. As a veteran with some temper, this will help build my communication skills with my loved ones.

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo Month ago

      Hello Eduardo.
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you as a veteran.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Within Islight
    Within Islight 4 months ago +3

    Love this 💚 “no matter what people do or say, you will always keep your value.”

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago

      Hello!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Petualang Santuy
    Petualang Santuy 4 months ago +7

    I had a close friend who frequently did the opposite..for many times, he was definitely the one who made the mistakes, but he would always feel good. It's hard for him to admit his wrongdoings until he was cornered with logics and findings.. but then he was so confident not to say any apology.. he would say sorry at the end of the day but yeah not appropriately as seen from his light facial expression 😁

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago

      Hi! Thank you for sharing this. I hope that this friend now feels happier?

  • Mela Mar
    Mela Mar  3 months ago

    Watching this again one year later and I’m really grateful for this advice, I’m in a different stage of my life and ready to put it more in practice, thank you

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago

      Whoohoo Mela Mar! Nice to read this. Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Sara Anna-Maria
    Sara Anna-Maria 4 months ago +2

    Such a great talk! Thank you, Frederik!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago

      Hello Sara Anne-Maria!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Leele
    Leele 4 months ago +4

    Whatever people do or say, you will always keep your value.
    Thank you sir,

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago

      Good summary Leele! Thank you!

  • SEARCH BOLTEXCHANGEHACKDOTCOM

    Thank you for being there👌👌 when I wanted you ton..... I was lost in this new world that I was hassled to start with ....you not only guided me along the way but you also showed me the proper way....whatever little I have been able to achieve in life is because of you today ..... I want to thank you for being there and showing me the proper way of doing thing for me you are my best guide as you truly showed me the way to life....once again , I would like to tell you a heartfelt thanks for being
    there🙏🙏

  • Janine Armer
    Janine Armer 3 months ago +1

    I just love this presentation.
    It's just the right mix of enthusiasm and psychology into the minds of people and their social interactions. I definitely do my best to use the advice in this presentation, and it has helped immensely - I don't feel so wound up or stressed out anymore.
    I also shared this presentation with my college professor and classmates for an assignment because sometimes I feel that as a young Millennial (and my fellow younger generations), we need this kind of guidance to practice harmonious person-to-person interaction instead of having lessons and drama beaten over our heads.
    1000/10 the best wisdom I've taken to heart! :)

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago +1

      Hello Janine!
      Thank you so much for your kind message and huuuuuge compliment. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Gaye Akyol
    Gaye Akyol 2 months ago +3

    I was always seeing this video on TheXvid but never had the courage to open it. Now, here I am, and just wow... During the talk couldn't help but get emotional sometimes, it was amazing. Thank you for this amazing speech...

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 2 months ago

      Hello Gaye Akyol!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Nyx
    Nyx 10 days ago

    I loved listening to this presentation! Well done 👏 👏 👏

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 7 days ago

      Hello Nyx,
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Regina Gray
    Regina Gray 4 months ago

    Thank you for your uplifting message. I will take it personally!

  • SOA Gurkha
    SOA Gurkha Year ago +9733

    “People may attack you, criticise you, or ignore you. They can crumple you up with their words, spit you out, or even walk all over you. But remember, whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value.”

    • Charmie Arianne Dumago
      Charmie Arianne Dumago 10 months ago

      Thank you for this. Searched for Ted talks like this and it came at a really appropriate time. It's terribly hard not taking workplace scenarios seriously. I have a long way to go to understand and embrace this.

    • money is everything bitch!
      money is everything bitch! 10 months ago

      :)

    • Richard Jeffrey
      Richard Jeffrey 11 months ago

      Despite the hardship and Corona virus, I still make profit. Investment in Btc is always forward.

    • Ивайло Качаков
      Ивайло Качаков Year ago

      @Imboorling Yes, I agree with you it might not be natural to say that in the middle of your presentation although it is doable but after all this is your presentation. I was actually refering to the comments here where you say "Thank you for quoting me" where it would have been more appropriate to say who inspired you to those words. Anyway, don't take it personal I tried to give you constructive critisism.

  • Victoria Rccnvhv
    Victoria Rccnvhv 4 months ago

    That's incredible! Love all his advice

  • Shivani Giri
    Shivani Giri 4 months ago +1

    great speech. loved how he included personal experiences and shared vulnerable thoughts in order for the viewers to relate more and it worked.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +1

      Hello Shivani Giri,
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Elegant Erkèl
    Elegant Erkèl 4 months ago

    This was amazing. Great presentation my man!

  • Winnie Au
    Winnie Au 2 months ago

    Thank you so much. I have saved your Ted talk so I can keep listening and remember your advices. I have been struggling with overthinking and taking everything so personally throughout my life.I hope this can save me and set me free from my worries and can live happier.🙏🏻

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 2 months ago

      Hello Winnie!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • cra foreal
    cra foreal Year ago +1064

    This man needs more credit for how enthusiastic he's being during this whole thing, Good job.. Good job indeed...

    • Saif Alikhan2188
      Saif Alikhan2188 Year ago

      I like your pfp bro.

    • Francesca Vignola
      Francesca Vignola Year ago

      @Shannon McCarthy l

    • Vaibhav Patil
      Vaibhav Patil Year ago

      @Imboorling momos

    • Quarantined Teen
      Quarantined Teen Year ago +2

      @CringeWorthyBears they blocked out the noise from the crowd so we could hear him clearly.

    • Shannon McCarthy
      Shannon McCarthy Year ago

      he's clearly talented in expression, would be a star in entertainment. I'd see his acts, if he ever tried it out.

  • benika w
    benika w 6 days ago

    Loved this message!!!!

  • Eileen milton
    Eileen milton 4 months ago +1

    What a strong positive message. Im going to try very hard to apply. Thank you

  • Kateryna Heinig
    Kateryna Heinig 3 months ago +3

    Such a great speech! Amazing! Thank you!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago

      Hello Kateryna!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Leesa B
    Leesa B 4 months ago +2

    I take things very personally and if someone has sent this to me I would have lol. So glad I stumbled upon this. Anytime my best friend says “don’t take it personal” I automatically take it personal. You saying we have to look at their intentions made a light bulb pop on because they also say it isn’t their intention to make me feel bad. Thank you so much for speaking on this topic.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 4 months ago +1

      Hello Leesa,
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Official Chari
    Official Chari Year ago +1883

    "Whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value." Words for the wise.

    • Yamile Magubeni
      Yamile Magubeni 11 months ago +1

      💚

    • Alexey Bashmakov
      Alexey Bashmakov 11 months ago +1

      @Tony Perkins up kilojoules ok I o u

    • edo edo
      edo edo Year ago

      @Jessica Warrior yes...sticking to your value can make you not listen and think about another point of view.... Like in Israel/Palestine...

    • Shubham
      Shubham Year ago +3

      "remember, switching to your pistol is faster than reloading" -Mahata Gandhi

    • Official Chari
      Official Chari Year ago +5

      @Sala Banka comfort is positive following extended periods of hard work. To become successful means fully mastering the art of relaxation, so you can get back up and go even harder than before. Try It!

  • eva pchoperena
    eva pchoperena 15 days ago +2

    Amazing! At the end, with your last statement, I stood up and applauded. I absolutely agree.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 7 days ago

      Hello Eva!
      Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end!
      I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Darcee McJannet
    Darcee McJannet 2 months ago

    Bob will forever be remembered as one of the greatest iconic legends & fathers of the personal development industry. May your life of significance & legacy of inspirational teachings & wisdom continue to impact future generations.
    Bob has deeply influenced us contemporary thought leaders & next generation of torchbearers.
    An incredible extraordinary big hearted, direct, & wise man. He was a self-taught winner in life & business. Bob embodies the true definition of a life-long learner & great Canadian success story. His life’s work was unlocking the limits of possibilities, mastering the principles of excellence & success in creating abundant mindsets. The law of attraction will continue to drive people to your work online, through the movie the secret & other teachings. That is a life of purpose & true impact from a great transformational leader. We love & respect you Bob, your spirit & energy will live on.

  • Lena L
    Lena L 3 days ago

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us!!

  • Nathaniel Law
    Nathaniel Law 2 days ago

    This was excellent and I needed to hear this really badly

  • Fernando Theodoro
    Fernando Theodoro Year ago +2751

    Summary:
    1. It is _not_ about me.
    - Look at the other person's intention.
    2. It is about me.
    - Give yourself empathy. Speak up.
    3. People may attack you, criticise you, or ignore you. They can crumple you up with their words, spit you out, or even walk all over you. But remember, whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value.

    • guru balan
      guru balan 11 months ago

      Thank you sir

    • Ramesh Gugyal
      Ramesh Gugyal 11 months ago

      Thank you

    • D
      D Year ago

      Thank you

    • the sparks
      the sparks Year ago

      ❤❤❤❤

    • z
      z Year ago

      That saved my time. Thanks bloke!!!

  • Mirsad Zoronjic
    Mirsad Zoronjic 4 months ago

    This video is so powerful,so happy I get a chance to watch.Thank you Mr. Frederick

  • Maria Rincon
    Maria Rincon 2 days ago

    i discovered this when i needed to hear it the most, thank you Frederik!

  • John Cays
    John Cays 3 months ago

    Excellent message, expertly and authentically presented. Thank you for your brave vulnerability and joyful and generous spirit in sharing this.

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago

      Hello John,
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • NadiaF1983
    NadiaF1983 23 days ago +1

    Amazing presentation! Great tools provided! Thank you!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo 22 days ago

      Hello Nadia!
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • JA Hill
    JA Hill Year ago +1647

    "People may attack you, criticise you, or ignore you. They can crumple you up with their words, spit you out, or even walk all over you, but remember, whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value." 😊 This made me cry. THANK YOU!

    • Dave Jones
      Dave Jones 11 months ago

      Good luck with that. If you’re willing to allow yourself to be someone’s door mat then you have no value to yourself or anyone else.

    • Sirish Nair
      Sirish Nair Year ago +1

      Me too ...

    • Sinin Sinoch
      Sinin Sinoch Year ago +1

      I’m inspired by your words now. Thank you so much 😊

    • MCC_ CHOMPERS
      MCC_ CHOMPERS Year ago +1

      @Imboorling nice ted talk

    • Max Hope
      Max Hope Year ago +1

      @Ashish Mahajan feel the same

  • B3ks
    B3ks 3 months ago +8

    Maintaining that level of energy without having an answer is really impressive

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago +1

      Thank you for your empathy Alberto!

  • Alina Brown
    Alina Brown Month ago +1

    Frederik, you have delivered your message in such a brilliantly simple manner and such a brilliant message. Very good TEDx Talks, actually one of the best. Great points on self reflection, empathy of yourself and others and most importantly...value of yourself! 10/10

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo Month ago

      Hello Alina,
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • plug12and3
    plug12and3 3 months ago +3

    Fabulously refreshing, something I've wanted to hear said out loud. I think this advice I will rewatch to remind myself alot going forward. Thank you!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 3 months ago

      Hello!
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Sharline hernandez
    Sharline hernandez 2 months ago +4

    Currently watching this before facing my last day (at least last day we work a same shift/day) at my current job with my manager who I can’t stand. 👍🏻 Hopefully I can apply this successfully !!

    • Imboorling
      Imboorling 2 months ago

      Hello Sharline,
      Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. Hopefully your last day went well and you'll quickly a find a nicer job with a manager with whom you get along better.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • Vladlena Dryagina
    Vladlena Dryagina Month ago

    It’s the best video Ive watched recently . Bravo ! Always keep your value 💯

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo Month ago

      Hello Vladlena!
      Thank you for both watching my Tedx talk and sending me this kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you.
      I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you!
      Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others.
      From the bottom of my heart,
      Frederik Imbo

  • LEADERSHIP HUB
    LEADERSHIP HUB Month ago

    This is so powerful. Thank you 💕

    • Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo Month ago

      Hi
      How nice to get such a gentle response on my TEDx talk.
      thanks for watching.